Emotional Sluttiness: How to Ensure He Won’t Call Again

Emotional sluttiness: the equivalent to word vomit on a date. So what is the big deal you may ask; I want him to know who I am and what I want and vias versa. Well, there are several components to answer this question. Of course first dates are the introductory dates- it’s when you get to know a little about someone and make that ultimate decision- do I like them?

There is a difference between conversing with someone and exposing everything there is to know about you. And whether it’s nerves or just habit women often do this. What fun is it, if by the second date there is nothing left to talk about? We all know about the thrill of the chase. It’s primal. So, if a man knows everything from every guy you’ve ever dated to how many socks you have-where is the mystery?

The never ending introductory is a turn off for both men and women. To me, if a man talks the entire time we are on a date  about himself, it can come across as arrogance, conceit, and unintrest as to who I am. It can closely resemble the Energizer Bunny, it just keeps going, and going, and going.

And as much as I would like to be, I am not immune. There once was a guy that I was just head over heels over, that I will call Joe, and me and Joe were out and I was just so nervous. So nervous in fact that I could not shut up. Believe me, I could hear myself and how annoying I was sounding, and seeing how he was feeling about all this-but for the life of me could not shut my mouth! He was a gentleman of course but we never moved beyond friendship and I sometimes wonder if that annoying emotional sluttiness and word vomit did it.

Listening is key, and even attractive. It is far more better to find the strength and shut up and listen than to be the Energizer Bunny. After all, you just met this person-they’re not your psychologist or life long friend that it is okay to disclose such personal information to. First dates should be fun not like selling a car. I guess it kind of is, but not the way a car salesman does it. You know, the pushy ,”and here is a vintage model, with miles and miles of baggage,”etc. The overpowerment of your words can undermine all of the unspeakable beauty you possess. And so, moderate the give and take-leave balance and as always leave them wanting more.