10 Things a Woman Should Do to Bag the Man of Her Dreams

If you find yourself dating the same old losers over and over again (I know I did), maybe it’s time to reevaluate your approach. Most men want to find a great woman, not just for what you think! A real man realizes the value of being in a relationship. There are great guys are out there; they are all around you. Now is the time to meet the man of your dreams. What can a girl like you do to get her man?

Drop the attitude, honey!

It’s okay to be a strong, independent woman. Being too straight-forward can do in any possible relationship. Striking a balance between vulnerable and strong drives is always sexier than the man-hating, opinionated loudmouth. Ask yourself: would you rather hang out with someone who is over opinionated or someone who can work with you? Men feel the same way.

Don’t be shy!

Men, no matter what their ego level, have a fear of rejection. They know from years of experience that it’s better to be approached by a woman than to get up enough nerve and approach one. How many times have you shot a poor guy down? In a social situation, approach that guy who’s caught your eye. You don’t need some corny pickup line; just say hello and introduce yourself. Just make sure your attitude is set to “friendly” and not “I’m easy; take me home NOW!”

Network

Unless you’re known in the neighborhood as “the lonely cat lady”, you have friends. And they have friends too. Start doing group activities with them and have them bring along their friends, their single friends. You may end up meeting someone through your own personal network.

Don’t sweat the small stuff

As a woman, you can list at least 10 things wrong with your body. A man doesn’t see the things that you do. It doesn’t matter how much you weigh, how tall or short you are…there is a man out there who will LOVE your perceived faults. I know a man who only dates women with pot-bellies. Why? He thinks they’re sexy. No; he’s not a weirdo. He’s a great guy who likes women with pot-bellies.

No what you want

This one is not easy but it’s crucial if you want relationship happiness. Taking a personal assessment will help you get your mind right for a relationship. If you always end up with “losers” ask yourself, “What attracted me to this man in the first place?” If it’s the excitement of never knowing what “crazy” thing he’ll do next, than find a man who takes responsible risks, not just the one where he’s ducking his landlord because he’s three months late on his rent.

Break your routine

If your day consists of you going to work, then coming home, repeat-it’s time to shake things up. You don’t have to quit your job and move to Burma: check for events for after work in the city that you live. Unless you live in the boondocks, there is at least one place (not bar related) that you can spend at one evening a week. This doesn’t include any alcohol/drug groups: they’re the WORST place to meet a potential mate.

Change your look

If you have been rocking the same outfit and hairstyle since the early nineties, it’s about time that you work what you got! Change your hair and update those duds, girl! Nothing makes a woman feel prettier than a trip to the salon and a new outfit (don’t forget the shoes!). When you look good, you feel good-and others (men!) see it too.

Don’t overlook the “diamonds in the rough”

Your mother always said, “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” How many times have you dated the handsome jerk? The disturbed hottie? I understand attraction; but maybe it’s time to look below the surface attraction and find what can attract you mentally. I would rather spend an evening with a so-so looking man who can stimulate my mind, treat me with respect and make me feel special than with a man who’s all about himself and his good looks. If you are still looking for “the perfect man”, just know that HE’S looking for the “perfect woman”. Are you perfect?

If you’re into playing games, get Monopoly.

If your name happens to be “Alexis Colby”, than go ahead and play the part of drama-queen. If you don’t want to meet crazy man, chances are he doesn’t want to meet a crazy woman. Meeting someone isn’t about manipulations, games or deceits-drop the act and the games once and for all. If you want to meet someone real, is time for YOU to get real.

Wait

This is the most important piece of advice I can give. Can you imagine someone pushing you to love them? Don’t do it to someone else. Take the time to get to know that special person as a friend. Value them as a person. Drop your agendas. Lose the desperation to be with someone. Relax. Just when you least expect it, you’ll get your “happily ever after”.