10 Ways to Know Your Man is Cheating on You

December 11, 2007 by leno  
Published in Dating

Everyone desires a faithful partner. This is always not attainable. Here are how to know if your man is scoring low on fidelity.

Relationships are truly remarkable and enjoyable when both parties involved are committed and faithful to each other. It could then be a source of joy and a bond not easily broken is usually formed as the relationship is based solely on absolute trust for each other. Although most of us desire absolute faithfulness from our sweethearts, the reverse often is the case. How would you know your partner is cheating on you? Find out 10 ways to know your man is cheating on you.

Frequent quarrels

Every relationship has ups and downs. Since you are two different people from two different backgrounds sometimes there are bound to be quarrels however, if your man constantly quarrels over every flimsy thing, always making a mountain over a mole hill then, there is trouble you should do your homework

Sudden late nights

Keeping late nights once in a while might be no cause for alarm but if he suddenly develops the habit of keeping late nights, sometimes under the pretence of seeing a particular friend, friends or even family members, something he doesn’t do before then something fishy going on.

Sudden work over time

Working overtime is necessary sometimes for a couple of reasons. True as this may seem it is important to note that the number one excuse an unfaithful mate gives for keeping late nights or for not coming home at all is “I was working late”, therefore, if he habitually does the things mentioned above because he is working late, girl keep your antennae working.

Frequent threats of seeing other girls

If for every little quarrel he threatens to start seeing other girls this might be not just a threat but a true confession in disguise.

Excessive mood swings

Does your man’s mood change easily, surprising gets angry at any little thing you say, always insinuating that your words are either stupid or senseless? This is a sign trust me I know.

Public insults

Since we are not perfect once in a while it is possible to make embarrassing remarks but if your man constantly insults or belittle you in front of others especially at public functions or other social gatherings then girl wake up.

Physical abuse

If your man starts to abuse you physically especially after you accused him of cheating on you then it just might be true.

Frequent verbal abuse

There in no relationship that is completely rosy. At those bumpy times, it is not unusual for one or both parties to use harsh words on each other however, if your man turns this into a way of life deriving joy in verbally abusing you on regular basis then this is a good sign that he is seeing someone else.

Financial negligence

Your man may not be financially buoyant all the time. He could be working on a particular project and this could affect his cash flow. This is understandable but if your man starts giving you excuses all the time when it come to spending money on you, there is a big chance he is spending it on another woman. If this trend continues then open your eyes and see the hand writing on the wall.

If he calls you another name

Most men at one point or the other would give themselves away. Has your man called you another woman’s name and started giving questionable reasons why he did so? Has he done this once, twice, or many times? Then your man definitely is cheating on you.

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  1. Bored Says:

    men are all cheats, hate men

  2. zara Says:

    Men don’t desrve a good woman! Men are weak, sad, and low creatures! Woman are better of without them. Hate weak men , hate them all!

  3. Howard Says:

    dear Zara

    u sound pained. U hate weak men or u hate all men? all men don’t deserve a good woman? who defines a good woman? you, women, or ur man? wow very nice article. facinating read for a man like myself. but no woman with me need read this. If am cheating on u, u wont know unless i want u to. if am fed up with u, i simply tell ya. much more simple

  4. bigMale Says:

    men are cheats i agree. am a man and a cheat. not really our fault i believe its in out genes. you cab only be good to keep us from straying too long or too far. how can u expect us to control ourself when dresses are getting skimpier and girls cheaper!

    don’t hate d playa, hate d game

  5. Wiser girls Says:

    i love men, yes they are cheats but who aint. You should write an article on how to tame your cheating man. it can be done cos i have done it.

  6. christine Says:

    huh..i think all men are cheaters..BUT they are good in hiding it to their partner..all of them are all inborn to womanizing…admit it guys…!!!!dont lie..all my bf do that!!!

  7. gwendie Says:

    I think when a man is cheating he thanks he can hide it but he can’t becase they tell on their self by just the way thay act. All men are loosers. My marrige is on it’s rocks can’t find out if he is really cheating on me…….

  8. wudnt u like 2 no Says:

    well i fink at da end of da day every1 cheats at sum point or another it just means ur not in2 ur partner as much as u 4t or ur feeling lonely and you will neva no if some1 is cheating untill you have hard evidence so stop been paranoid bcos the truth always comes out eventully untill then please ya partner better or dnt cheat ya self

  9. k Says:

    I’m very sad..he looks at me different…he speaks to me different and tells he is a private person and that I am beginning to nag. I have asked repeatedly to see him he gave me not answer.. I kept asking and I am now nagging…..I refused to be label a nagging person..it’s insulting,,

  10. susan Says:

    I know he is cheating but he cuts me down before I can properly accuse him..I hate him for this..

  11. confused ! Says:

    i dont know if my man is cheating?? but iam hurting in the long run i cant let him go. its too pain full because i dont know for sure if he is. i have asked him and he swore on his familys life hes never.not all men are cheaters i think i have to build up trust because its not just this bf i cant trust its any bf ive ever had and dont know how to trust !!! some 1 help me on this one please x x x x

  12. kerri Says:

    one night my boyfriend was at a party and i called him up to go down to party to join and my boyfriend and this girl keep looking at each other and i dont know if they cheated before i got there but we had a big argument over this and he promised nuffin happend but i cant move on i keep thinking iam seeing this girl every where cant get her out my head and i am shaking every time i think of that night i think it is driving me to a mental home what should i do ? i dont wanty leave him i love him

  13. fozia Says:

    im in a relationship to and im begin to see early signs of dishonesty i avnt bn wiv him long but ive had enf experience to tel if a guys cheating and he says he loves me bubt refuses to loose contct wiv gals that wil lead him astray he i sn his facebook coments n lot of flirtin n now hes taken me off his facebook pro cos he nos am jelous n he has over 3oo gals in his facebook pro n jus 1 guy now dat says it all n e stil adds mre men men men just arhhh drive u all mad cos deyve got to many desires n ones neva enuf

  14. Emma Says:

    Well gee i dont know if my partner has or is cheating but he has all the signs but 1 and he doent hit me my latest abuse was him calling me a f%#khead and a C%#t and i was ugly and this morning i got up and he was on the lougne and he was getting msgs all morning and 1 was from an ex girlfriend that we seen @ the pub 1 night and now he has her number and he said they were only talking but i could be reading to far into it coz he doesnt hind msgs or anything but i just cant understand y he got her number….? coz the msg she sent him this morning i looked @ was blak i dont know wat to do…….

