Dating – Phase One: Friendship First
You are on a date with a very attractive individual, you appear to be having such a good time. He walks you to your door and you tell him that you had a nice time. Being polite, he says “so did I,” You’re assuming that the date went extremely well as you wait for him to seal the deal with a kiss, instead, he shakes your hand and say “I’ll call you.” At this point, you don’t know what just happened. You are left with a puzzled look on your face and proceed to enter your domicile and call it a night. What did happen, how could a somewhat decent night end up with no follow through. Well my friend, welcome to the wonderful world of dating, the art of hit & miss. Dating can become uncertain, however; there are some rules that can be applied that will enable you to receive a second first date and I will enlighten you on a few things that will ensure you get another date with the same man.
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Rule #1: Take your time- If you happen to meet someone, say for instance at a gym,
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grocery store or out and about conducting your daily routine. The most important thing is to take your time. You’ve seen movies where a nice young gentleman will ask you out on a date right on the spot and some vulnerable vixen, says “ok,” I would love to go out with you.” This is the first mistake, you should never appear as if you have nothing else better to do. Your speedy response could be an indication that you do not have any other offers and you should always let that person know that you have a very busy social life and that you would have to make arrangements before you agree to go out with them. If you show yourself as being too available, then you have already lost their interest. You should give him your number or a business card and have him to call you first.
Rule #2: Never accept the first offer to date the person. You should always show them that you have prior engagements that cannot be broken, this act will peak their curiosity. If you are appear to be a social butterfly, the pursuer will not have a problem standing in line for your time.
Rule #3: Establish a communicative relationship with the pursuer. Take the time to communicate with the him/her. This will allow you to determine if the person is worth your time to date them. Instead of rushing merely for the sake of having a date for Saturday night, you should try to get to know the person through casual conversation first. I recommend that you at least talk to him/her for a month or so, or a minimum of two weeks. At this time you would already establish if you like the person or not or if you want to go through with the date. 
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Rule #4: Never call him/her every day. Sometimes we find certain people so intriguing that we could talk to them for hours. This is a huge mistake. You must let the other party know that you are not waiting by the phone to receive his/her call. Show them that you do have a life and that you will call him/her when you feel like talking to him/her. You have to show them that you will not let them invade your life or personal space, show them that they must be invited. For example; if you speak to the pursuer one day, then wait at least two or three days before you speak to them again. This is where you prove that you have a hectic schedule.
Rule #5: Plan initial meeting- At this stage, you should already have established his/her likes and dislikes, and have a general sense of who they are and what their hobbies are. Therefore, it is time to prepare an initial meeting. You should meet in a public location, perhaps a coffee shop, a park, etc.. The first date should be casual, because at this point you should work towards developing a friendship first. People tend to get caught up in the idea of romance so much that their expectations are somewhat shattered as a result of falling for someone too fast. Your main objective is to get to know someone who shares your common interests. You should never focus on if he/she is someone you could see yourself walking down the aisle with. Let’s keep it neutral. A casual meeting will open the door for a long-lasting friendship with the possibility of a relationship.
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