10 Signs You Should Dump Your Boyfriend

July 6, 2008 by Angelita DeBois  
Published in Dating

Is it time to make up, or break up?

So, you’ve been dating/living/married to your man for some time and some of his habits makes you physically ill: he leaves the toilet seat up, he leaves his socks on the floor, and/or he drinks the last drop of milk and puts the carton back in the refrigerator. All annoying traits, yes, but are they signs you should through him out like yesterday’s trash? I’ve compiled a list of signs that can give you a clue that it might be time to give your man his walking papers.

  1. He No Longer Considers Your Feelings

    If you break your leg and your man doesn’t even visit you in the emergency room, that’s a problem. It shouldn’t have to come to that extreme: little signs that indicate a lack of empathy should be enough for you to know that your relationship has run its course. Need some examples? You have a bad day (and it’s written on your face) and he doesn’t ask you about it. You have a headache and he doesn’t offer you an aspirin. If you are in pain, whether physical or mental, and your man says or does nothing…that’s someone who doesn’t care about you.

  2. He’s Become the Invisible Man

    When you’re with someone, they should be there. If you are in a long distance relationship, that’s one thing. If your man lives across town but you hardly ever see him…that’s a sure clue that he’s just not into you anymore.

  3. He’s Become “Mr. X”

    You used to know your man inside and out but now you don’t know what’s going on in his life. For all you know he’s changed jobs, his name, his hair-color, his sexual orientation. You can’t be in a relationship if you don’t even know the person you’re in a relationship with.

  4. You Can’t Stand the Very Sight of Him

    You used to love his face. The cute way he smiled at you. Now…whenever you see him you want to throw up. Before, he said the cutest things. Now, if he speaks you want to slap him. Again, this may be extreme but if you don’t have an attraction to your man anymore, that’s a BIG problem.

  5. You Keep Secrets

    One of the best things about being in a relationship is that you have someone you can confide in. A confidant is someone you can trust. If you can share with your man, it’s because you can’t trust him. You should be able to trust your man. There are some secrets that everyone keeps to themselves but if you find yourself keeping more and more things closer to the vest.

  6. No Sex

    This one doesn’t include for medical reasons. This one doesn’t include those couples who had a slow sex life to begin with. This clue is for those couples that were having sex but now don’t. Depending on how long you’ve been together, a natural decrease in the frequency is normal. I’m talking about the total absence of any desire for your man. When you don’t want to have sex with your man under any circumstance,s that is a major problem.

  7. He Doesn’t Tell You About Important Things

    This one ties into number five. You may still tell your man things but he doesn’t tell you things. Very important things like he’s seeing someone else.

  8. You’re Very Unhappy

    You can’t expect that every day in a relationship is going to be sunshine and lollipops. However, if everyday feels like slow torture and you just want to curl up into a ball and cry…that’s not a good thing. You could be depressed but if you feel this way because of the one your with…you don’t need a therapist to tell you that breaking up may make you loads happier.

  9. His Little Bad Habits Make Your Blood Boil

    I have a boyfriend. He leaves the shower curtain open. He puts a dish in the sink and doesn’t scrape the plate so the sink clogs. He takes off his pants and lets them drop wherever; usually it’s in the middle of the floor. And he snores loudly. These are things that he does. I’ve asked him to stop (not the snoring; I know he can’t help that). He says he’ll try. He doesn’t. It doesn’t cause me too much angst. If your man does little things that make you want to go nuclear, he should leave your crazy behind alone!

  10. You Feel Trapped

    You feel crushed by the love you feel for your boyfriend. The weight of it is immense. No situation is unchangeable. You CAN free yourself. You just need the strength of your convictions.

One of the things I’ve been guilty of in the past is staying with someone because I felt that I couldn’t do any better. That was a mistake. It is really true: you can do bad all by yourself. I don’t care if you feel you are too old to find someone new, or too ugly, or too fat. No relationship is worth you giving up your own happiness to maintain it. I realize that being a strong person is not always easy; but I believe that it is the ONLY way to live and to love. However, don’t mistake strength for inflexibility: I pick up my boyfriend’s pants all the time.

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381 Responses to “10 Signs You Should Dump Your Boyfriend”
  1. Mimi Nambs Says:

    Hello, thank you lots for the 10 signs. Its high time men stop playing with our feelings. Even if it hurts, am dumping him.

  2. sarah, oxfordshire Says:

    I just read that long message, just wanted to say, I can relate to all of it, I have had it done to me by a man, I am still healing now, but its better to be out of it, I want a happy life with someone one day.

  3. L F Calland Says:

    As a man, and speaking for my kind, I must say you are right. Sometimes things just don’t work out.

  4. blackoutt Says:

    going to say this for all the guys out there who would say no sex wtf you gays lol had to be said but everything else is really a sign

  5. summersun* Says:

    i can relate .. to few things i sometimes think about his age im 19, he is 22 i feel like he is just going through an immature stage but i have a 16 year old brother who wouldn’t pull HALF the bull he does i am trapped and finding it hard to get out because i love him im torn torn too one day i will be all angry and want to leave him then the next day i cant live without him… i know deep down its codependancy and the unhappy feeling has actually never gone away it’s been there buried under crap for about a year now .. i cant escape my own insecurities what do i do??
    i’m worried this whole relationship is just even both of us being scared to be alone?

  6. caramel Says:

    I really can relate to the signs becuz i am going though some of the bull with my man now. There are times when I just want him the hell out of my life. Is it really that hard for men to say no to sex especially when u are getting it all the time? What kills me is that men do anything to us females but let us do something wrong or cheat they want to kill us…and its true you can do bad by yourself, but I’ve been with my man since I was 16 and I’m 21 now and he’s 27 now he’s all I know(man) and we have 2 kids together. It’s crazy but it doesn’t mean that i must stay with him no1 wants a man cheating on them all the time its 2 many diseases out there and most men don’t like to use protection…i love my man and i can’t take but so much…but men don’t realize what they have until she’s gone.

  7. Nicole Says:

    I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years now and i’m now sixteen, his parents are very strict, he has no computer acsess or a mobile so i have no contact with him so its hard to arrange things and i dont know what he’s doing half the time, sometimes we have really bad arguments about the tiniest things because he is overprotective and i have uncontrollable crying fits and its really taking a toll on me but i cant end it because i know deep down i love him i just cant get through to him and get him to tell me how he feels. can someone email me with advise? milkcarton@live.co.uk

  8. taurus girl Says:

    i have had a 1 month affair with a man, we dated twice. i told him that im not playing games and i want serious relationship…he said just trust him.bcoz of his busy days in his job sometimes we just talk in a short period of time until he went for a business travel, and his phone issues, suddenly changed of his iterinary is a very strange story for me. to make story short i saw the signs that he is going to dump me. it hurts, i started to delete his pictures and im giving him 1 week to answer my off lines, if not..i will totally delete his contact. thanks for this column it helps for me…to all ladies out there,,if u see one of those signs especially in man’s phone be aware! trust your instinct…

  9. taurus girl Says:

    nicole,
    i understand how you feel, its normal to a parents protecting their child especially in this issues..1st–your young and a lot of things will happen to your life. dont take it so seriously anyway your only 16. dont rush. i know you love your bf but dont go with the flow of your emotions..keep busy to your other activities in lfe especially in ur studies. time will come you will realize everything..take care.

  10. CherryTango Says:

    Thank you, I can relate to most of this and to be honest I already knew it deep down. I’ve been with my boyfriend almost 3 years and am now nearly 20. People change alot in that time, and I just think we’ve changed in opposite directions.. he’s driving me mad! He’s far to clingy and immature!
    Just to the hard part of actually ending it…

  11. laura Says:

    i love him so much and don’t want to dump him regardless of the signs… i’d rather have one sided love coming from my end than no love at all

  12. mystifi Says:

    I’ve been in my relationship for 5 years we argue about stupid things enough that I get headaches from it. I ask him to leave because everything is in my name but he won’t go. I wish I could go.

  13. sillypoof Says:

    just checking if i need to sign up…

  14. sillypoof Says:

    it does work… :) … (sigh). relationships are hard. looking over my life, at age 24, my feeling is that a lot of my friendships have really made a difference in terms of moving me in the right direction towards academic goals, artistic pursuits, and etc.

    i ended a rocky relationship, as many have described above – you reach a tepid state of existence with your significant other… the affection may or may not lessen, but your conversations, those annoying habits that become a kind of mind game with you (are you being heard, ignored? are you treated like a child, like a piece of furniture?), and how you kind of get out of sync or don’t seem to see each other anymore… that is a problem.

    my ex and i converse occasionally as friends. what i’ve noticed sometimes, is that despite how much you may change as a person, it does not mean that the other person has changed, even though he/she may recognize things that you’ve changed… we all become older, wiser, more experienced, and we have different challenges day-to-day. it’s normal to feel out of the groove sometimes; but, i’d say, if month drags on to six months, and six months to one year… Just imagine all that you could lose from living your life? life is here, and we are all alive. you don’t have to be anyone you don’t want to be; if someone is holding you back from being your true self, you can be the volume in your life – just because the other person can’t hear or does not want to hear doesn’t mean anything… can you hear yourself? God has good plans for each person. we need to be compassionate to others, but also to ourselves – there are many things we need to do in our lives and good things we should experience as sentient human beings. :)

    PS. i think i’m telling my ex… we’ll just have to be friends… one hard decision is enough – they say insanity is defined by doing the same thing that doesn’t work, several times to fix a problem.

    no relationship can be intense all of the time. but,

  15. Hallie the hurt heart Says:

    do you need to have all ten? i have 4 5 7 8 9 and 10.

  16. kimba Says:

    i have been seeing this guy for two years. he cheated on me twice in the beginning. now he claims he isnt at all. but for some reason i dont want him in a sexual way all the times that he does. last night it was almost 3 in the morning and i didnt want to so he turned the tv up loud so i couldnt sleep. what is going on? any comments appreciated.

  17. ogigi Says:

    Friggin’ wow… I fall under #’s 1,2,4,7 and 8. Three years of my life gone to an A-hole. Can somebody please explain where the love went in my relationship. I’m 22, i live in one of the greatest cities in the world and i’ve dedicated the prime of life to an idiot… i guess it’s time.

  18. divine Says:

    I have a boyfriend whom i’ve been dating for 10 months.
    it seems like he still cares; he calls me frequently, asks what i did that day, holds my hand when we’re walking together (not as much but still does).. etc.
    but it seems like he’s changed a lot.
    Am i thinking too much??
    I can relate to these points but I can’t dump him.
    we’ve been through a lot and we fight every single day but when we’re not fighting, we’re like lovebirds.
    it was our anniversary last week and usually when it turns 12:00AM, he would say happy anniversary but he didnt this time.
    I don’t know what to do and even though some people might say “it’s that time,” I still can’t dump him. It’s easier said then done.
    Please help me?
    xox_jeanz_xox@hotmail.com

  19. Helpless Says:

    My boyfriend is slowly showing these signs and it is really frustrating me. I just love him so much, but I feel that he does not love me like I do him. I have had the flu all this weekend along with bronchitis and maybe even strep and my friends had to pry him to call me! We have been together for almost a year now and he does not show as much interest in me. He used to live and breathe for me and now he wants to play stupid video games and always tell me how hot other girls look, which totally degrades me. I just cant stop loving him though, I mean hopefully it will get tons better but honestly I just want the old him back. I wish he would come nurse me back to health and just call me to hear my voice in the middle of the night like he used to. I just want to be his princess again.