  15. Tee Says:

    Welll…..

    my man and I have been together since 2002. and he does NONE of the above.
    we have our Frequent quarrels now n then but nothing too big jus simple arguments.
    and he is attentive, caring, protecting and doesnt ever call me names, calls me his wife, im the mother of his 3 yrs daughter.
    but yet at the same time he cheats on me sometimes.

  16. Leno Says:

    wow

    i come back here and see all this comments. guys can u feel the pain in the comments of some of this women? well am a guy and was a big time cheat, a player by all defination. you know what made me stop? my girl (soon to be my wife) cheated on her when we started but she made it plain she was a one woman one man kinda girl. she also made it very plain that she would leave if she ever found me cheating.

    now i do love this girl and so i had to be very ingenious when seeing others, but becos i believed she would leave me if she found me out i gradually stopped and have stuck to only her for 4 years now.

    ladies i might not be the best to advise on this but,
    yes men do cheat,
    yes they can stop
    you need to talk frankly with him
    you also need to convince him that you wou would leave if you catch him
    if he loves u, no woman wont be worth that risk
    but lemme also add, if u aint sure and you want your relationship to work, give him the benefit of doubt and trust him. too much attention on him keeps him alert and harder to catch. trust him and play his fool. ENJOY the relationship, u may as well just be seeing shadows. some of us like to let our girls know we have options without actually doing anything.

    best wishes

    leno

  17. LAURA Says:

    WEL I AGREE FOR THE MOSTPART ABOUT MEN BEING CHEATERS BUT COME ON US WOMEN DO IT TO

  18. tootsies Says:

    i feel sad when i read most of d commnets above.. ths guy im going out with, he’s got it all, caring, loving, funny, n always tells me how much he adores me, cherish me all d times.. then one nite when he’s asleep i just took his mobile & found out that he is telling another girl that we both know (wic has a crush fer him apparently) that i treats him like trash, and that wer over!! i was sooo shocked whn i read ths when all ths while he has been showing me sth else & telling me sweet wonderful things! so is he a liar AND a cheater???

  19. saffie Says:

    hi, ive been in a relationship with my bf for almost 6 months and its his first proper relationship and his friends cheated on gfs before, i know he is not them.. but i have been through a heartbreak once in my life where i cheated on an ex as i just wasnt ready for a serious relationship and i wish i told him firstly that i wasnt happy, because he hurt me after..and so did my guilt. But all the other times where i have tried hard and been faithful they cheated.. im so tired of lies.. its so hard to open up now and trust with all my heart even the one i love. I found someone who can make all my dreams come true, but if he is cheating on me, i believe the truth always comes out and the way i see it, thats no way to build a relationship on lies and after all if your cheating than your not happy.. with partner, yourself, sexually, emotionally.. etc, then why be with that person? hurting someone who loves you..dont start a relationship until you know you can be faithful.. there isnt a rule in love, just choices who make us who we are today. I learned that what goes around comes around.. and if i found out he cheated i would leave without a word or warning.. no turning back..
    yeah it would hurt like hell but women are stronger than we let on.

  20. blue sky Says:

    my bf tells me he loves me all the time and that he can’t live without me,but he cheats,and i dont know why i’m still with him,mayb thats what we call love.i have never seen him with other girls before but seeing message on his phone is enough to convince me.why does he do it when he know i’m all he’s.i believe that he cheats on me more when he is with his friends.just wish he stop and be sincere.

  21. bs Says:

    if u have someone who is respectful,honest,faithful, true,sincere,loyal, who loves you with all her courage,who is always there for you,support you.men can you answer this question for me.would you still be cheating on her?

  22. Leno Says:

    good question, Bs,
    I wont,if i can find such a girl (i suspect i have though, will need more empirical testing). so guys line up
    “if u have someone who is respectful,honest,faithful, true,sincere,loyal, who loves you with all her courage,who is always there for you,support you.men can you answer this question for me.would you still be cheating on her?”

  23. broken heart Says:

    Leno…

    I just had a baby a month and a half ago and my relationship has been on the rocks for about 4 months now and my man has shown all these signs since then. I knew things weren’t right n he always tried to put the blame on me. He didn’t stay @ home until a few weeks ago n now im seeing texts n hickeys from the other girl. He tells me he loves me but I asked him if he has feelings for her n he stays quiet. That means yes. What should I do? I love him so much n I know he’s a good man deep down but I can’t deal with no sleep at night cuz im crying over him. Do u think he will ever change?

  24. guy Says:

    guys are bastards, its how god made us,
    women are so much better.

    Richie.

  25. prettybrazilian Says:

    man are gonna be man reguardless…but im not a big expert but i have been cheated on before and i know how it feels which is not GREAT FEELING…u know when your heart tells u hes cheating especially when he doesnt show you the attention he use too or talk to you the way he use too..when he getz mad all the time for noo freakin reasonn yeaaa theres something going on…i think the best way to catch him is his phone and the computer worked for me…but ladies dont stress on fellaz o well plenty mo fiszh n da sea..move on its hard but ay things happen for a reason:}

  26. Angie Says:

    I have been married for 10 years and yes it is true that people cheat, its both sides. Not just men, we as women cheat also, and those who have will tell you its not because they thought of every way to cheat! or looked for that situation.Its a matter of opportunity, men are the opportunist’s at times, not all the time but some times and the cold hard fact is it could happen to any one!

