13 Signs He’s Cheating on You

A woman doesn’t know, but she feels! That’s what the urban myth say about cheated women’s intuition. However, anybody can find out if their partner is having an affair if they pay attention to some of the unfaithfulness signs.

Do you think your partner is having an affair? Don’t panic and don’t try to find out the truth asking him. Instead, start by analyzing his actions. If you get upset and make a scene, you’ll get nowhere, but if you find some good proofs it’ll be impossible for him to deny the truth.

The psychology teacher Marcella Bakur from the Marymount College of Manhattan established some basic signs that show you the unfaithfulness degree of men. I’ve wrote down thirteen most important ones:

1. Your partner is very nice to you all of a sudden, moreover he’s bringing you flowers and presents. It might look as merely expressing his feelings, but it’s possible that he’s trying to apologize in some way. He might feel guilty about having an affair and he tries to comfort you somehow. Try to talk to him and find out why he became so responsive all of a sudden.

2. Every time you argue with him on something, he threatens to end the relationship or  at least mentions about it. Something like this: “What would you do if our relationship ends?” or “If we were to break up, I’d continue caring about you, would you do the same for me?”. These are obvious examples that he’s thinking about it already. The more he says these types of sentences the more possibilities for him to be cheating on you already.

3. His behavior becomes erratic. He was sad a minute ago but now he’s happy. Moreover, he seems sadder when you join him. The cheating fellows have a major problem, which is the capacity to maintain stability in both relationships. Most of the times, they transfer the stress from one relationship to the other one.  

 4. Your boyfriend/husband is so distant that you don’t even look like a couple anymore. He doesn’t talk to you, you don’t make any plans together and you hardly know about his work achievements or his friends. The best way is to have a serious talk so you can find out what’s going on. He might have a hard period at work or he might have fun with another woman.

5. All of a sudden, his tastes and preferences have changed. He was wearing jeans and T-shirts all the time and now he’s always dressed in black suit. Moreover, he was a devoted rocker and now he listens to pop music. There is a chance that he’s changed but there are other chances that he’s trying to impress someone. Pay attention to details.

6. For some time past, your partner is criticizing a woman from your surroundings, and some times he does it so fiercely that seems abusive. You could swear he wouldn’t even think to have a relationship with that woman but in fact it’s very possible that he’s already trying to be with her or even tried and got rejected.  

7. Lately, your partner became very sensitive about your comments. He makes harsh reproaches to you all the time and he remembers things you annoyed him with two years ago. All these might be just a cover for him and the proof that he’s trying to find reasons to break up with you.

8. He’s closing the door when you’re around even if before he was leaving it wide open. For instance the office door, lovers leave their office doors opened when working at home especially if they don’t have kids. But if he’s having an affair he needs to create his own private space where he can dedicate to the new relationship.

9. Every nice thing you do to him is been received with a guilt feeling: “But why? I don’t deserve this” or “I don’t deserve you”. These are common phrases for cheating people. If you’re nice to him he’ll feel guilty because in his mind you should be that awful person that forced him to start another relationship.

10. Your partner wants to spend more time with his friends and less with you. You’re not even invited to join? That should tell you something. You should ask his friends if they have really met him in the weekend as he said… you might be surprised.

11. Your common interests are now been separated into his interests and your interests. The projects you were working together become his projects only, or he abandoned them. Either way this lack of interest in you should raise some questions. Be confident in your own strengths and ask him for explanations. Such attitude is unacceptable in a relationship.

12. Sex life has turned into a boring routine. It’s like a 15 minutes ritual that you practice every even days. Try to vary the sexual act and if it doesn’t work try to speak with him. It might be medical or a mental disorder but the same way it could be the chronic disease called unfaithfulness. 

13. Your partner looks more and more tired, he sleeps too less, he’s got nightmares and even talks in his sleep. It could be from the high appetite of his new girlfriend. Try to find out what’s the background of the events before getting hurt.