  20. Lisdee Says:

    Did you know that when you google for “How to dump your boyfriend”, this post comes up on the first page?

    I think that’s a good thing, though. I… need to dump my boyfriend. I’ve been putting it off and putting it off and putting it off because everytime I DO work up the nerve to start the dump-speech, something comes along and makes him declare “Wow, you’re MY GIRLFRIEND and you’re great! :D ” …how do you dump THAT? I’m gonna break the poor slobby layabout’s heart into tiny little pieces, that’s what I’m gonna do. I don’t wanna.

  21. Angelita DeBois Says:

    To Lisdee:

    I posted a new article based on your comments; how to break up. You can find it here: http://www.beyondjane.com/Relationships/How-to-Break-Up.656287.

  22. imee74 Says:

    i think we don’t need boyfriends if we can’t sacrifice for them…

  23. HollyJo Says:

    um… me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 5 months and i cant stand him anymore!! he never talks to me anymore!! he says the stupidest things too!! there is one problem though…. i am starting to fall for his best friend!! i am afraid that if i dump my boyfriend that the person i am crushing on wont want to be my friend anymore!!!! What should i do?

  24. Allison Says:

    Wow, I have alot of these problems..my boyfriend used to be the sweetest most caring guy in the world and made me very happy, now i dont ever want to sleep with him..just looking at him makes me mad and when i try to tell him about my feeling he just says it makes him really mad that I would even think like that instead of reasuring me that he really does love me and want to be with me I will sit there and cry about my feelings for him and he will just ignor me and say “I dont even know what you are crying about”.. he works monday through friday and when he does come home from work at like 4 pm he would rather sit upstairs and listen to music rather than spend time with me. I dont know what to do…

  25. July Says:

    My boyfriend does the exact same thing when i tell him how I feel he gets really upset and just closes up to me, when i cry because i feel impotent to get through him or when he doesn’t understand me..he gets even more upset.I don’t know if calling,chatting or texting other girls in an indecent way counts as cheating but he’s done that and well I just cant get that betrayal out of my mind. i am afraid he will do it again sometime and i don’t want to waste my time. when i know i can be with someone else who does appreciate me. Do breaks really work?
    I don’t know what to do I dont even like feel like doing it anymore he always wants to have sex and it has happened that we only do it like 3 times a month..I really never feel like doing it. Am i not in love with him anymore?

  26. Ilhan Says:

    Well im not experiencing none of those problems, im jus missin all da romanace. ive being with this guy for a year and a half. All my friends fancy him which is flattering coz hes wit me!!! The first 6 months were amazing he made me feel great, my heart would miss a beat evert time i was near him. Now i dont feel that no more i miss the excitement of the first kiss, n getting 2 know each other. Is that a gud enough reason 2 dump him???????
    HELP…….

  27. Sunshyne Randeen Says:

    I have been with a guy from the 2005 to present he has done nothing but to trat me unfair. We use to connect but not anymore, we do not live together and everytime iask him why has he not introduce me to his parents he said the time is not right when he his going to look for his family he does not bring me he says i’m too beautiful and his bro might like me. He has always critize me and he doesn’t know how to give a compliment he only speaks of bad things. He got be pregnant in 08 and i had a miscarriage due to him he continues to blame me for the baby and has treated me even more unfair . I have tried to break free from him many times but he keeps showing up and claims that he loves me. One out of the many times i broke up with him he began to stalk me for months. This is more than a good enough reason to dump him but i have so many times. How can i get him out of my life for good?

  28. damedsoul Says:

    Well yh im a gay guy and thts helped me alot esepcially number 8 coz tht how i feel wih my bf thnx

  29. decisions decisions Says:

    I have been with my boyfriend for three years now. I am 22 years old and he is 24. My boyfriend is a great guy in many respects. He would never cheat on me, flirt with another girl, or even come close to wanting out of our relationship. We are both musicians. We have a lot in common when it comes to our carriers and we met while we were in our undergraduate in NYC, where we still live. I feel like the biggest problem in our relationship is his selfishness and interest in very little outside of his carrier. I often feel as though we are in a long distance relationship, and living in new york city, the subway makes it possible to be able to get to each other very easily. He talks primarily about what he does every day and takes little interest in what I do, unless I make it a point that he did not ask. I am very social and he is not. He has made little interest to get to know nay of my friends, though expects me to always be there with his (his friends are great, I have no problem getting along with them). His mother loves me, so much that I feel as though she takes me to dinner and buys me gifts on holidays because she knows he does not, or claims he just is “too busy.” On our two year this past year he got tickets to a show, nice attempt! Then forgot he had to paly a concert and asked me if I would mind going with his mother to the show (why should I had been surpirsed?) He has never bought me flowers, or a card and has missed most holidays (perhaps this is selfish of me to bicker about?) When I get upset about these kinds of things, or his complete disregard for my schedule (because his is so demanding :o /) he tells me that, and I quote, “That your problem not mine.” He gets VERY defensive if I try to tell him how I feel and after three years I only want him to hear me out. If I do get “through” to him, he changes for the time being and ends up reverting back to his own ways soon enough. It is the same story and it is unfortunate that I am getting bored and lonely. I was sick this week and spent five days in bed, not leaving my apartment. He made one apperiance over the week and was on the computer the entire time and went home after the movie I was watching ended. Do I stick around and see if we grow together. Or do I realize that after three years he will not change :o ( ????

  30. ILHAN Says:

    REPLY TO decisions decisions…………
    i knw wat ur goin thru…iv been wit my guy 4 a yr an a half…. n ive realised now he’ll never change…. so ive decided 2 ave some space apart…i never call or arrange 2 meet up like i used 2 i’ve left it all 2 him, n i find dat wen im soo busy wit my own life he shows more interest…. but wen im always on da phne 2 him or wit him every oda weekend…. there isnt enough tym 4 him 2 miss him…..so i disappear for a few days every week,…… n he starts goin CRAZY for me….
    u shuld really try it, it works wonders….
    gud luck n if that DONT work u shuld let it b n move on 2 sumin betta!!….
    let me knw hw u gt on….

  31. Angelita DeBois Says:

    Ladies, if you need more information, you can check out my new article. http://beyondjane.com/relationships/twelve-reasons-why-you-allow-your-man-to-cheat-on-you/.

  32. Pixies Says:

    This post was really life-changing for me. I have been with my man for nearly two years now, but the last 6 months I have been unhappy and depressed most of the time. And I know he loves me, but I really just feel like a piece of furniture around him. Guess he is one of those emotionally unavailable men – but it makes me really unhappy.

    I got at least 6 or 7 out of 10 here, but I think the first point here was really spot on. My man does not walk that extra mile to say the least….

    Would you say a man cares about you who has in two years never bought you flowers or a present (not even for your birthday. For christmas I got my first present – a DRILL – you know one of those home tools for DIY/decorating. Yes, I was as suprised as you guys. When did I ever give the impression that I wanted a drill for christmas?).

    I am not one of those girls who need to be treated and spoiled, but come on! We all deserve a LITTLE attention!

    Another thing is that when he talks I am so bored I could die.

    I clearly need to break up, but every time I gather my resolve and starts talking he kind of twists my words so that I end up feeling guilty and almost like everything is really my fault…

    What do I do?

  33. isabelle Says:

    im not alowed to nag so i stop than he still says i am and i know im not he calls me a dog and does no cleaning his never happy and all i do is make sure he is im 8 months pregnant no way

  34. c Says:

    I really appreciate this post — unfortunately, most of the signs apply to my boyfriend & I but, I\’ve known for awhile now I need to leave. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 and a 1/2 years and we have a house together; we\’ve been living together since September of 2006… I\’m originally from a town that\’s an hour away from where we live so if I leave him I\’ll have to move back with my parents and bring all 5 of our animals with me and find a new job. My boyfriends family also lives about 10-15 min away from my parents and his sisters have told me numerous times that I should leave him…. I know, I\’m a dumb ass but, I just can\’t find the strength to do it. He is HORRIBLE to me, he does nothing but get drunk every single night and tell me how he doesn\’t love me and has been looking around for other girls but, when he\’s sober the next morning he tells me how much he LOVES me and doesn\’t want me to leave? WTF? is he psycho?! I just don\’t know what to do or how to escape.

  35. Patty Says:

    I’m not sure that this is even a problem. It’s a really long story, so I’ll try to shave it down. Basically my boyfriend and I had a pretty rough start. He was still hung up on his ex and we did a ‘let’s be friends’ thing a few times. I cared for him, but he needed time, and that was fine as I was healing from the breakup of a 21 year marriage. He was finally able and willing to try a ‘relationship’ with me about a month after finding out that his ex was in a serious relationship. That was a year ago. Now his ex is single again, and she’s clinging to his family. I’m not sure what contact there has been between the two of them because he probably won’t tell me or be honest if I ask outright. What do you think.

  36. Jessica Says:

    geeze… most of these apply to me.. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we’ve had our ups and downs as any relationship does but now I just can’t put up with him anymore. When he gets home from work I don’t even want to look at him, when he calls me I just ignore it, he keeps his phone and computer a secret because I’m known to snoop (and find things – the reason for previous break ups years ago). I understand that he keeps his phone and computer pass away from me, but if i snoop and find stuff and then u keep it more of a secret then the trust level goes down. My father was recently in hospital and I had to fly to see my family and my boyfriend was supposed to come the day after me, instead he got drunk the entire weekend and has still not asked me to this day how my dad is. I suffer from depression and was on medication but some how (i dont know why or how) he talked me out of taking that medication because supposedly depression isn’t real and it’s just a state of mind and i should snap out of it. (you can tell he is very caring). He is one of the most selfish and inconsiderate people I know. He will only help me do something if it will benefit him. He very rarely if ever goes out of his way for me. He works alot and though we live together we dont spend much time together (he works from home) and when he does make leisure time for himself it includes getting absolutely hammered with his friends with no consideration for me or my life or even thinking about spending that time with me. I’m going to break up with him and shatter his heart because he is too stupid to know he is a terrible boyfriend, even when you tell him.

    my main issue is that i don’t have any family in this city that i can go stay with if i leave him. I have no where to go and it’s just another reason not to leave him…I have never disliked him as much in the 10 years I’ve known him than I do right now.

  37. lizi Says:

    I was rushed to hopsital this week with a severe asthma attack – never suffered from it before so you can imagine how scarey it was for me.
    Meanwhile my boyfriend who is away staying with his parents and his kids from his first marriage is still busy having fun.
    He told me he would take an extra week off work when he comes back after his holiday to look after me!? When I told him I’d be better by then he said ‘well we’ll do nice things’.
    Unbelievable!
    I too can’t go anywhere – what do you do then?

  38. tiff. Says:

    when i first met him i thought he was the cutest thing..
    but now only 2months later i cant stand him..

    everything he does just annoys me..

    i feel like just slapping him and dumping him on the spot
    sometimes.. but we have class together and i dont want it to
    be awkward if i tell him i just wanna be friends..idk..

    instead of turning me on he just turns me off with evrything he says and does.. i want to dump him but i feel like im trapped..