  27. Man Says:

    All men lie is the same as saying all women tell
    the truth my mother cheated on my father and lies throu her teeth.I have never trusted women and this has spoiled my relationships with them somtimes its so hard to trust somebody i hope i can.My brother died when i was 12 he was older and this made me scared also of getting to involved in a relationship and caring to much.All i am stating is that all men dont lie and all men arnt horrible we are the same as you misunderstood and there are good men and bad men same as there are good and bad women.

  28. DiamondAlvy Says:

    Men do cheat in every aspect.What can we do?Sometimes, the ladies are the ones that stoop so low for the men to toy with.If you what to know when a man is cheating, ask him this question: how will you feel if i cheat on you,maybe without u knowing?His reply will make you ask him :Are you cheating on me?
    Be wise ladies

  29. me Says:

    and take ur trash with you……..

  30. steph Says:

    nearly all men do it! u dont av to take it! n its not you its him get him out and move on! x

  31. Jay Says:

    Honestly.. Men are pigs…they want their cake and eat it too…they wants the wifey at home and go to work flirt and eventually when he finds someone who is willing to give it up without a comitment they jump on it…but ladies remember you might not find out today.. or tomorrow or next week…but you always find out…and trust me ..if you have a feeling..dont jump at it…wait and collect little things as you go along then at the right moment throw it all at him and he will confess and get down on his hands and knees and say how sorry he is and how he didnt mean to that it was a mistake…yah the mistake was him… BE STRONG!!!

  32. bunnyboo2910 Says:

    1.He doesn t pay much attention as he used to
    2.if a friend calls you n tells you he/she was with another girl or boy
    3.if you call and he makes up an excuse for example”i can’t talk i m under water”.
    4.if he/she doesn t care if ur sad, happy or any other emotion.

  33. feedup at 32 yrs old Says:

    why why why,,,I have seen the text mesgs, i have evidence and he still denies it. His phone is always on silent, he goes to the shops to get away from me so that he can check his messages or make a phone call and he has the nerve to tell me that he wants a future with me. I must be the most stupid person in this planet that is how low i feel. What can i do, he was married, what made me think that i can do a better job than the other 10 women he was seeing before me….Somebofu help me,advice me please i want to get away from him but he keeps on calling me at work, shows up in my house….HELP ME GET THIS AN OFF ME!!

  34. ms.cj 1226 Says:

    not all men cheats the problem with us women is that we always giving second chances if he does it once what makes u think that he aint going to do it again if a man cheats on you it means that your not the women for him so the best thing for you to do is let him go trust me the right man will come along and also never let a man no that you can’t live without him cause showing him all that love will always have him thinking that you’ll never leave him.

  35. MOTLATSI Says:

    MAN ALL CHEATS THAT IS THEIR MAIN PROBLEM . IN MOST SITUATTIONS THEY CHEATS BCOS OF SEX I MEAN WHY CAN’T HE TELL U WHEN HE IS ENAF OF HAVING SEX WITH YOU OR WHY CAN’T HE TELL U IF YOU ARE NOT SETISFYING HIM ENAF . MY MAN CHEATED ME BUT WITH A LOW CLASS WOMEN DAMN! SHE WAS SO UGLY AND WHEN I ASKED HIM WHY HE DID THAT HE JST TOLD ME THAT HE DID NOT KNOW HOW TO DUMP THE GAL IT WAS HARD FOR HIM AND HE WAS AFRAID TO TELL ME COZ HE THOT THAT HE MIGHT LOOSE ME . I MEAN WHAT A CRAP IS THAT COZ I GOT HURT AFTER SEEING THAT HE CHEATS ME . BUT HEY LIFE GOES ON.

  36. oli Says:

    men cheat because some of them are ugly, and their galfrends are so damn gorgeous……..so they just cant keep up! cos they know once they turn their bak, they\’re HISTORY………..

  37. jackie Says:

    i need advice im in florida going home to a guy that says he loves me very much that just got me a ring but for some reason he acts like he dosent care about my feeling what do i do i need help i have been with him 2 yrs would he realy do this to me

  38. vicky Says:

    Just want to know .. is there only way to find man cheating to wommen or does it applies to womment also ??

    or there any other 10ways to find wommen cheating man ??

  39. ufuoma Says:

    why is that men cheat on women if YOU ASK ME I CAN TELL . SO MEN WILL BRING A GIRL TO THE HOUSE TO MAKE LOVE TO THEM IF THE WOMEN BRING A MAN WHAT WILL THE MEN SAY OR WHAT WILL PEOPLE SAY TO THAT TYPE OF WOMAN OR WOMEN THE MAN WILL SAY SHE IS NOT A WIFE MATERIAL MAN ALWAYS HAVE IT IN MIND THAT YOU ARE HURTING WOMEN SO MUCH SO DO THE CHEATING WITH SENSE SO THAT YOUR WIFE WILL NOT NO

  40. A.J. Says:

    Men cheat because you women go ape-sh*t crazy when you see a man in a stable, happy relationship w/ another woman. Suddenly he looks like Prince Charming to you.

    Well, you deserve it! Next time, Don’t blame the man for cheating.. Blame your Sisters!

  41. Lovely3 Says:

    Men don,t only cheats. They lie to their teeth about everthing. women cheats cause the men drive them to do it. Men especially black men have no love and their just there for the sex. We women who sleep with those cheating men do it for revenge an dso for no reason at all.

  42. dollbby86 Says:

    I think all men, as well as women, start out with good intentions then after the first heartbreak, it’s a wrap! The cycle begins… now you’re hurt b/c they hurt you and you, in turn, stop caring about hurting others. It’s impossible to know for sure if someone is cheating unless you catch them in the act. Very few ppl come clean immediately b/c they don’t want to lose the one who really cares for them. We cannot stalk our men and the more you bring it up, the more they get suspicious of your own fidelity so… all I can say to do is enjoy what you have while you have it and let time reveal the truth. Stop the cycle of thinking each man is just like your last one because when that good one finally comes along, you’ll be to blind to keep him!!

