Dating and Using The Internet: What is Different Today for The 40 or Older?

There are so many dating sites from free like OK cupid.com, Date hook up.com, Single net.com to My yearbook.com and the Tagged.com  another big site Plenty of fish.com  ( when I say free I mean you can e-mail back forth and chat on forums etc…) (Note: on these sites you will fined people who are married looking for something on side, or people just looking for 1 night stand so do your homework and there are people who say they are from your home town and are from Nigeria or Africa looking for money they come on to you really sweet and nice and get you hooked and then ask you for money: these people are from any race or nationality)

There are other sites that are not free like Christen.com, BigChurch.com, E-Harmony.com and Chemistry.com, and how can we forget Match.com

(Note: downside to “paying sites”is they match you up with people across the states like Utah and you live Penna… I know my budget does not allow for traveling by plane or train… it may work for some who have that cash but for most people we do not have that cash lining around even at the age 40 years old or more plus I have heard some of these sites if you are done and do not want to pay anymore make it really hard to get them cancel so they do not keep taking money out of your bank account etc… this is a read flag for me )

I feel the free sites do just as good as the ones we have to pay for. The payments are usually $100.00 per year or you do monthly payment by debit card for like $10.00 per month.

I have met many nice people on these sites but I am still not in a relationship. Everyone is saying it is numbers game but still it is awkward at times and sometimes even boring to really not a very go meeting at all. I am learning to relax more but I fined myself taking a break from it all after about 6 months of doing this. I usually had a meet and greet for at least one day out the weekend.

They say we should fined our partners through friends ( what happens when you do not have friends) because of the work schedule we keep: or for others types: people working night shift who to people who work in corporate setting 60 to 70 hours a week, people who work two jobs…. there is not  a lot hours in day or week even.

The other part for some us is that what happen if you do not drink or smoke…. there are so many men or women they either are light drinker or casual or if they do not drink they smoke. I personally do not want someone who does either so that drops my pool choices down even more.

Another issue at the age of 40 if get into a dating a someone younger like 5 years they still may want to have children or older are willing do intovertro etc… and you do not want anymore children etc…

On a plus side there are many people I am finding do fined there love of there life on these sites but for me I am not sure it is working or will work. I think in my opinion the average is maybe 5% to 10%  compared to the amount people logged in some sites say over millions of people.

People even  after they fined there one still leave there profile up and majority of the reason is they have friends on this site etc… ( I wish they use there own private e-mail to talk to these people) it makes it harder for people to fined the ones who are dating etc… looking for relationship… but who am I to say…

There are some people who are on these sites for years hoping to fined there true love… I wish them all the luck in finding there person they do deserve it and that they have not given up hope.

Where else can we find good pools of people at our age? Maybe it is football games, sports areas, museums, our kids and there activities etc… church, bingo night, long walks along the parks where so many congregate over the weekend etc… for jogging or biking or hiking.

Are we meeting at Meet Up websites online?

For people who do not drink and people who are not into the bar scene where do they go?

All food for thought as I go about my travels or this journey called life… sure wish I could share it with someone. On ward and up ward as they say…but I need a view along the way!

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