  39. britiff Says:

    I love all you ppl who posted. I have been with my bf for 4 yrs and we are currently on a “break” we live together and we constantly fight all the time. He one day got so fed up with me that he left and went to stay at his moms. He only calls when he knows im out having fun. I love him SO much much! Although im not sure if im really IN love with him or if im just afraid to be alone and so used to always having him there… i do love having the space and I freedom. But at the end of the night still wind up thinking of him. Its hard to let go for sure but we just get along so unbelieveably well that i have never ever felt this way about anyone. Im trapped/confused/scared I need some major advice!!

  40. margo Says:

    i belive all of these are very true…i looked this up just for my friend…and she needs to break up with him like i told her to but hes in the middle of class and hes bout to walk out…there both crying…he keeps saying “no baby dont go i love you nicole ________” we dont know what to do!!!!

  41. Louisiana Lovely Says:

    For the past 6 months, I have been in a relationship with a man that has literally taken me on an emotional rollercoaster. He looks good on paper (e.g., tall, master’s degree, never been married, no children, respectful, hard-working, etc.), but once you scratch the surface, I have come to realize that this man is an EXPERT at avoiding commitment. If I stay, I will be his prey, and he will simply move on with his life. One day, he acts like I matter, then the next day, he acts like he’s not in a relationship! He has never hit me, or cursed me, yet I feel that the relationship is going no where. He is 41 years old, has never been married, and from what he says, is NOT discussing our future together. I realize that he’s a selfish, emotionally unavailable commitment phobe, so I have dumped him via email! The weird thing is that now that I have kicked him to the curb, I am A LOT more productive in my career! It was CRYSTAL CLEAR to me that he was just no good for me! I deserve better and will get it! Ladies, if you find yourself with a man and you have a twinge of doubt about his intentions, save yourself future heartache and dump him!

  42. Angelita DeBois Says:

    If you still need more information about recognizing a bad relationship, I have a new article. http://beyondjane.com/relationships/dating/10-more-signs-you-should-dump-your-boyfriend/

  43. amu Says:

    emm… well, i m in relationship since a year…
    n nw ma love is no longer in india,its been 6 months that he flew to canada . he got p.r for canada… but,he still calls everyday while goin to work,talk s nt that long as before ofcourse .. but,before when he was in india there was time when d months passed by n there was no sign of conversation..
    but,love rekindled again.. sounds funny..
    n nw i think i should end up all this stuff…
    he shows some of the above signs.. well,at the same time we are best of pals.. i m confused.. wat 2 do…

  44. Carolinagirl Says:

    HALF of this stuff is true.. its my fault it’s gotten out of hands.. in the back of my mind ive always known i didnt reaallyy love him or he wasnt REALLY the one. But even though he may not look after my feelings always, or tell me important things..like about his family, i feel trapped and lots of time unhappy..mostly wiht myself i think.. id ont like ho i am ll the way when im with him, and sometimes i cant stand the sight of him….
    he still loves me. and ALWAYS wants to see me… i know i need to end things. its going to be SO hard after. and i have a feeling he’s going to try and fight for me, which will make it even harder. i just sometimes cant wait til how FREE i’m going to feel! i hope. timing is everything. im waiting til after christmas break, i think. it may be a good time to get over him? so hard… anyways, i love the post sorry this is so long.

  45. caz Says:

    I’m so happy I found this online!! It has helped me realize that my boyfriend will never change. Never! I can relate to 1,4 & 7 ( only 4 though when he angers me because of his inconsiderate behaviour, which, sadly, is all too often!) I’m 22 and he will be 31 very soon but I cannot start 2010 with him. Although, I’m well aware it is Christmas, New Year and his birthday all within a matter of weeks – I can’t start to take this into account when he has never really taken how I feel into any of his actions. When we met back in 2007, it was great but even now, when I look back, I can see signs/ alarm bells! Christmas is something he has ever done in a big way, or at all ( I don’t ever get presents from him) due to family relgion on one side. Everything was made on his decision. I felt like my opionion or how I felt about a situation never actually counted for anything. I am really social and love being out ( I live in London) but he is happy to stay in, do nothing, not spend money (another issue) and generally make up excuses for not ever going out. He is always angry about something (his flatmates think he is angry and miserable!). I’ve even bored myself of talking about it to friends so….its’ definitely time I moved on!!! Thanks to all comments :-)

  46. Tasha Kennedy Says:

    me and my boyfriend been together 4 10 months we haven’t talk about sex he doesn’t like describing sex and putting in a sentence expect if describes a opposite gender my parnets keep wondering if i talk about yet we haven’t

  47. LaraLane Says:

    Before going out with my boyfriend I was the happiest I’d ever been, I loved being single. However I also found it fun to date random guys. Unfortunately it turne into a relationship that I wasn’t really serious about and he was. Before I knew it I was introduced to parents, grandparents etc. He annoys the hell out of me now with sexist jokes and his arrogant attitude towards lots of people. I’m going to do it after January I think. Thanks for this article!

  48. Babi Says:

    I met my beautiful and musically talented boyfriend a year ago. I lived in Ohio and he lived in aricona. We were so in love! We even shared the exact same birthday. He sold his car and his furniture and moved to Ohio with me. We lived there for 6 months and we were perfect. We eventually moved to Arizona together and since then it’s been a bumpy ride. He is a very sweet boy but he has a minimum wage job which barely helps me pay bills, he gets upset with me when I stress over money. He has never bought me flowers or anything cliché but I love that stuff. He accuses me of only caring about material things and money when really I just want to be pampered just a little. I take care of him, I take care of our house, and I work fulltime. I don’t like going out and drinking so he expects me to drop him off and pick him up late, if I don’t he makes me feel very guilty. Over all I just feel like I am dating a little boy, I know I am the best thing that has happened to him and he helps me stay emotionally stabl. Unfortunately I feel like my life is going no where with him and I can’t save any money if I have to take care of both of us. I love him so much, but we are both only 20… Should I just calm down and not act so serious? Or should he grow up? Idk which one of us is in the wrong, I am just hurting waiting for him to notice my efforts. Please offer advice. lunaequus@live.com

  49. Angelita DeBois Says:

    http://beyondjane.com/relationships/dating/10-more-signs-you-should-dump-your-boyfriend/

  50. Julie Says:

    I let a relationship drag on for years because I was afraid of being alone and never finding someone else. Mind you I’m in my 40’s so the selection of available men out there is very limited. Finally I got to the point (as mentioned above) where just the sight of him made me physically ill and nothing he did could remotely please me or get me excited. I dumped him and he still kept coming back. We went to dinner so many times as I kept thinking maybe a spark would come back. Finally got so boring I ended it for good. Figured if I’d rather have dinner with a box of rocks than him I needed to end it forever!

  51. Chelsea Says:

    Iv been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, I am 17 and he is 19. And throughout our relationship he has been very controlling. He has cheated on me several times, one girl said they had sex but he denies it all together, and the rest of the stuff it was just him saying stuff to them. But now he hides his phone from me, he never wants to speak to me and he wants me out the house all of the time (we live together since April) I cant live like this I am so unhappy, but when I say to him ‘its over’ and try and talk to him he just laughs in my face and tells me to shut up. And basically just takes me as a joke. I want to leave him but I think I wont be able to live without him, and I feel that I wont be able to find someone else because ever since I have been with him I havent had a social life and it has really crushed my confidence.
    What should I do?
    HELP! :(

  52. Anamika S Says:

    Nice Post! Those are some great reasons to dump a Boyfriend.
    http://www.infobarrel.com/25_Reasons_for_Dumping_your_Boyfriend

  53. disillusioned Says:

    cheated on me once..the very first month we started dating. He begged and i took him back. Then he started to become extremely abusive ; both verbally and physically. He used to swear at me all the time (calling me bit**,Etc) for no apparent reason. Sometimes i was blue..sometimes i was depressed. My life no longer made sense to me. He started looking around on the net, trying to seduce girls on facebook and dating sites. He has always lied to me. when i discovered his real face, i fell sick and landed in a clinic. He came to see me and announced me that he would be going abroad..i was devastated. He came back after a few days and begged. i did the mistake of melting. we spent 2 and a half years together. He treated me like shi* throughout all this time. I have been patient and forgiving and tolerated all the abuse. But yet, yesterday he dumped me like trash. Dont let the same thing happen to you. This world is still uncivilized. Beware

  54. julia tertia Says:

    This article is very well done. I’ve been on the fence for ages.. but this guy was using me. Not for sex, so I thought he was decent, but for everything else in a risky unprotected way. He told me a while ago that he’s moving in 10 months and would have moved last year if he had gotten a job I heard nothing about. Obviously he’s leaving and has no plans for me, but he’s too much of a coward to be a man, do the right thing and let me go. I’m 21. I could have done a lot worse but I also could have done better. I feel sorry for women like myself in the modern world. Our emotional softness and propensity to love is coldheartedly exploited all the time.

  55. Lost Says:

    I have been with my long term boyfriend for 7 years going on 8 years but he still has not propose to me. I am so lost and confused in why every time I talk marraige he changes the subject. We have a 3 year old little girl and latelty I have been thinking of leaving him because of his fear of marriage or whatever it may be but he knows how much this means to me. I don’t understand. Should I leave him or should I stay with someone who makes me feel bad and also has cheated on me in the past?

  56. Gem Says:

    None of these apply.. I love my boyfriend, but his parents hate me and i feel like i can’t take it anymore. It hurts me so much. My boyfriend loves me, it would crush him if i ended it. I feel so trapped.

  57. danni Says:

    I’ve been dating this guy for 6 months. He was separated from his wife for 2.5 yrs. i was there through the divorce and was there for him in every way. i needled him to help me move into my new apartment and he tells me he’s spending the day with his son and the only way he will come over, is if I’m dying! – should i break it off??he’s done something like this b4. i was in my home country but on the opposite end if the country. i didn’t know anyone. my girlfriend was supposed to pick me up, she didn’t. i had to sleep on another friend’s sofa. anyway, he didn’t care that i was stranded, he said “i knew you’d be ok”- should i break it off??

  58. Broken Says:

    Oh, goodness. These signs make me cry. My boyfriend of over 5 1/2 years broke up with me because I would no longer have sex with him. We\\\’ve had our ups and downs but I\\\’ve always managed to be the elastic band that held us together. I love him so much, it kills me. I have never pictured my life without him and I don\\\’t know how it\\\’s possible. He has hurt me so much but also loved me like no other. I feel so empty.

  59. Danni Says:

    Broken – U’ll heal – just takes time. If he dosen’t appreciate u then u should move on! I knw it hurts like hell. Keep busy and enlist friends and family. Stay strong and take ur power back!