  43. DM Says:

    Please..people need to rethink this issue. reframe this conflict. Where do people learn these silly assumptions about monogamy? The evidence is quite clear that people love different people over the course of their lifetime. Homo Sapiens is not some species of bird which mates for life.

    People have unrealistic relationship expectations & childish control/abandonment issues, yet blame their lover for their own inability to face up to the reality of human polyamory. They accuse the other of foul play– of cheating.

    Why must people insist on single ownership of another’s private parts? their libido? their pleasure & happiness? This jealousy is the root of the problem.

    You cannot own another human being. They are not your slave. If people want unconditional love & sole possession of another creature, adopt a dog instead.

  44. xtina Says:

    When you let a man know that you will forgive and love no matter what, they will do nothing but continue to cheat on you again and again. We have to nip it in the bud the first time, the only time.

  45. da-1-n-onlee Says:

    when my man leaves the house i know he comen right back cos i got that GOOD that GOOD.
    the other girls be crying cos they man didnt come home!!

  46. Raybork Says:

    I cheated on a partner years ago,I couldn’t help myself. I had such strong feelings of lust.

    I look back that those times, and hate myself for it. Those powerful urges have long gone , honestly it’s a relief!

  47. Lissie Says:

    Well, me n my boyfriend had been dating over 4 months now but don’t get me wrong here we really besties since febuary then we finally started dating on September but now lately he’ve been really specious lately he doesn’t seems his happy self when he see me or anything then the next day he would be happy and buy me a teddy bear or something but idk :/ if he cheating bc he tells me he loves me a lot n lots of people say that he cheating on me n I’m getting mix singals and idk I can’t think straight

  48. leno Says:

    comments, opinions and more comments. in truth we all have a right to our opinions but in reality we all cannot be right. Like DM who says we people do not have a right to expect faithfulness from others and so should adopt a dog instead.

    but i believe as one comment mentioned, women sgould look inwards to their sisters or other women. ask yourself; have you ever dated a married man or somebody u know is already ina relationship? are u dating one now? are u pressurizing any man to leave their present partner for you?

    if all women stay off men who have partners, girlfriends and wives this problem may be solved by more than half. the sad strange fact is that women find men who are hooked more attractive. if u flirt with or help a man cheat on his present girlfriend, wife or partner how can u justly cry in future when it happens to u?

  49. heistheone Says:

    i have read many interesting opinions and comments on this article and i can so in my opinion not all women and men cheat. I am currently in a very amazing 1 year relationship.. and i can truely say that God has placed this man in my life for a lifetime. I have full trust in my man, and he has the same for me. we both know that there is no other. 3 years ago before this relationship i was in a terrible cheating one.. this guy tore my entire world apart i thought just like so many other women thought “that all men are alike” but i have learned that in a relationship you have to know who you are as a person. what u wont tolerated, wat u expect from the relationship. I learned that us women have to pay attention to whats going on in the relationship.. i once heard a lady say to me if someone shows u who they really are believe them. cheating can be stopped all it takes is one person with enough respect and love for another to be an example…

  50. leno Says:

    “cheating can be stopped all it takes is one person with enough respect and love for another to be an example…”

    well said Heistheone

  51. gogetter979 Says:

    I think the best thing is to tell him you won’t tolerate cheating and be clear what constitutes as cheating and then be sure to tell him that you love him and trust him with all your heart. That way when he gets an oppurtunity to cheat he may think twice about it. He may realize the love and trust he has with you is worth more than a hot fling in the back of a Jeep in the parking lot of a restaurant. Or if hes a serial cheater he may screw the next girl just to hurt you. Trust or no trust it doesn’t matter to a serial cheater. Believe me I know!

  52. Harry Says:

    l only have a question to ask, what do u do if your best friend cheated in you two times? i don’t want it to happen any more! :’(

  53. leno Says:

    sorry? Your best friend or your partner? cheated you or used you to cheat? If your partner or lover has cheated you twice, you need to be realistic. He/she will very likely do it again.

    Start thinking of leaving the relationship. Widen your circle and keep more friends. You do not have to cheat in return but let your partner see that you can also be in demand and let him/her fully understand that the next time it happens you will walk.

    ……………..not easy to do but it is necessary when a pattern of cheating has been established.

  54. shannon Says:

    Okay so I’m having a big problem to girls… And its making me go crazy! So I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 2 years in the beginning of our relationship I adored him sooo much than we hit like a year .. And now its two and the thing that’s bothering me is that when we go out some where’s he will say a component about another girl.. And when its just us or with his friend I don’t get that he doesn’t tell me I’m pretty, he’s ALWAYS talking to girls before I go to bed… Its just not fair its making me go crazyy and I’m crazy in love with him. I just don’t feel like he loves me enough! What should I do!!!! Please help.

  55. Adriana Says:

    It is not true that all men cheat, Yes…guys are pigs & majority of them cheat. But once a guy finds that girl hes always wanted, that actually satisfys him like no other ever has, he won’t feel the need to cheat if he truly loves & cares for you. So stop thinking every guy out there is an Asshole because thats not the case. If your mans cheating, eventually you’ll find out, & its a life lesson to live by. If not, then you’ll continue to be happy with your man, So don’t take a good relationship with a guy who actually gives a damn for granted… Ps: If he does cheat, & you have evidence that he has. DROP HIM LIKE A BAD HABIT LADYS! There is absolutely no reason to stay with him…Because he WILL do it again, and again, and again.

    <3 Hope this helpss

  56. hurt Says:

    oh and the girl part is the past. the phone calls that hardly come now are the present as well as him not even caring if he hurts me emotionaly. i hope someone can just tell me somethings.

  57. leno Says:

    @ shannon
    sometimes men just crave female attention without actually cheating. they just like the feel that they can still attract other women. you should tell him how you feel and that his attention on other girls is making you feel bad. you can also increase your own circle of friends. going out with someone does not mean he remains your only associate. be sure you are not chasing shadows, talk to him and if he prefers to keep his girl friends and hurt you, then you know what that means.

