10 Sure Ways to Get Over Him
Can’t seem to get over a terrible break-up? Follow these sure ways of finally putting it behind you for good.
We have all been through complicated break-ups before, some tougher than others. Sometimes it feels like we would never recover from the anguish and desperation losing love can bring. This is why I’ve outlined 10 powerful ways to help.
1. Whatever You Do, Don’t Call Him
Hearing his voice just brings back old memories. He may say something non-committal so as not to hurt you, (he may not right for you, but this doesn’t make him a monster) but your aching heart will interpret it as a sign of his undying love. This just drags you on indefinitely like a stray who returns only because her visits are rewarded with a morsel of food. Keep in mind that the more time you waste on a ruined relationship, the deeper your torment, and the longer the healing period.
2. Do Spend Some Time on Your Own
You have had years being with someone else who inadvertently dictated when you went out, and when you were blissful or sad. Give yourself some self assessment time. What have you been putting up with in this relationship? Can you now see the warning signs you initially chose to ignore because you hoped it would get better? Now that you’re aware of the stop lights, there is a better chance of you being able to spot them before you’ve invested too much into subsequent relationships.
3. Do Write a List
Now you have more time to yourself, make a list of all the things you hated about your ex. Read them every time you agonise over him. Then thank your lucky stars you are rid of him. Honestly, would you have been able to put up with his annoying ways or his callousness for the rest of your life? Keep the note, you may want to refer to it later on when you are tempted to get serious with someone else who possesses those same attributes.
4. Don’t Go to His Favourite Hangouts
You might see him there, but even worse, he might have company – a new woman. This will only break your sore heart again. Time heals, and seeing him socially doesn’t give you the space you need to do so.