  60. madison Says:

    umm.. my boyfriend had a serious relationship before me and we’ve been dating for over a year now , and shes constantly calling him and when i answer she doesnt care how can tell if they have anything going on or if he still has feelings for here . i need help please

  61. bubblekiss Says:

    My bf of 3 years says he is still loves with me but mentions he is unhappy with me and might wanna leave.I just don’t know what else to do as I have given these entire 3 years to commit to him and have done everything in my power to help him when he had rough times.He on the other hand sometimes treats me like he doesn’t care about what I feel even though I tell him the things that are bothering me or things that are important to me.He makes me cry every time and doesn’t even bother to console me or reassure me or tell me everything’s gonna be allright.
    I,on the other hand always supports him and gives him advice when he needs it.How can you fix things who shuts down emotionally each time there is an issue between us?How does he expect to solve the problems we have without communicating? I have changed a lot because of him so why can’t he change even a little bit for me.Why can’t he put a little more effort in commiting to me?Isn’t that what I deserve after putting up with all his problems that I had to deal with too?
    What happened to the love that he felt for me before?Isn’t it worth fighting for? He says he’s getting tired of the relationship and is thinking now.Honestly I’m getting tired too cos I keep giving and giving and get so little back.But my nature is to not give up unless its really done for because there is still love between us.I really feel hopeless.

  62. Danni Says:

    Madison – u can’t live like that, wondering evryday, is he or isn’t he having an affair – don’t go looking for something, u just may find it. Just be when ur around him and live, if u see strong evidence that he is cheating then u leave!

    Bubblekiss – u r officially a doormat and he is toying with u because he knws u’ll put up with anything he does. U train him to treat u like crap!!!! Ask urself – if u just met him and he’s acting like he is now – would u date him?

    TO ALL WOMEN – TAKE UR POWER BACK!!!!

  63. smiley Says:

    so my best friend lets call her jane (not her real name) and her bf we\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’ll call hiim bob (not his name) are dating. bob is mean to her. and me and our friends. so bob is my ex and i have had bad expierecnes with him. he wouldn\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t hang out with her bcuz me and my friends were with her. so she was mad. she says she is close to breaking up with bob but she wont she keeps giving him second chances! i need help how do i get them to break up i dont wanna soo jane get hurt. so how do i break them up!? we are in middle school by the way.. help me plz.

  64. Words Of WIsdom Says:

    You all think you are perfect!
    Do U ever ever think that you might have done something wrong, instead of blaming him?!
    No one is perfect, its all about seeing the inperfect one perfectly!
    You won’t know you had something good until U lose it!

    Treat him right and he will treat u better instead of moaning! U all know that in every relationship, at first, everything seems to be great, then later things get worse! Come on, lets face the truth….

    Life is not a fairy tale, theres no Romeo and Juliet. Life is what we make it.

  65. Danni Says:

    You all know the difference between right and wrong. You all knw the difference between what makes you feel good and what doesn’t. If it doesn’t feel right, ask urself “If I just met him and he did this, would I date him”. You will find ur answer – don’t be a doormat – u train someone how to treat u – if it’s bad what’s the incentive to change!

  66. Chelsea C Says:

    my bf & i hav been dating for 2 yrs now, unfortunately hes only 16 &im 18. his dad is strict. he lives 10 mins away frm me but whenever were supposed to hang out something “comes up” & plans fall thru, i feel like he dosent try to see me because i usually see him 1nce a week. he just tells me to stop complaining. i always tell hm i just want to spend time together. i love him SOOOOO much hes my 1st bf, but im strting to think maybe thts all, maybe my feelings are just intensified because i want it to work out sooo bad. wht should i do??

  67. marilyn Says:

    i been with my bf for 3 yrs already and i wanted to kno if it could also be if they dnt celebrate anniversaries or valentines day or any occasion where a couple should be together..and also the fact that they talk about u physically wanting u to change how u look also tht he doesnt show tht he wants to soend time with me tht i have to call him to go out or do w.e…could those be signs tht i shouod leave him

  68. islandgirl Says:

    You definitely dump person who’s like this… If they are not giving you what you want, why suffer when there are other people who can love and treat us the way we want it..

  69. Liz Says:

    My boyfriend of 3 years break up with me a week ago.. He used to say I am his angel.. He really shows he loves me a lot cos he constantly give me his time, always give me what I wanted and is very affection even consider marriage. The reason he ended our relationship was becos we always fighting over trival matters and he hated that.. Now I am no longer his angel.. Over the week when he mention the break up I was devastated, couldn’t imagine life with him.. Tried all ways to change his mind to no valid.. We are living together with his family it will take awhile for me to find a place and don’t have much friends as I was very committed during our relationship.. He given some help and even cuddle me to sleep every night ( I cried really badly). I really don’t wish to go.. HELP

  70. ALLISON Says:

    ive been with my bf for 8 months we used to think we could get married and live happily ever well not anymore he gets mad at me for every little thing when we try to talk one of us just walks off.i dont know any more the bad part is though i love his fam there awsome but my family loves him ahhhhhhhh.i dont want to hurt our family by breaking up .part of me still loves him kinda and part of me doesnt i dont know what to do any more.the thing is i think he still loves me i dont know if he does or not but i dont want to break his hard.he has an anger issue i think .somedays he gets on my nerves somedays he doesnt its like a rollercoaster.like a couiple days ago my dog died and he says “well what do you want me to do”like he didnt even care then once his sisters dog died and shes like a baby and he didnt want to be there he wanted to be with his friends his dad said he had to leave all he did was throw a fit like a bay and almost broke his hand.what do i do!!!!!

  71. Dumped Says:

    My boyfriend and I broke up 1,5 month ago.. it\’s been really hard for me to move on since I\’ve been blaming myself. It\’s the worst thing I can do but I know I\’ve made mistakes. Though when I was in the relationship I felt like he made me act clingy and get annoyed with little things, cause I was sick of him not giving me anything while I was always putting up with his laziness and his careless behaviour. We used to be so in love, he lived with me for two months after he finally moved to my country after about 8 months of dating (we only spoke online and saw each other like 3 weeks in total) And it was suppose to be amazing.. but he became so selfish. I helped him out with everything and he was always just eating, being a lazy fat ass and sitting around my house all day long. If I ever wanted something from him he would never do it, we always had to take \”walks\” cause he wanted to smoke weed and I was always so scared my parents would find out. He was the whiniest person ever when we were with my friends, he had something to say about everyone. After two months of him living in my house and basically dedicated my room to himself, it was my birthday and he didnt even bother to buy me a present, or a freaking flower. I was heartbroken, I made him feel home and did everything for him, and he couldn\’t even buy me a present. He was always playing with his phone at the most inapropriate moments. When he moved into his own apartment he told me he didnt find it nesecary to be with me every day and to be so \”sappy\” cause we had \”passed that stage now\” He had only been with me for 2 months! What the hell. I started to feel insecure and he started pushing me away, which made me act needy and paranoid. He also went out partying 2 times a month and used drugs, which made me very upset everytime he did it. I just wanted to feel loved again but he was not the same person he used to be and he broke up with me. A month later we got back together but he told me he didnt want commitment, and he said he was not able to tell me he loved me cause everything changed. I accepted that, but after a month of being together again we still had not said the word LOVE once, and it made me so sad. We used to tell each other we loved each other as much as we could because we FELT that way. And now he wasn\’t sure. He did have sex with me and told me he loved my body, which always made me wanna cry cause in my head it felt like he was just using me. I hated feeling like he didn\’t love ME, but just the sex. When he went to visit his parents I was suppose to come but he told me it would be better if I didnt come cause he wanted to spend time with his family. I was mad cause it had been our plan to go together for ages. I must admit I had been a bitch while he was gone but can you blame me? With all that pressure and not knowing if he loved me/ wanted to be with me at all. While he was gone we broke up over msn cause he told me he was going to spend his new years eve using coke with his friends instead of spending it with me after not being together for 2 weeks. Do you guys think I did the right thing? I keep blaming myself for being too needy but I know he wasn\’t the right guy for me.. I just can\’t deal with this pain and blaming myself hurts so much.

  72. Bry Says:

    I\’ve been dating my boy for 1 year and 7 months and he hasnt had a cellphone to get around to. I don\’t know if I should end it because he\’s such a sweetheart , treats me incredible yet we haven\’t spoken in 1 week he doesn\’t call me everday I know he can\’t but does this mean he could be seeing somebody else??

    What do you think, why would he do
    this??!
    email me :
    bryceydagutierrez@yahoo.com

  73. samairi Says:

    I’m having boyfriend troubles too; one day I want to break up with him, and the next I don’t. We’re in a long distance relationship, but we talk every day through AIM. Whenever we talk for more than an hour, though, he starts to really annoy me. Sometimes he won’t remember something that seems really important to me, and sometimes he just says stuff that makes me want to punch him. Okay, that may be a bit extreme, but still.
    I’ve been thinking about breaking up with him for a while now, but can’t decide whether or not I want to do it. I know I’ll feel horrible: he loves me and actually wants to marry me someday. We’re both in college, so it’ll be a while, though. But I’m certainly not ready for a relationship like that. Also, I’ve always heard that you shouldn’t marry below your intelligence level, and I really don’t think he’s smart enough to keep up with my usual conversation. That sounds horrible, but it’s true. I’m an English major, and he fails all of hie English courses. He’s bad at all things school, although he’s great with computers. I just don’t know how it’ll work out…I see his parents, who aren’t the happiest, and they’re exactly like us. His mom has multiple degrees and now teaches, and his dad never graduated college and does telecommunications. I don’t want to end up like them.
    Since I don’t have a good reason for breaking up with him–he’s never cheated or lied to me or anything–, I don’t know what to say to him. I don’t want to break his heart, but I want to be free to find another man. And I hate to use the “It’s not you, it’s me,” line.

  74. NiCoLe Says:

    Me and my boyfriend have been on and off for 2 years. We met at school and during that time I eventually moved in with him. I have been living with my boyfriend for a little bit over a year now. Some of the signs listed above I can relate to.
    Me and him argue all the time, he calls me names and then turns around and says the sweetest things. I have to say though the fights keep getting worse. Everytime I am closer and closer to leaving him. I have told myself plenty of times that I need to leave him and that I was going to, but I can’t. I love him with all of my heart and I know this could be a good relationship but as of now it isn’t going anywhere. Everyone I know tells me I need to leave him and they can see I am not happy. But I can’t do it! It is fustrating but why am I wanting to stay? I need to be a strong person and just say I am leaving but it is a lot harder to actually take action. For the sex part we use to be very active but now it barley happens and when it does I don’t feel the same as I did before. (I moved from the states to Sweden for him) Since I got here it hasn’t been the same..
    I don’t want to hurt him and I don’t want things to end badly but in our case if it does end I am sure it will be bad. I always think to myself to that if I end it will I regret doing it?

  75. Jazz Says:

    I was in one of the worst relationships ever about a year ago.
    Every one of these and more.
    Now, I’m in the best relationship I’ve ever been in.
    If you’re in a bad relationship, end it.
    It will open new doors.