    @hurt
    your problem seems to be that your man does not really or show that he really cares. first step is definitely to tell him. do not assume he knows or should know. sometimes people fail to care for their relationships after some years have passed although it does not always mean they are no longer interested. tell him how you feel. you also have to be sure you are not exaggerating, is it really that bad? if he doesn’t do nothing at all to show that he cares?is he going through stress or bad times? well talk to him and let him know you feel hurt.
    you can also benefit from this article http://socyberty.com/relationships/how-to-simply-and-effectively-change-your-partner-for-the-better/

    best wishes

  58. KB Says:

    It’s almost like this: Every man you’re not attracted to would die to date you and would be undeniably faithful, whereas, men you’re actually yearning for would cheat on you the second a hot-bodied model threw herself at them. Ladies, if you have a boyfriend/fiance/husband who you absolutely adore and you find absolutely gorgeous, and you know is faithful, hold on to him. I’ve been cheated on before, and it doesn’t feel good. But if he’s cheating, get the hell outta there, it’s only doing your self-esteem, ego, and self-worth a buttload of harm. Good luck all. We all deserve better, and we all know that deep down.

  59. laurent123 Says:

    It’s simple really! All men cheat if they get an opportunity and all women cheat when they feel that their current bf or husband is not giving them enough attention. If I ever find out my girlfriend cheated, I wouldn’t do anything, I’ll just start sleeping with random girls and she will never find out, then take some pictures one day and send it to her and leave. Its simple! Either way the relationship is done, its better to teach and show her I felt then leave. lol

  60. laurent123 Says:

    Everything is simple! If a two people love each other and show trust and respect, there shouldn’t be a third party, but if one of them cheats on the person, then the relationship is over, cheater will always be a cheater, u can’t rebuild a relationship thinking your partner cheated. That would always stick in back of your head. people cheat due to lack of self esteem and not feeling good about themselves and or not getting enough attention from their partner. If one of them wants to feel single, then they should respect one’s decision and tell them, rather then going behind their back and hurting them. obvious most people find that by cheating, you dont’ have to face any dramas, so its easy way out, its sad really!

  61. www Says:

    i got wid my partner nd evry fin was brill, u always said nice things 2 me brought me things, we wuld talk 4 hours, i have been wid him 3years now he started 2 change he wuld insult me every day, put me dwn nd make me feel useless, r sex life has gone dwn drasticly, he neva wants sex, he neva has a nice word to say about me, now we have a 6month daughter 2getha nd nufins changed, he is very secretive and always out, there has been times in are relationship were hes tryed 2 cheat on me wid 1 of my m8s but they turnd him down wen i asked him about it he made sum excuse up sayin he neva, im at my wits end iv tryed talkin 2 him bout my feelings but he jus thinks im nagging, what do i do carry on 4 r daughters sake hoping it will change or finish it help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  62. leno Says:

    @ www; i am really no expert but i will tell you this. If a man is bored with a woman he starts to act up. Same is also true if the man is going through some temporary crises or stress in his life. People react in various ways. If you man is however really hurting you with his actions, i will advise that you talk it out with him. You have to make him see that you are not ready to continue to be the victim. If he is sure that you will leave him if he doesn’t clean up his act and he stills acts the same, that tells you he really no longer cares.

    However. you mentioned you you have been with him for about 3 years, have a baby together and yet you guys not ready to married? If he is not ready to marry you after 3 years and a baby, what does that tell you?

    I will never advice anyone to stay or leave a relationship. You have to think properly and then decide yourself because you will have to live with your decisions.

    Take note, most times a good man does not automatically turn bad. it starts with small signs, small slip ups or actions that put you down. From the beginning you have to let him (or her infact) realize that you are not ready to play the victim all the time. Don’t let matters get worse before you sit your partner down and lay bare your grievance.

  63. the great milinko Says:

    Women cheat too.

  64. lauren Says:

    Well i was going through his phone and saw alot of pictures of girls. And ask him who they are and he reply back just”friends”. So we broke up now he trying to get back with me and im trying to figure out if he still go with that another girl but he say he dont and i caught him at the movies with her seen his recent calls, and his signature eveytime he text have her name………what should i do

  65. Briru Says:

    Me and my husband have been together for 2 years out of the ten years of our relationship. We started off really good but after we got back together (after a break up), I notice a change in him. He is a really smart guy and good with computers. I feel like he’s cheating but he knows how to hide it well. What do you think? How can I know for sure?

  66. meme Says:

    my man constantly lied and cheated on me..but i just let him do what ever he want’s to do..i know that he is cheating on me,i have all the evidence i need,he is hiding naked picture of other girl in his email..i am very good at hacking email password so i know all his secret,but since he treat me nice and showing me some love,i dont care at all…what matters most is he stay with me, he love’s me, and he is doing his job for the family…

  67. sevanna Says:

    girl and women pls be aware of guy. they may say how they luv u, so and so, but they r not care for ur feeling, so they r cheat on u. they just want to having sex v u and after tat dumb u away.this case is happen to tis society everyday and we cn see it from newspaper. girs and women pls luv and respect urself because u will found tat the girl in the mirrow will appreciate u so much.the girl is urself.

  68. leno Says:

    wow…………………… u see the hurt and pain cheating can cause? Nothing as good as getting a partner that loves and cherishes you. If you already have that, be smart and don’t spoil it.

