Does Getting Pregnant Make a Relationship More Secure!

June 9, 2011 by CRYSTAL EVANS  
Published in Dating

What will hold a Jamaican man in these times is a woman who leads an independent life. A woman who is ambitious and making her own money. Men fancy women who are progressive and can bring something substantial to the table. You wont get much attention or laurels from a man if you have a track record of getting pregnant as a man pulls down his pants.

            Some women think that they can trap a man into a relationship or make their fragile concubinage secure by having a baby. They think that their insecurities will be assuaged if they have a child for the man does  presenting a situation that he will be less inclined to leave or so they think! Many Jamaican women can attest to the notion that this strategy does not work because “baby cannot hold man”!

         During the initial stages of a relationship, people have fun dating and exploring their new partner. The relationship however reaches a plateau when both partners feel they know sufficient about each other and a decision is to be made about where the relationship goes from here. Most women will pick up on the plateau before her male partner and insecurities will begin to arise. Most women attempt to dissolve their insecurities by getting pregnant in order to cement the relationship. They believe that a baby will solidify the relationship and maintain an eternal bond or relations with the man.

         In many cases the reverse happens, the man feels trapped, is onerous to responsibilities and flees the relationship because he was not ready to settle down or have a baby. He was enjoying himself with the woman. Dating is meant for getting to know each other and not for having babies. In a culture where men women often bear the brunt of social sanctioning if they get pregnant, men have been bred and embraced the irresponsible patterns of their fathers and espouse that women are solely responsible for preventing procreation since they are the ones who will be left with the baggage.

       What will hold a Jamaican man in these times is a woman who leads an independent life. A woman who is ambitious and making her own money. Men fancy women who are progressive and can bring something substantial to the table. You wont get much attention or laurels from a man if you  have a track record of getting pregnant as a man pulls down his pants.

       Let the man tell you that he is ready for a child before you decide to spring an unplanned pregnancy on him. Did you know that when  you trap a man into a relationship, he grows to resent you and will leave you eventually, even if he stays, he will undoubtedly cheat on you. If you have to scheme,plot and trick a man to stay with you then it means that you have bigger problems in your relationship that you need to sort out.  Bringing a baby into the picture will only complicate the situation and steer your relationship or lack of down the road of disintegration.

     If you are dating, simply date. Do not try to complicate the relationship? Have some fun! You are simply checking out your options. You do not want to be straddled down with an infant! If you get pregnant for a man who is not ready to leave the streets then you will be tied down with a baby while he carouses and party with a more fun chick than his baby mother.

          

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2 Responses to “Does Getting Pregnant Make a Relationship More Secure!”
  1. LoveDoctor Says:

    Another one of your good post. A must read for everyone including men who want to have sex with as many women they want without the responsibilities

  2. Likha Says:

    The ability to hold your own is a must for women. Having a baby at the wrong time, at the wrong place with the wrong man is a disaster.


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