  76. Shannon Mc glinchey Says:

    i have been going out with my boyfriend for over 3 years and i have a child to him the problem is that i love him somtimes and most of the time i hate him being around also small things annoying me like when he would kiss and hug away at me when im watching TV or doing homework. i have said to him lots of times that i wanted to break up and he would always cry and make me feel really bad so i give him another change but we still always fight after that i hate being like this because i used t really love him and think he was stunning and got butterflys when i seen him but now it is not like that. one of the most problem also is is that i really want to move out of my mums house and to get a house of my own and most time i want him to come and live with us but im scared that me and him will not get on. Please help me and give me advice Thanks…

  77. mari Says:

    it’s 3am and i’m still awake.. thinking of my life i have with my bf of 10 months..i’m older than him. he is 26 and i’m 31. i’m just looking for answers whether i’m just overreacting or he is not that into me anymore.. the story is my bf work requires 12 hrs/day and their company only gives them off every 14 daysto make the matter worse he lives live 45 minutes away from me and i can’t see him at night coz of our curfews here where i work so we barely see each other anymore although he does call me every night..content of the conversation is very formal “how’s your day, how’s work” same routine everyday. yesterday he exits to another country to fix his visa,hell be back tomorrow.. i tried to call his cellphone it says “its close” when finally he called me from the hotel he says that there was no signal which is totally bull coz i know it’s in roaming mode. and then early last night i was calling his hotel the receptionist told me he’s out.. i called 2x the last phone call i made was @ 12:30 am and she told me he just saw him got out again.. i am so furious.. he doesn’t even have the courtesy to call me back..maybe he is out clubbing for sure..

  78. confused Says:

    me and my boyfriend have been togeather almost 2 years. We got togeather when he was 17 and I was !6. Now im 18 and he will be 20 soon. I think he is really immature. He jus got his first job (4 months ago) and ive had the same first job for over a yearand a half. We were togeather a yr and a half and my parents and I had to pretty much force him to get a job. He still tries to bum money off me and blows his whole check like a week before he gets paid. This is our sr year in highschool and he doesnt look like he will graduate. I plan on going to college and trying to move out on my own and I wld like him to come with me but Hes 19 doesnt have a liscense or a car and doesnt kno how to manage his money and possibly wont graduate from school. Im also his primary ride to work so with out me he probaly wouldn have a job.Hes also been trying to save up for a car but tries to spend it on stuff he doesnt even need. He really needs to get his priorities straight. After graduation I plan on going to college and working But I wonr have time for school, work, and being his main taxi. Ive tried to break it off manyy times but something keeps stopping me. Any advice?

  79. Caitlin Says:

    My guy and I have been together for over 2 years. We’ve been having problems for a few months now. He often blows off dates with me, or ignores my calls. I’ve went days without hearing from him before. And when i confront him about it, he plays it off like it’s no big deal. It makes me wonder if there’s someone else….Help?

  80. sarah Says:

    OMG thanks soo much I feel the exact same way well some days I love him other days he just gets on my nerves just by doing/saying stupid things. First off he doesn’t help with our 2 kids ages 2 & 1 because he works full time & Im home all day.. HELLO being a mom @ home is a full time job dear.. secondly he annoys me all the time for example he’ll talk to someone and well say WhoOo did you hear that she just slammedd you etc… but ughhss gets on my nerves i always say im going to leave and never end up doing it… I just don’t want my parents to know whats going on with our relationship he is the father of my kids…?? well thanks for thee list

  81. Cassidy Says:

    I’m currently sitting in bed with my snoring boyfriend lying next to me. We’ve been arguing for ages – we have been together nearly 4 years, and moved in together last September. It’s not been easy – I have taken on all the financial strain because I knew he wouldn’t and I’m a bit of a control freak. Unfortunately now I see the end – I have not been able to control my psycho events (I’m not really psychotic, but some things make your blood boil when done time after time after time…) about the things he does. Basically, I am up and out to work for 7am, and I leave him snoring. I get home from work around 7pm, and he’s been home since 5pm. He’s always playing xbox with his mates, and most of the time he’s already had a couple of beers (extends to “drunk” normally later on in the evening). I come home and make his tea. The deal is that he is supposed to wash up, but I do it. He doesn’t do anything around the house, he leaves lights on, windows open and we can’t afford this place as it is. I am feeling like I have no way out – he is deluded that he can afford to stay in this same house when we couldn’t afford it between us. I don’t want him to fail, but I get the impression that he wants a mother not a girlfriend. All I want is an easy life where we spend time together and enjoy our life and make some plans, but we can’t because he’s always getting drunk. I can’t talk to him in a calm way because it’s always “I don’t want to talk about it now” so I end up bottling it up :-( I can’t afford to live on my own, but that’s not a good enough reason to stay. I’m so frustrated and sad about the whole situation because I wish he could just have a bit of respect for himself and me. He didn’t even buy me any Christmas presents last year, and he made me cry on my birthday by getting drunk and heckling people. He just makes me so sad because I love him but he’s acting like a child.

  82. ela Says:

    this is really good advice, breaking up is a complete nightmare. your head is all over the place.

  83. Linda Says:

    Talk about relationships…. huh so sad, so happy etc. What to do when you have not talk to your boyfriend for a week and he doesn’t even like to talk. What to do????

  84. Katie Says:

    I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly two and a half years now and he annoys the hell out of me! our whole relationship has been more bad than good but i’m just too much of a wimp to leave him. We’ve been on two breaks during our relationship but i’ve always gone running back to him because i feel like I can’t do any better. Sometimes we have great times but we mostly argue and his annoying habits get on my nerves so much. He messed me about in the beginning so i don’t feel like i can trust him, I feel like I’ve wasted the past two and a half years of my life with him ..but I wouldn’t have changed it for the world if that makes sense…I think it’s time for a change…i’m scared of hurting him:-(

  85. anti-tarded-boyfriend Says:

    OMG!! Leave leave leave. You are only letting these wasteful men take up good space that a replacement man could do with his eyes shut. You are on EARTH with (in fact) billions of potential partners out there. Why would you settle for doo-doo just for the sake of not breaking up?

    If your boyfriend/girlfriend isnt making you happy – leave.
    If your boyfriend/girlfriend is emotionally retarded – leave.
    If your boyfriend/girlfriend is moreso interested with friends – leave!!

    Jaysis leave leave leave lol

  86. princejr8888 Says:

    It is a long distance love affair!He got a minor knee surgical operation (a cyst),I told him to take care of him but he said he was just OK!After a week I called him up,but he sounds like mad at me,then I sent an sms to explain my side but he doesn’t reply.I was so upset and no more communications between us!After 1 and a half month,he sent an sms saying “Hello,how are you now?”
    I was shocked and broke my promise that I will never give him any calls but I can’t resist,I called him up and we talked several hours!He told me he was so depressed and thought that I changed my numbers and out of town for good! after that we met each other, we watched movies,we spend overnight in a beach resort,a little confrontation but he said,”I LOVE YOU” just to win me back and having a romantic moments in bed! I was so happy that night!He told me that he wants to live with me and do some business!Does he deserves seconds chance,or should I dump him?

  87. georgia Says:

    well me and my boyfriend have been together for two weeks now and the feeling has just gone because i have meet someone else :/ what shall i do

  88. Lilly Says:

    @Cassidy – my ex-boyfriend wasn’t a drinker but apart from that he was a kid as well. My advice is.. RUN. Men like this never grow up. I can’t really afford my own place either so I’d rather stick with renting a room or something (that’s what I do now) because after more than 2 years of relationship I just couldn’t take it anymore. We never used to make any plans either, and he wasn’t a teenager, he’s 26. He was absolutely no help around the house, he couldn’t cook, would always listen to his music and really have no plans/ambitions for the future. He would also snore as hell and always play his games. At first it didn’t really bother me but at some point, after a relationship gets more serious it’s normal you want some assurance, plans together etc.. well this one was a fail. I know how hard it is to put a cross on a relationship and be strong enough to be the one to leave, however I’ve managed to do that and although I am still a bit sad it was definitely worth it… I too didn’t feel like being a mom/cooker/cleaner for a guy older than me…

  89. Sophia Says:

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. I’m 20 and he’s 21. I’m originally from CA and he’s originally from TX. He moved to CA in 2005 and we met at the high school we both attended. He’s my first and only bf and I am his first serious gf. This past september, after enduring our first 2 years of college apart, i moved with him to TX. I had nothing but good feelings about the move. It has been 8 months since the move and I don’t know how I feel about my bf anymore. I feel as if I have so much growing to do as an individual. He has always been there to soften the blow when things got tough. He is good to me, always tells me he loves me, says that his happiness is dependent on mine. But I can’t even appreciate this anymore. I don’t feel affectionate, I get on him for the stupidest things. He tells me that if I need to be away for him for a while, he understands. How can I let this great guy go? Its not fair to him that I’m mean and depressed all the time. i feel that i need to be on my own, to stand on my own two feet for once. I don’t have many friends out here yet, money is tight, we live with his family, school is too expensive right now, and I feel like I’m having an identity crisis. should i leave him? just move out? move back home? perservere? i am in a very confused and unhappy state and i don’t know the right way to fix it.

  90. Lauren Says:

    I want my boyfriends best friend… Should that be up there? Or will it pass?

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  92. Loner Says:

    What if we have # 7 but thats it….

  93. Julia Says:

    Hello I\’m kinda fit into few of the things here.. I\’m a lady and I happen to be the one doing most of these to my boyfriend.. We are in along distance relationship. I love him so much but of recent I hate my self for loving him.. He hasn\’t done anything wrong.. We\’ve been in the r/ship for close to 2 years now and its clear that I wldn\’t see him for the next two years…. I didn\’t even call him on his birthday.. I am trying to get him to break up with me but he\’s not moved by that instead he feelos he\’s done something wrong to me. Thats making me act the way… I\’m so confused. I feel I\’m trapping him in this r/ship..I have made up my mind to bnreak up with him on saturday but stillo haven\’t got the heart……. He\’s such a joy.. I love him so much though.. But I want to break up with him….

  94. Angela Says:

    The second one isnt true.
    im in a long distance relationship.
    & we talk, all the time. but we dont
    get too see each other much,
    but we talk as often as we can

  95. Angela Says:

    & julia,
    why dont you just dump him.
    simple as that

  96. why he act like he dont no me Says:

    why does you bf act he no u and sometime come around u and stay with u and leave to go and see his firned i think he get someone be side me

  97. saffron Says:

    This was very helpful. I only had a few of the signs so now i no what me and my boyfriend need to work on to make our relationship work.
    :) thank you

  98. cherrie Says:

    i also have a bf for 8 months the first month im with him and then go out of the country, we have long distance relationship at first everything is ok we call and text each other, we miss each other later on i noticed that he doesnt even txt me anymore he just remember me if he wants something from me, and to tell u the truth hes asking money from me and i give also, when i cameback i thought everything is just ok weve been together for 1 day and after that he didnt call or txt me anymore hes always telling that hes just busy and thats the time when i was already anxious i dont know what is happening, i even saw some txt in hes cellphone saying i love you and then he said it was hes sister and of course i believe him and when we see each other again i ask whats the name of hes sister he said a different name not the name of that girl who texted him see how stupid i am? we finally broke up when we see each other wr just joking and i accidentally slapped him its the end he leaves me there in the street and i was tagging along with him saying sorry and hes already pushing me ignoring me and just walk away from me… thats the worst evrytime i think about it makes me really really mad because i lost my pride and eveything,,, its bullshiiiiit really bullshiit and i will not do it again, just wanted to forget about it completely u know i dont want to carry hunchbacks in my life i just wanted to be happy…. i feel like i did everything for him, and for only one mistake everything was already forgotten,,, lesson dont love to much maybe it is better to have a lot of boyfriends also for us to select and not all the time we are the one whos trying to adjust and wait for them,

  99. ibiso Says:

    hi, i am right now relating to all 10 of them… i dont know what to do? i love him soo much and i cant stand how ill feel if we part… pls somebody help me. lilebony15@yahoo.com

  100. marie Says:

    WOW! I was reading most of the things and well I’m a guilty party. I’ve been in a relationship for almost 3 years now and my boyfriend has done plenty to make me feel the way I do. He doesn’t respect me, from what people see in the relationship is that he uses me. He doesn’t take me ANYWHERE or doesn’t like taking me anywhere, don’t know if he is just embarrased of me or what. I try to make him happy by doing things for him but I can’t ever satisfy him. We have been through alot and it seems I’m the one always bailing us out through everything. He only wants the easy route through everything. Its always about him. He use to tell me he loves me like all the time now he doesn’t even say it anymore. He doesn’t even kiss me on the lips he kisses me on the forehead. I feel like his assistant most of the times. The times that I really needed him like being in the hospital who knows where he was. It hurts alot

  101. BeatsMe Says:

    Very intersting article. It should be an eye opener for some people.

