Abuse

It is my understanding that some women think/believe that it is ok for a man to treat her wrong, or talk to her in a negative manner. Why? Where does this kind of thinking come from? Well, there are many things that lead to women thinking in this fashion. I never understood it, until I went through it personally. I had always had very successful, loving relationships, until last year when I got with a man that was sexy, sweet, romantic, and loving. I thought the world of this man, and then it happened. He came home with beer, and I saw a side of him, that I would have never believed existed if I hadnt seen it with my own eyes. He began drinking, and talking to me in a negative manner, calling me derogatory names, and it only got worse from there.

Once he felt comfortable in the relationship, he began accusing me of cheating, going behind his back to do things, and keeping things from him. And the entire time I Truely belived that the way he was behaving and acting was my fault. And thats exactly how he wanted me to feel, and he did his best to keep it that way. Men like this enjoy power over a woman, they enjoy control, and they enjoy making you feel miserable, believing you are in fact the reason for his behavoir. It took me a long time to realize that this isnt true. I was not doing anything wrong, I was trying my best to save our relationship, and He was the one abusing his power as a man. Women do not need to fall into this kind of trap with a man.

If your man starts showing signs of aggressiveness, control, deragotory words spoken towards you, severe jealousy to the point you cant walk out the front door without angering him, or possesiveness, you need to get out of that situation as quickly as possible, because it only gets worse, and men like this will do everything in their power to make you feel bad, and make you feel like you are the one angering him, and making you feel at fault, when the truth is it isnt you at all, but him.So women please, dont get caught up like i did thinking its your fault, or he’ll change, because the truth is he wont, his behavoir will only get worse, the longer you allow him to have this kind of control, the worse it will be.