  69. HisGirl Says:

    guys are all jerks. i dont see why but they seem to think its funny and amusing that cheating on a girl is fun. sometimes i get the thought that being with a girl would be easier then being with a guy becuz all of them seem to be low life cheaters. i would die to actually find the guy of my dreams. its really hard to find a guy that u can actually trust enough not to hurt u. the last guy that cheated on me really didnt seem like that type of guy but then it turned out that he was… i kinda figured he was becuz he never kept his phone on on the weekends and he kept acting strange for awhile.. so i started getting the hint. forget men

  70. cristy Says:

    my ment to be partner and i have been in a long distance relationship for over a year he tells me he has never cheated has rejected acouple of girls and im lucky he hasnt and on top of that he has been working out has big arms tells me he still loves me but i cant help to feel his not been honest with me there is more to this but i want to know could a man stay loyal for so long after reading everyones blogs ive had no problems cause we a child together not only that he to me is my sole mate and i love him with all my heart

  71. nikita Says:

    i have been with my partner for nearly four now we have a son together but only yesterday i got a message for this woman saying that my fella was seeing her mate an texting her to meet her on his break when hes been working so i ask him an he says he never done anything an y would he want to threw everything away that we have i ask him if he has her number he says no but i found a email that was sent to him saying forget what i said u were right delete my number an he sent bk saying that his fone was broken an he would text her later he takes his fone everywhere with him use to fone me on his break that has stoped an text me bk stright away but hes dosent hes been acting funny since i have asked him about it i cant help wondering if this is the reason y he has not been sleeping with me i love him so much what should i do can anyone help

  72. Bob keys Says:

    I think mom is getting cheated on…. :(

  73. Bob keys Says:

    I think mom is getting cheated on.

    After 19 yrs

  74. tasha Says:

    i have a bf..we have begin talking from June..i really love him because this is the first time am in a relationship without heartache but since lately he have change a lot he hardly call me and when he do call me he can’t stay long on the phone with me..i really love him but i don’t think he do anymore…

  75. Unknownnnn Says:

    my boyfriend cheated on me with my bestfriend. i’ve known my bestfriend for 9 years.
    i was out of the country and just suddenly out of nowhere, he texts me saying: i know everything, forget about everything and please dont disturb me.
    i burst out crying in the middle of the mall in front of everyone and i couldn’t stop myself. the most painful thing was that i had no idea what was going on.. why? why did he leave me?
    i went back home next day and i went to my other bestfriend’s house and i was crying to her and telling her how i felt and all, she decided she wants to know why the hell did he do that.. she called him and asked him why he broke up with me, he told her that he broke up with because i cheated on him with his bestfriend, he bestfriend was a reallyy close friend to mine.. when my bestfriend told me what he said, i was so surprised!
    that day i went to the beach and then he texted me telling me why he broke up with me and i didnt reply.. then he texted me again telling me to confess and that he wont do anything to me,, i still didnt reply
    i called my boyfriend’s bestfriend and i asked him if he told anyone we dated and he said no, he told me he wants to call his friend and ask him whats going on.. a few minutes later he called me telling to forget this ever happened and that everything was back to normal.
    i called my boyfriend after that telling him how he should trust and and come and talk to me before doing all of this and thn he apologized.
    he asked me where i was and i told him i was at the beach, he came
    when he came everything was normal.. we kissed.. we talked..
    then i went back home and we said goodnight and told each other we love each other..
    the next week.. it was so awkward and i had no diea whats going on
    then i texted him, i was like: listen, do you still want me? do you still feel the same way you did about me?
    he texted me back: im not sure
    the minute i saw that message, i was torn apart.
    i texted him and broke up with him.. i was like: ok fine, its over. i gave you literally everything i had and i guess it just wasnt enough for you.. we were perfect but i have no idea whats going on with you.. you’ve changed.. bye, im always gunna miss you xx
    from that day i tried so hard to get myself together and not cry over him..
    the exact next day, his bestfriend called me. hes bestfriend was my bestfriend’s boyfriend.
    he called me and he told he had something really important to tell me and that if it wasn’t urgent he wouldn’t've called me
    he told me that he cheated on me with his girlfriend.
    no words in the world would ever describe the way i felt. i was literally dying. i was shaking and i was cold and i was so scared.
    i couldn’t believe it, how my bestfriend, my sister, would ever do something like this to me
    i called her and told her: ok listen i know everything, i dont want to hear your voice, nothing. i dont give a fuck if youre crying or dying. im just gunna tell you what i have to say, and this is the last time you’re ever gunna hear my voice again. i cant believe you did that, you knew how much i LOVED him, how much he meant to me. how? how the hell did you do that? you felt it once, and you told me you wouldnt wish it to anyone in the world, but because of you, i felt it and im feeling it right now.
    you ruined my life, you took away the love of my life. you’re not a human i swear. i hate you. i hate how i was the bestest friend you could’ve ever had. i regret helping you in my life. you deserve misery, and im gunna give you what you deserve. BYE!
    all of this happened two months ago
    i still cant get over him. i miss him every single second of every single day.
    no one gets what im going through..
    i saw him once after all of this, it was the hardest thing i’ve ever done
    i feel like i dont know him..
    everything reminds me of him
    im trying so hard to get over him..
    what should i do?