  102. Gina Says:

    I have been with my boyfriend for about 6 months. I adore him with all my heart but he has been showing me all of these signs for the past 2 months. I am severly depressed and this adds on. It will tear me apart to break up with him beause I don’t want to be alone but WHY DOES HE DO THIS TO ME :( I wonder why guys can’t just be straight out with us but have us play this game. It hurts us so much. I adore him but he is hiurting me. Plus we haven’t gone out since my birthday(March), he lives close to me, & he never calls me unless I do. He claims hes busy. Hes a full-time student but still he never takes 1 minute of his time to call me. I just don’t want to be alone suffering my self. I adore him. WHY ;(

  103. Lynn Says:

    I’ve been with a guy for 22 years and see an eleventh sign to dump him. He won’t accept responsibility and sucks me dry in the finance dept. One thing though I keep on trying to leave and all stuff like some furniture and appliances is mine. Someday soon I’ll leave and breathe deep the air of freedom. Its hard to do now, but it will happen.

  104. Angelita DeBois Says:

    I’ve updated this article and you can find it here: http://beyondjane.com/relationships/part-2-10-signs-you-should-dump-your-boyfriend/.

  105. Robin Says:

    Well my realationship just started recently and i dont really no if it should last like i never seen him in person before only on facebook and myspace and half the time all we do is text each other and he doesn’t no how to text back fast enough sooo slow omg and he is 11 im 13 idk is that wrong?

  106. nikki fisher Says:

    wow i fall under 5,7 and 8. Are these fixable? because i really love him and i know that he loves me, just…not as much as i do him. I’m 19 turning, 20 and he’s 23 and i always feel like, A. i’m the adult, B, i’m the kid, or C, i’m the one responsible for everything. Plus he’s a total flirt!! he goes on outings with his “girl” freinds, i dont mind that part, i have a lot of guy freinds, but he always acts like it’s a date and see’s how far h can go!! it boils my blood bcause i know that he’s not respecting me, when i dont even look at other guys. But i love him so much, I feel he’s my soulmate, actually i know deep down that he is…. What do i do?

  107. trinitrish Says:

    Geez, my relationship is long distance, different countries, and trying to survive for 2 1/2 years. I feel like I am no longer important to him, that I am neglected and always the last of his priorities. We can’t see each other often but try to communicate everyday.
    He’s says he’s always working or busy with his NA. Ofcourse I have complained about feeling left out…etc and that I feel he no longer views me as any importance and that I think he should make time for me like he does everything else. If not, I suggested that our relationship is pointless. This seems to upset him a lot. The first thing he says is “are you breaking up with me or are you dumping me?”
    I don’t know, what to think. He constantly says he loves me, and even gets upset that I don’t say it back. But then his actions make me feel otherwise. We try to be open too each other and talk about people we meet, who catches our attention and if we find that we want to be with someone else, we should let each other know. We have tried to set a goal of me moving to him, that time has passed. He says he wants to get married, but I feel he just says that. He claims I am to insecure and paranoid and should trust him and believe he loves me, but I am always doubtful. It seems to push him away.
    I wish I knew what was the best thing to do. The truth is, I love him dearly. I want to believe him when he says he loves me to, but I need him to show it to me also. It is hard living so far away from each other. Maybe I am being to needy. I don’t know anymore.

  108. realeboga Says:

    My boyfriend and I are a distance away, he is in Francistown and am in Maun. We have a baby gal and since the birth of our little gal everything changed.He used to call and sending us messages checking on us and since i took the baby home he no longer calls. He does nt shw an interest on us no more and he doesnt take care of the baby and i took the matter to the magistrate. Now i v decided to end the relationship because i dn understand if he still love me. And the problem with the guy is,if i ask him if he still love me he says he love me.

  109. eli Says:

    well.. me and my bf broke up just afew days ago.. he has put me through the worst pains and yet wanting to make ME feel like I AM THE guilty one here and I ruined this relationship but just a summary of what he did i’ll say it here and YOU judge whether he was worth staying for or not..
    not only ALL those 10 signs are right about him but he also,talked behind my back to his friends (I read his emails and found it out ) and he had forgotten to delete those emails and when I told him he was shocked and didn’t know what to say (and this was only 5 months after our relatiosnhip had started)! i forgave him for that after afew fights tht we had about it,BUT after one or two months after that fight he confessed about talking to his ex when he was with me which again BROKE MY HEART BUT YET I FORGAVE HIM AGAIN! simply bcoz i LOVED HIM AND WASNT READY TO LEAVE HIM!!! then after that one day he came to me and deleted his gfz numbers in his phone n sed he doesnt need anyone but ME but guess what!!! a month after tht wen we were together n i told him to give his phone to me he didn’t say no but was reluctant to do so and wen i got his phone ALL THOSE NUMBERS WERE STILL THERE!! n now keep reading because i am NOT finished just yet!!! then after that he LIED about soooo many things which i can write a book about here and i forgave all of them but obviously still have not got over any of them or havent forgotten them but as i said i never had the strength to be alone and without him!! and always rmmbred the sweet times which made me go back to him again! and NOW after one and a half years I have broken up with him for good and that was because last week he had a “fight” with one of his friends which he never told me about in detail or never told me what it was all about up until yesterday when he told me a crap story which ddnt even make sense, but not only last week he HARDLY even texted or talked and not only he distanced himselff soooo much from me BUT ALSO i found out that he had JOINED FACEBOOK AGAIN (he had deleted it months ago for “me”) and not only he hadn’t joined fb but also ALL THE GFZ that he sed he “didn’t need” PLUS HIS EX were all back on his list and when I told him I’m leaving u bcoz of this he just didn’t even give a shit n ddnt even explain anything or respond then after i txt him afew more times he sed “im always suspicious and that’s what ruined our relationship”
    NOW whoever u are reading this I know u dont know the WHOLE story and probably it’s hard for u to judge but from what I have told u so far do u rly thnk i did the right thng?? i am still SO tempted to txt him sometimes or call him sometimes and be with him again but this time i have so much mroe hatred towards him at the times!! bcoz i cannot BELIEVE that he lied to me for over a year now and don’t know WHY he always had people on the side n always told me he loved me so much at the same time too!!!!! i am going insane bcoz i just don’t know WHYYYYY he would still blame it on me!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I mean how could i have been POSSIBLY suspicious when i saw all THESE things wit my OWN EYES!!!! how can u even call this suspicious when u have such valid PROOFS that was a jerk all this time!!!!!!!!!! and yesterday wen we sed goodbye for ever he txt me n sed “i knew ur like this and want to b with any guy ” blaaah blaah blaah he was trying to make me feel guilty AGAIN!!!! but the thing is that whenever i tell him i want to b WITH him hes always distant from me n hardly tellin me about his own life especially since afew months ago and whenever he thnks im going to date someone he says” i knew ur like this”!!! do u thnk hes messing with my mind??????
    appreicate any answers because i am going thru so much pain now and need to hear honest answers to b able to heal

  110. eli Says:

    well.. me and my bf broke up just afew days ago.. he has put me through the worst pains and yet wanting to make ME feel like I AM THE guilty one here and I ruined this relationship but just a summary of what he did i\’ll say it here and YOU judge whether he was worth staying for or not..
    not only ALL those 10 signs are right about him but he also,talked behind my back to his friends (I read his emails and found it out ) and he had forgotten to delete those emails and when I told him he was shocked and didn\’t know what to say (and this was only 5 months after our relatiosnhip had started)! i forgave him for that after afew fights tht we had about it,BUT after one or two months after that fight he confessed about talking to his ex when he was with me which again BROKE MY HEART BUT YET I FORGAVE HIM AGAIN! simply bcoz i LOVED HIM AND WASNT READY TO LEAVE HIM!!! then after that one day he came to me and deleted his gfz numbers in his phone n sed he doesnt need anyone but ME but guess what!!! a month after tht wen we were together n i told him to give his phone to me he didn\’t say no but was reluctant to do so and wen i got his phone ALL THOSE NUMBERS WERE STILL THERE!! n now keep reading because i am NOT finished just yet!!! then after that he LIED about soooo many things which i can write a book about here and i forgave all of them but obviously still have not got over any of them or havent forgotten them but as i said i never had the strength to be alone and without him!! and always rmmbred the sweet times which made me go back to him again! and NOW after one and a half years I have broken up with him for good and that was because last week he had a \”fight\” with one of his friends which he never told me about in detail or never told me what it was all about up until yesterday when he told me a crap story which ddnt even make sense, but not only last week he HARDLY even texted or talked and not only he distanced himselff soooo much from me BUT ALSO i found out that he had JOINED FACEBOOK AGAIN (he had deleted it months ago for \”me\”) and not only he hadn\’t joined fb but also ALL THE GFZ that he sed he \”didn\’t need\” PLUS HIS EX were all back on his list and when I told him I\’m leaving u bcoz of this he just didn\’t even give a shit n ddnt even explain anything or respond then after i txt him afew more times he sed \”im always suspicious and that\’s what ruined our relationship\”
    NOW whoever u are reading this I know u dont know the WHOLE story and probably it\’s hard for u to judge but from what I have told u so far do u rly thnk i did the right thng?? i am still SO tempted to txt him sometimes or call him sometimes and be with him again but this time i have so much mroe hatred towards him at the times!! bcoz i cannot BELIEVE that he lied to me for over a year now and don\’t know WHY he always had people on the side n always told me he loved me so much at the same time too!!!!! i am going insane bcoz i just don\’t know WHYYYYY he would still blame it on me!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I mean how could i have been POSSIBLY suspicious when i saw all THESE things wit my OWN EYES!!!! how can u even call this suspicious when u have such valid PROOFS that was a jerk all this time!!!!!!!!!! and yesterday wen we sed goodbye for ever he txt me n sed \”i knew ur like this and want to b with any guy \” blaaah blaah blaah he was trying to make me feel guilty AGAIN!!!! but the thing is that whenever i tell him i want to b WITH him hes always distant from me n hardly tellin me about his own life especially since afew months ago and whenever he thnks im going to date someone he says\” i knew ur like this\”!!! do u thnk hes messing with my mind??????
    appreicate any answers because i am going thru so much pain now and need to hear honest answers to b able to heal

