Five Steps to Get Over The Narcissist

           It is not easy being human and emotions makes life even more complex. You sometimes hope that you could simply turn off how you are feeling. Enjoy the numbness, not being attracted to the narcissist anymore. You and I both know that why it is difficult to get over the narcissist is partly because one is still infatuated with him and wants him back! 

      You will not  get over the narcissist in one day! But you do have to start somewhere. You have to make a conscious decision to end your obsession with the narcissist for your betterment. Using the power of autosuggestion. You will command your mind to to be rid of the narcissist by encouraging thoughts of positivity an love. You have to get the fantasy thoughts that you entertain of the narcissist out of your head. The change first begins with your mind hence you can get over the narcissist only if you want to. 

   Make a conscious effort to end the relationship by removing every opportunity, gadget or individual that will remind you of the narcissist and drench up emotions. Which includes deleting his number and blocking his face book page. You must create an environment that is narcissist free so that you can effectively move on with your life. 

                            Accept life for what it is and that your narcissist is who he is! He does not love you, he does not like you. He never did and he probably never will. Your never going to get from him what you want simply because he is not willing to give of anyone but himself. You cant win with the narcissist! Its a losing battle you are fighting! Burn your bridges and Burn them now! 

         He is a waste of time and you are wasting your life.  You are missing out on greater realms of relational experiences if you dwell in this non relationship. If you are in a relationship by yourself then isn’t it way better you be alone. Why stay in a one sided union that depletes you of all your energy and never replenish or return your affection. 

       You must learn to love yourself first before you can love anyone else!   It is because you do not love yourself why you are still in love with this man. You love someone who loves himself and cannot love you. You must develop self respect and self preservation through engaging in processes that will fuel this change. Spring is here now! Get up Get out! Meet new people! Exercise, Read, get a job or enroll in a new academic programme. 

 Since he does not like you the way you are then maybe, just maybe…wishful thinking he might come back to you if he saw some improvements.