  76. Unknownnnn Says:

    my boyfriend cheated on me with my bestfriend. i\’ve known my bestfriend for 9 years.
    i was out of the country and just suddenly out of nowhere, he texts me saying: i know everything, forget about everything and please dont disturb me.
    i burst out crying in the middle of the mall in front of everyone and i couldn\’t stop myself. the most painful thing was that i had no idea what was going on.. why? why did he leave me?
    i went back home next day and i went to my other bestfriend\’s house and i was crying to her and telling her how i felt and all, she decided she wants to know why the hell did he do that.. she called him and asked him why he broke up with me, he told her that he broke up with because i cheated on him with his bestfriend, he bestfriend was a reallyy close friend to mine.. when my bestfriend told me what he said, i was so surprised!
    that day i went to the beach and then he texted me telling me why he broke up with me and i didnt reply.. then he texted me again telling me to confess and that he wont do anything to me,, i still didnt reply
    i called my boyfriend\’s bestfriend and i asked him if he told anyone we dated and he said no, he told me he wants to call his friend and ask him whats going on.. a few minutes later he called me telling to forget this ever happened and that everything was back to normal.
    i called my boyfriend after that telling him how he should trust and and come and talk to me before doing all of this and thn he apologized.
    he asked me where i was and i told him i was at the beach, he came
    when he came everything was normal.. we kissed.. we talked..
    then i went back home and we said goodnight and told each other we love each other..
    the next week.. it was so awkward and i had no diea whats going on
    then i texted him, i was like: listen, do you still want me? do you still feel the same way you did about me?
    he texted me back: im not sure
    the minute i saw that message, i was torn apart.
    i texted him and broke up with him.. i was like: ok fine, its over. i gave you literally everything i had and i guess it just wasnt enough for you.. we were perfect but i have no idea whats going on with you.. you\’ve changed.. bye, im always gunna miss you xx
    from that day i tried so hard to get myself together and not cry over him..
    the exact next day, his bestfriend called me. hes bestfriend was my bestfriend\’s boyfriend.
    he called me and he told he had something really important to tell me and that if it wasn\’t urgent he wouldn\’t\’ve called me
    he told me that he cheated on me with his girlfriend.
    no words in the world would ever describe the way i felt. i was literally dying. i was shaking and i was cold and i was so scared.
    i couldn\’t believe it, how my bestfriend, my sister, would ever do something like this to me
    i called her and told her: ok listen i know everything, i dont want to hear your voice, nothing. i dont give a fuck if youre crying or dying. im just gunna tell you what i have to say, and this is the last time you\’re ever gunna hear my voice again. i cant believe you did that, you knew how much i LOVED him, how much he meant to me. how? how the hell did you do that? you felt it once, and you told me you wouldnt wish it to anyone in the world, but because of you, i felt it and im feeling it right now.
    you ruined my life, you took away the love of my life. you\’re not a human i swear. i hate you. i hate how i was the bestest friend you could\’ve ever had. i regret helping you in my life. you deserve misery, and im gunna give you what you deserve. BYE!
    all of this happened two months ago
    i still cant get over him. i miss him every single second of every single day.
    no one gets what im going through..
    i saw him once after all of this, it was the hardest thing i\’ve ever done
    i feel like i dont know him..
    everything reminds me of him
    im trying so hard to get over him..
    what should i do?

  77. Natalie Says:

    DO NOT GET BACK WITH HIM. IF HE CHEATED ONCE, HE WILL KEEP ON CHEATING. YOUR FEELINGS YOU HAVE FOR HIM NOW WILL FADE AWAY BY TIME. WAIT AND SEE! :)

  78. emma Says:

    hi there iv been wiv my bf for 2yrs n its all gne rng this last month saying e needs space but u loves me so much goin out wiv es mates nt riniging me or lettin me no were e is lying to me.. playin games really n its doin me in i love him n e nows tht but sum how i think e thinks im to easy n will allways take him bk hellp :(

  79. Nate Says:

    I’m going to own up and admit that my girlfriend and I have frequent quarrels. I work sudden late nights and work overtime. I ‘threaten’ to see other girls, I have excessive mood swings, and my finances are in shambles.

    but I have NEVER cheated on her.

    The reasoning behind this is she’s ridiculously clingy, and takes up ALL my free time. I stay up late and work overtime so I can actually have some time to myself. My finances are a sorry state because I’m paying for her as well as myself. I think it’s rather understandable that I have excessive mood swings when she randomly accuses me of something or blows up over the tiniest thing I said (I mentioned to my friend that a girl in a movie was pretty hot, my girlfriend hurled abuse at me for 3 straight hours over it). Naturally, that leads to frequent quarrels.
    According to this article I’m a cheat. I may not be the picture of patience, but I’m definately not a cheat.

    Before you take this article to be gospel truth, you need to ask yourself if YOU’RE the one responsible for these things, because your guy might just be too nice to tell it to you straight that you’re the one ruining the relationship.

  80. Liam Says:

    All of these comments seem extremely biost towards women. i would never cheat and i certainly do not condone cheating at all. i am a 16 year old boy. i have never cheated and never will cheat. some of what the women have said on this issue is really sterio typical and offensive, is this really what you think of all men? women could have upto 1 million bad experiences with men and unfaithfullness but still do not have the right to say all men are the same. not all men cheat and alot of men deserve a good woman.
    Yes, men are cheating quite frequently but so are women. your just as bad if not worse than us.

  81. DREAMER Says:

    fren !!!!!!!! EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON FACE THE CONSEQUENCES AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE JUST WAIT IT WILL ALL GET BETTER IN TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NOTHING LAST FOREVER !!!!

  82. hurt Says:

    Wow! He would always humiliate me in front of kids and friends, accuse me of having a boyfriend, start fights saying that I’m selfish despite all the money I gave him that he demanded, went out at 2 or 3 in the morning with different excuses, and had someone call or text him all the time. He would take showers with the door closed after 12 years of being a couple. She knew he was living with someone on top of it. I feel so dirty! I’m going in for an STD check. Not all cops are worth trust.

  83. leno Says:

    @ unknown, love and breakups are painful. also painful to deal with the hurt that cheating brings? but ask urself, is all d pain and tears that you are going through really deserving of a guy like him? dust urself, and alsways remind urself that he and she were not wat u thot them to be. http://www.articlesnaija.com/dating/how-can-i-get-over-a-breakup/

  84. leno Says:

    @ hurt, am glad to see that you now have the strenght to do the right thing and leave a man who does not respect or value you enough. if a man or woman repeatedly fails to treat you right or with the respect that you deserve, do not make excuses for them. walk out while u still can

  85. Audri Says:

    I’m late I see but my husband scored 7 out of 10 and I’m a libra very logical very balanced I can see right through people. The problem is we have 2 kids and I really can’t survive with them on my own. I don’t know what to do anymore. :( audrimy

  86. leno Says:

    hey Audri. why not try talking to him about it. ask him directly what you can do to help him stop. Let him know you are hurting. It may just help. very few men will continue if they see the amount of hurt they are causing

  87. Karen Says:

    what’s sad about men who cheat…is they will treat you differently..out of the blue..you can hear the tension in their voices…lack of interest in you, that never was there before..treating you like a casual friend as if you’ve never shared the same bed together..it’s like being hit blindside…you never see it coming or maybe you do and you just choose to look the other way…then you confront them and they deny it..say it’s your hysteria and low self esteem causing it..when all along they know the real truth, but are just not man enough to be a man and tell the one their with the real feelings they have. if they are man enough to feel it..let them be man enough to say it. Cowards!! Men are inadequate and useless to women, other than an occasional romp. The percentage of good men in this society can probably not even exceed 5%, on a good day. In short, they suck.