  111. eli1989 Says:

    well.. me and my bf broke up just afew days ago.. he has put me through the worst pains and yet wanting to make ME feel like I AM THE guilty one here and I ruined this relationship but just a summary of what he did i\\\’ll say it here and YOU judge whether he was worth staying for or not..
    not only ALL those 10 signs are right about him but he also,talked behind my back to his friends (I read his emails and found it out ) and he had forgotten to delete those emails and when I told him he was shocked and didn\\\’t know what to say (and this was only 5 months after our relatiosnhip had started)! i forgave him for that after afew fights tht we had about it,BUT after one or two months after that fight he confessed about talking to his ex when he was with me which again BROKE MY HEART BUT YET I FORGAVE HIM AGAIN! simply bcoz i LOVED HIM AND WASNT READY TO LEAVE HIM!!! then after that one day he came to me and deleted his gfz numbers in his phone n sed he doesnt need anyone but ME but guess what!!! a month after tht wen we were together n i told him to give his phone to me he didn\\\’t say no but was reluctant to do so and wen i got his phone ALL THOSE NUMBERS WERE STILL THERE!! n now keep reading because i am NOT finished just yet!!! then after that he LIED about soooo many things which i can write a book about here and i forgave all of them but obviously still have not got over any of them or havent forgotten them but as i said i never had the strength to be alone and without him!! and always rmmbred the sweet times which made me go back to him again! and NOW after one and a half years I have broken up with him for good and that was because last week he had a \\\”fight\\\” with one of his friends which he never told me about in detail or never told me what it was all about up until yesterday when he told me a crap story which ddnt even make sense, but not only last week he HARDLY even texted or talked and not only he distanced himselff soooo much from me BUT ALSO i found out that he had JOINED FACEBOOK AGAIN (he had deleted it months ago for \\\”me\\\”) and not only he hadn\\\’t joined fb but also ALL THE GFZ that he sed he \\\”didn\\\’t need\\\” PLUS HIS EX were all back on his list and when I told him I\\\’m leaving u bcoz of this he just didn\\\’t even give a shit n ddnt even explain anything or respond then after i txt him afew more times he sed \\\”im always suspicious and that\\\’s what ruined our relationship\\\”
    NOW whoever u are reading this I know u dont know the WHOLE story and probably it\\\’s hard for u to judge but from what I have told u so far do u rly thnk i did the right thng?? i am still SO tempted to txt him sometimes or call him sometimes and be with him again but this time i have so much mroe hatred towards him at the times!! bcoz i cannot BELIEVE that he lied to me for over a year now and don\\\’t know WHY he always had people on the side n always told me he loved me so much at the same time too!!!!! i am going insane bcoz i just don\\\’t know WHYYYYY he would still blame it on me!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I mean how could i have been POSSIBLY suspicious when i saw all THESE things wit my OWN EYES!!!! how can u even call this suspicious when u have such valid PROOFS that was a jerk all this time!!!!!!!!!! and yesterday wen we sed goodbye for ever he txt me n sed \\\”i knew ur like this and want to b with any guy \\\” blaaah blaah blaah he was trying to make me feel guilty AGAIN!!!! but the thing is that whenever i tell him i want to b WITH him hes always distant from me n hardly tellin me about his own life especially since afew months ago and whenever he thnks im going to date someone he says\\\” i knew ur like this\\\”!!! do u thnk hes messing with my mind??????
    appreicate any answers because i am going thru so much pain now and need to hear honest answers to b able to heal

  112. victoria Says:

    A girl needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.

  113. April Says:

    I recently did have a breakup and I have been almost dead for the past four months. Though he thinks I am enjoying my freedom I still am trying to mend my broken heart. All the reasons above were true in my case.. I so hate to say that cuz I loved him so much and he did this to me. He was obsessive from the start and never ever used to trust me… I felt that I was being trapped from all sides and I needed some fresh air. My life was miserable though I had everything in it… even love then. Fights became more common… and slowly he did the worst thing ever… he cheated on me. He started talking to his old schoolfriend online and finally went on a date with her… a movie. I couldn’t take it. He tried to make it up by asking forgiveness, crying like anything, giving gifts … I tried my best to forgive and forget. I couldn’t. I even tried to go out for some lunch or a movie with him… but my heart was already broken, however much I tried it refused to beat for him. It has simply stopped, and I am desperately trying to put the pieces of my broken heart together.

    I hate myself when I think that I can’t live without him. I should try and think otherwise.

  114. jenny Says:

    my boyfriend makes me feel guilty about everything that in reality is his fault. He also gives me mixed signals, and confuses me a lot. One moment he makes me feel so bad about myself and the next he is giving me all these compliments and making me feel great about myself. I know I need to break up with him, but the feeling of guilt comes along and doesn’t allow me to do it. I feel as though, if it didn’t work out it was my fault for not working things out with him. I love him very deeply, and I’m scared I’ll regret it later on…

  115. cyndi Says:

    wow i need out of this relationship… its bad when all ten signs are the exact problems ur having

  116. mG_18 Says:

    weh! i really hate being hurt.. but my boyfriend hurting me so bad!! i never thought he can do it to me…T_T

  117. Sarah Says:

    I been with this man for about 7 months and I ready to call it a end. I have done too much for him and his family to be treated the way that I been treated. I have gotten a ticket for him took a blame in an accident for him spent countless of money on him and his family. I am tired. I moved in with him and he does not have a job the bills keep pailing up and I cant pay them.He sits home play the game,smoke, and sucks his thumb. The man is a mechanic and I need work on my car since April and he want do it. I have gone through my saving account money just to keep with life and I am tired tired tired tired. He is so lazy its to the point where I have to tell the man to take a shower. Everything was fine until he lost his job and after that it has been a down hill battle and I am sooooooooooooooooo tired.

  118. jemma Says:

    I’m seeing this boy he’s 2 years older than me mow the problem is that i’ve asked for his phone number and he says no but he treats me like I’m his little angel! So I’m not sure what to do, any advice would be nice to hear! x1306@live.co.uk

  119. jemma Says:

    I\’m seeing this boy he\’s 2 years older than me mow the problem is that i’ve asked for his phone number and he says no but he treats me like I\’m his little angel! So I\’m not sure what to do, any advice would be nice to hear! x1306@live.co.uk

  120. Karen Says:

    Some advice from doing what many of you have done and are contemplating doing…I wound up staying 22 years with a guy and wasting my life…the longer it went on it was harder to leave as our lives became more meshed. I am old now and can no longer have the children I wanted with someone who would have been good to me…I missed out on a life of quality and fun. Don’t make the same mistake as I did. What I learned which is what I can say I gained from all my pain….

    You can love many guys in your life…not every one of these guys will be compatible for you. Leave the “loves” who don’t treat you well for many reasons.
    1)- another better love will come along but not if your with the jerk…you will be too emotionally messed up in it to be with someone else.
    2)- he will probably leave you anyways as he is not respecting you, or he’ll stay and continue to hurt you for his own gain…your self esteem will suffer even more making you damaged goods for someone healthy for you…”who can love me if this jerk couldn’t even?”…you will make further bad choices afterwards if your self esteem feels you don’t deserve better than mistreatment.
    3)- how freeing for you and such a boost to your self esteem if you tell yourself you will not stay with someone who does not treat you as you should be treated. If you have your dignity and self esteem intact, you will attract so many guys as self esteem is the sexiest thing in the world.
    4)- in rare occasions it may give the jerk an opportunity to see the error of his ways and make some major changes…I promise you he won’t change anything if you stay…you make yourself a door mat and both of you will always play that role…how sad for your life.
    5)- you may marry him or have a child with him and be even more stuck than you already are…there is a saying out there…”marry someone who treats you as a queen, as once you’re married it’s only half as good”. Divorce is very costly and people and relationships do not change after children or marriage (see above saying).
    Do not stay with someone who mistreats you in any way, and if you feel you love him, do what another saying says, “if you love something set it free and if it comes back to you it’s yours, but if it doesn’t it never was”…make sure the guy has made all the changes you need made if you do accept him back.

    I am now free and the happiest I’ve ever been in my life…I’m dating quite a few very nice and healthy guys (actually 3, as I’m not putting all my eggs in one basket…lol) and I’ve dated more, but at the hint of any crap they are gone (I won’t settle, I don’t have another 22 years to waste)…I’ve now realized that I’m amazing, and the guys I’m dating now are amazing too (it’s the self esteem thing)…OMG, why did I waste such time of my life when there is so many wonderful guys out there for someone who has now got back their self esteem?…life is simply amazing now!

    Get out of the relationship if you can see yourself in any of the 10…or renegotiate the relationship as a few of you have been able to do…for the rest of you, find the next love who will make you feel like a queen.

    Good luck.

  121. kirsty Says:

    i need help people ive been going out with my boyfreind for nearly 2 years in november it was great at the start we would be so excited seeing each other now im like argueing all time he says stuff just annoys me i love him but the reason why i hate him for these things is when we meet and we going out for dinner pics dancing and i get ready look nice take my time he doesnt even say aww u look realy nice whn i meet him i have to tell him so do i look nice and when i askd him bout why he do this bcause its became a regular thng he like well whats the differerence what u do that makes me say aw u look nice like his excuse he sees me everyday and its just the same qlso little things like holding my hand and he never kisses me never i have kiss him i dont get it is it because he is a guy he says he loves me thinks im everything but why is it so hard 2 complement me i say 2 him all time send him sweet txts he doesnt i gave up on him thats why im always unhapy whn im with him or dontcare argue with him for nothing but it bothers me that he doesnt be like this when we met he was so romantic like for a whole year and bit now its like whatever what do i do and if i say 2 him he says stolp complaining or im having enough this shut up goes angry

  122. Karen Says:

    Read my text above yours for more advice.

    You are arguing with him trying to get some ( any) ‘emotion’ and any ‘attention’ from him. If you can’t get good attention and positive emotions from him, you will try to take the negative attention and negative emotions from the arguing…that’s why you pick the fights. He may also say in the fights and out of anger that of course he loves you just to get you off his back (or you maybe hope he does say that) which may make you feel better for the moment, but it keeps you there in an unhealthy situation saying, “maybe he does love me”…remember that actions speak louder than words! The anger you let out also may make you feel better and “stronger” because you feel you are dealing with things and have some control (this is dysfunctional and an illusion)…he does not respect you or care to deal with anything or he would talk to you about your concerns. You are also probably believing that if he takes the energy to argue back with you he must care…he just simply doesn’t…and also when you argue with him you make yourself his “total” attention because he gives you none so you like it on some basic level for you to continue….you have a slight “gain” (in your mind) while arguing with him in a bad relationship that has no gains for you….this is so dysfunctional on your part too…now do you see why you argue and pick fights with him???…you have a dysfunctional unhealthy tiny gain!!!! He will most likely leave you soon or he will wait until he has sucked you dry of all he can get from you….so you be the one to walk with your dignity and self esteem intact and find a nice healthy guy who loves you and respects you. Any chance of him changing would only take place after you leave him anyways. Sad life to be with someone who doesn’t respect and cherish you enough to give to you emotionally, and you will suffer greatly staying with him as things are (you will also continue to try your dysfunctional part of arguing for the miniscule gain you think you get)…people need love and respect to be happy, and your relationship with him will be very painful for you if you stay.