  88. youngandinlove Says:

    Dear leno, im 21years old, I date a 35 yr old man. We have been together for a year and a half and we were friends for a year before even getting involved. I treated him as my best friend, he knows my secrets, my fears my dreams, he can read me like a book ….and that I believe is my down fall. I allowd him so much access into my being that ive allowd him to become somewhat of a puppet master over me. When I first met him I never thougjt we would get together, I did not like him nonwhatsoever and never considered him being my bf and it was that belief of us never gettn together that allowed me to use him as a secret diary. As time went on we spent more and more time together, enturn he began to pursue me more ferociously, in feb of 2010 we finally slept together therefore beginning our relationship.when I say beginning I mean seriously dating not EXCLUSIVE(which I was unaware of). So everything is good until I look in his phone and find thats he’s been seeing other women, so I spazz out and I sleep with another man, mind you I am 19 @ the time. About a week later I tell him bc I can’t keep a secret from someone I love, he spazzes, wnt touch me, smokes excetera , he tells me that yes maybe he shoots at bitches but he hasnt slept w/any1 else. So he forgives me and everythings kosher threw 2010. So its 2011, hes not really acting different, still warm and affectionate, still loving and sweet, still providing EVERYTHING for me but im finding flirty msgs n his phone, tlking bout meeting @ a club n cincinnati , which is where hes originally from but he lives n ky now. So im gaskin uhhh nigga are u cheatn on me or what and if u not these gmsgs damn sure sound like you ready to. He swears hes not souh im like koo but sometimes I say or ask things that require a fcertain responce so I can try and see where hes at.the real reason im writing u today is because he has stoppd having sex with me, we have not had sex n almost two monthes, he always says hes to tired or doesnt feel like it but yet he always wants me to suck his little dick, he never trys to please me anymore or anything. Matter of fact we had an arguement last week and we havent spoken n six days and honestly I think hes laid up with one of those fat face ugly ass bitches from cincinnati, by the way im 5″9 180 lbs 8 1/2 possibly 9 in the face thick and almost c cup breasts, and almost done studying to get certifacation as medical assistant, loyal, faithful, honest, intellegent,pretty good in the bed for some1 my age, funny and a somewhat logical thinker. We also think so much alike that we can complete each others sentence.Downsides are im hard headed, inexperienced, immature in certain areas, bi polar and emotionally unstable, I also cant get a job due to my criminal record. Leno do you think my man is cheating on me and is it due to my age and inexperience

  89. Regina Says:

    My partner is in the US he comes once a year. about 2 years ago he came and slept with another woman and I confirmed it. In confronting him he agreed and blamed it on being drunk. If he could do that on a visit of only two weeks, surely what does he do in the US. I really got hurt coz I have always waited for him and I am afraid he could give me a disease.

  90. stephanie Says:

    i dont understand tho if a man or woman feel the need they need to cheat or get some kind of love & effection elsewhere why dont they just move on instead of cheating? somebody please answer that for me?

  91. Nikki Says:

    ^ stephanie cos they’re selfish and want to have their cake and eat it too. Why have one woman if they can have 2 or 3?

    They are perfectly aware of the fact that it would hurt us, but still do it anyway bc their own needs take priority.

  92. zarnab Says:

    i have a boyfriend he cheated me.he always say that he is with me only but he talks to many other girls without telling me,and suddenly when i heard from those girls talking about him this thing makes me so jealous,he is totally ignoring me.never tell me the truth.always says me that i have a negative thinking when i ask him about the other girls who are very precious for him..what can i do?can any body tell me

  93. Jessica Says:

    HELP!!! I am about to marry this guy and i am not sure if he is ready or i am just being stupid, he is 24 and I am 27, you move down here to be with me but has not found a job yet and has 5 kids I only have only, he is very nice to people, but i work all day than go to night school come home and he take the car and stays out until 6am he tell me cuz he does not like being in the house during the day, he does this almost every day, than he want let me go into his phone he has a big attitude when i try, and not all the time but sometime Verbally abuse me, i am can sometime get mad at the little things like keeping the house clean, don’t drive out all the gas, during the week……Am I just being stupid

  94. student15 Says:

    Yes you are!!

  95. Tamster Says:

    Hello I have read alot of these blogs and I been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and everything is going great but just recently I have noticed a change in him he would take his phone with him every where he went now I am very insecure so I could be over reacted I asked my boyfriend if he was texting some one else and he said no I was looking at my alarm cause it did not go off, Now I want to believe him he has never lied to me and he calls me sexy hot beautiful ect plus we sit and watch a movie with each other all the time and he is always touching me so I just would like to know am I over reacting on the phone thing?
    I love my boyfriend with all my heart and he does show and says he loves me all the time actually the other day he told me he loves me more than I even know!! I really think it is my insecure issues I have….
    I have been cheated on before with another guy and the way I found out he got her pregnant so I know what people went threw and I guess that is why I have my back up and really hard to trust any man, I also have this insecure issue that is real bad if my boyfriend even looks at a women when I am with him I go off first of all it is so disrespectful for a man to look at another women when they are with there girlfriend for real and I would acted on it I would tell him to go screw her or would you like me to get her number for you let me tell you men do not like to be told that for real and it will make them think about ever looking at another women when they are with you….
    Men are pigs though sorry but it is true they see a naked women and they stare let me tell you something if we are watching a movie and there is a lot of nude shots I will not have sex with my man cause I think he is thinking about the women he just saw naked and get off on that instead of me see the insecure issues I have any suggestions??? Thanks

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