    And If you seriously can’t walk, then stop arguing with him (it will put his attention back on you of “what’s going on, she’s not acting normally”)…it will also stop you from your own ‘dysfuntional’ part in trying to feel valued and loved by him…you cannot make someone love you. Then make him your ’second’ priority by going out with other friends and not being around so much…get yourself back in the driver’s seat of your own life and only be available a lot less often…this will help you not make him your total focus in life, and maybe allow you to meet someone else, or at least for you to see the relationship is unhealthy from seeing it at a distance…he may also take a better look at himself and how he’s treating you but that is rare as it takes an emotionally healthy person to see themselves and make the needed changes and he sounds far from emotionally healthy. You cannot give all of yourself to someone else in any relationship…very dangerous and unhealthy for you…in normal relationships you do not give to another your total self and you at this point have made him your total focus and have made yourself vulnerable to him by giving up yourself totally…so you need to step back and take a look at what you have been giving up to be with him.

    And first years don’t count for anything…it’s the honeymoon phase (everyone is lovey dovey)…it’s the years after that which say whether you should be with that person long term or not and in your case you should really just get rid of this unhealthy guy.

    Romeo and Juliet…”how romantic”? This story is not meant to show you undying love…the irony is meant to show you how you won’t have a life if you totally give yourself up to another…that’s the tragedy of the story we have all romanticized.

    Good luck.

  123. Karen Says:

    I almost forgot to mention… If you have given yourself up to someone totally and are willing to do anything and everything to keep them (and worse yet if they are seriously mistreating you), you really need to work on your own self esteem and ability to love yourself…someone who loves themselves will not be sitting around allowing another to make them feel bad or inadequate…and anyone who does allow that is not healthy enough either and needs to take a serious look at themselves…it also takes two people to keep dysfunction continuing in relationships. Healthy relationships are not ones that are in constant pain and turmoil. Healthy relationships for the ‘most part’ are ones that have respect, love, and make us feel good about ourselves and the person we’re with.
    And if we want to be door mats, anyone will walk all over us.
    We can only change ourselves…very valuable lesson for us to remember.

  124. Karen Says:

    Jemma, check for the missing tan line on his left index finger…and if he’s not married then he is certainly engaged or has a steady girlfriend. You say that he treats you like his “little angel”, so the relationship is at a level where phone #’s would have certainly been exchanged. There is no other reason he wouldn’t give his # therefore unless he’s a policeman or government official or some other high ranking official who has to make sure the relationship is ok first before giving out his #…I’m guessing that’s not who he is, but even if he was it would still be time to # exchange. I’m dating a high ranking police officer and I have his # and his e-mail address and I know where he works and we’ve only been on two dates….I had his # before we even went on the first date. You need to stay away from him…angels deserve better than that.
    Good luck.

  125. velma Says:

    Simple and plain. Men just do not know what they want sometimes. Today they love you, tomorrow they want to be alone, the next day they stop calling, and worst you never find out why they shifted on you after making love to you all night long. Therefore, men are jerks. Repeat. Men are jerks and these are the type that usually end up with women who will destroy them and turn them into homosexuals. Good riddens.

  126. katie Says:

    I apologize for my grammar mistakes – I was in hurry when I was writing all of this. One more thing- he really seems to want to make things work between us as he told me that he want us to go to see the therapist. Im just not sure if it\’s gonna help and besides I dont like other people involve into my personal life. Thank you all for you advices.

  127. miranda hill Says:

    my name is miranda and ive been dating my ex-boyfriends bestfriend for almost 5 months now. this is my longest relationship and my whole family is proud of me for it. me and him both work full time and live on opposite parts of town so i never really get to see him, sometimes it’ll be 2 weeks before i get to even see him once. ive met some great guys friend through him and theyve told me if i break his heart they will be mad at me. I took his virginity and now i feel that i am trapped. Because when my virginity was taken the guy broke up with me in a week and it hurt. I am missing the freedom of being single. so i guess what i am saying is im scared to break up with him. and if i do i dont kow if he would even want to be friends with me.

  128. Jessie Says:

    hi my boyfriend is always saying that it would be best if we split up as my parents dont really like him, and it hurst me because he dosent say how much he cares anymore, he prefers to show it more than say it, and im fed up of him,just wanting one thing, it takes more than that, but when ever things get bad he wants to end it, as he says he cant take it antmore, i love him so much, but he has changed, i have only been round his 3 times, his parents never invite me round there’s, we have been together for 1 year and 6 months nearly,

    wot do i do ??? plz help me .

    from Jessie

  129. Suzan Says:

    I have a bf and I feel he is always playing games, is like when I say I love him he take me for granted and when I ignore him he care about me I love him but Im tired to play games ´he says he loves me be he does not show it

  130. lalala Says:

    asshole ! complete asshole …~
    but i still love him

  131. lol, i guess cheated on Says:

    ok girls.
    im actually a guy. a gay guy, and recently learnt that my bf is basically a piece of whatever. he moved away to montreal, i was supposed to join him in 2 months. well, i was, cuz after 5 days of being apart he slept with someone else, which to him seems totally normal. so yeah… i do love him, he proposed cpl months ago, but what can you do??? one thing is certain – dont be with someone when love becomes only one sided. ure gonna end up being even more hurt. easier said than done – im still trying to convince myself, but yeah, in my brain i know that.

  132. agjklhhannahaliet Says:

    What I love about this, is that all of it (except the sex) describes me and my best friend in the last couple of days.

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  134. kb Says:

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  137. Ren Says:

    When they say your first name. Going with “We need to talk”

  138. Brandon Says:

    although guys do, do this, its not always like this, i have learnt from experience that this happens TO men aswell. i have had many a relationship where it has ended badly for me, not because i was a bad boyfriend, but because simply she lost interesnt, im not saying its all the womens fault, but sometimes you get the relationship where its the guy that is getting “lead on”

  139. damul711 Says:

    Going with “We need to talk” wel don.

  140. sabrina Says:

    I love my boyfriend very much but he beats me and i dont know what to do…:( and he never lets me win in mario party and he fARTS CONSTANTLY

  141. Limba Says:

    I’ve been with my boyfriend about a year and a half, known him about two years. I just wanted to comment because I see a lot of younger folk commenting and I want to say that relationship troubles are not limited to the teens and twenties. I’m 32. I met a man while I was traveling abroad. I gave away everything I owned, my house, my friends, my family and moved to another country to be with him. Shortly after he stopped saying he loved me, stopped wanting sex, stopped wanting to go and do things and started getting very angry very often. Now he spends all of his waking hours on myspace flirting with half naked women or taking pictures of himself with his arms wrapped around his ’school partners’. A great hobby for a 33 year old man. If I ask about it, he throws a tantrum like a 5 year old. He used to drive me wild but now he just disgusts me. Right now I’m in the process of going back and picking up the pieces of my former life. Sometimes you just don’t know a person as well as you think you do and it’s better to move on, no matter what age you are or what the circumstances are. Good luck to all of you out there trying to move on. It’s not easy but sometimes it has to be done.

  142. 123 Says:

    this is extremely sexist

  143. Carl Says:

    I like your list. You should check out this list of 10 signs you should break up with your girlfriend:

    http://www.bofads.com/stories/breakup.htm

    You could have a competition!

  144. Glabe Says:

    This isn’t sexist… it’s obvious the article can go both ways, but who wants to read “he/she” all the time? (or “she/he” if you think “he/she” favors males)

  145. jj Says:

    i find it peculiar that so many of theese articles giving advice about relationships, and more specifically about how to deal with men in relationships, are written by women.

  146. Juli Says:

    My boyfriend has changed to a high maintenance lover. I feel like we are not meeting half way to make relationship work anymore but I love him to bits. I think it is because I have dumped him (twice)out of the blue and for lame reasons before and he cannot really trust me anymore. I AM NOT DUMPING HIM THIS TIME.

  147. Love2BInfatuated Says:

    Often, these things happen because many people confuse infatuation with love. Both genders are guilty. These same individuals will often find that the \”law of diminishing returns\” apply at a much faster rate.

    #4 and #6 fall under heavy prey.

    If you love someone, I don\’t think you should be able to make a list of the reasons why you love them because there\’s going to be someone else out there who out matches that list. There needs to be some *inexplicable* reason you want to spend your life with that person– lets call it love.

  148. Dewan Golam Shafi Choudhury Says:

    I agree with the signs…sometimes a relationship starts turning cold after a few weeks…:(

  149. May Avalon Says:

    on the 10th one i really do agreed with u on that, i know how much it feels like to me when i get a txt EVERYDAY sayingi love u i miss u i want to hold u, i jus get tired of it so i had no choose but to get some air and had to break up with my bf who i only went out with a week

  150. A Says:

    Is any of this really a surprise to you women? Cause I was thinking “No duh” for every single one of them. Or is this just a case of you need to see it and hear it to know.

  151. kmm Says:

    dump him if he has to tell some new chic that he says is an ‘old friend’ that he went north to see family when he really came to see you!

  152. deklin42 Says:

    Awesome article. very very very informative.

  153. Josh Phoenix Says:

    My recently ex girlfriend did most of these things…she was really the guy in the relationship….

  154. D.D.09 Says:

    I’ve been dating my boyfriend for two and a half years. I recently broke up with him after spending the night in the emergency room becuase he got so drunk he split his head open falling down. I can’t be with someone with such a bad problem and is unwilling to do something about it. Yet the love has never been lost and when he’s not drinking I never want to be without him. I still haven’t had the courage to tell my friends we broke up and I can having a hard time dealing with my decision. Am I being heartless by not sticking by his side when he is in trouble or am I doing what is best for me by not being stuck with someone who may never change.

  155. Michie Says:

    So, I’ve been googling a bunch of things about my relationship and then i come to this. I feel like this answers my problems with my boyfriend. Recently on Saturday was our one year and it was perfect just how you would want to celebrate your anniversary, but in between all of that we have been fighting like animals which has been making me feel so down and depressed, like if I don’t have a smile on my face I just want to cry. This is my first long term relationship and I love him so much and i know he loves me sometimes, I’m just stuck right now. I have no idea what to do. I feel unappreciated. He’s ALWAYS playing his Xbox when he invites me over and I have to sit and watch sometimes I try to play so that we could just hang out. He doesn’t get that I do things for him that I would never ever do in my life for anyone. Also, I’ve been having these crazy dreams of him cheating on me but I don’t think he would ever. What do I do???

  156. reciel tanaid Says:

    thanks for sharing

  157. Jemimah Leah Says:

    haha… no boyfriend… no problem… :)

  158. hilary williams Says:

    i have a man i’ve been with for almost four months, and it’s been a long distance relationship for two months, i knew in the beginning i really liked him but now i’m nt so sure. he’s been cheated on bfore so he has trust issues with other people he says and nt me and i talked to him abt tht cause i was starting to subconciously fall in line and worry abt him worrying abt me going out, and i talked to him abt it and decided i wasn’t gonna worry anymore and he was gonna get over it with time, but my mom says people don’t change. the way my family, and friends have been talking they say i shld break up with him, and i’ve been thinking abt it alot lately, but i don’t want to break up with him. it’s jst things haven’t been the same lately and i haven’t felt the same connection tht i did in the beginning though i feel it sometimes when i go to visit him. he asks me what is wrong, and he’s a very sweet guy but idk what to tell him or what to do. any ideas/ email me at magiccandle19@yahoo.com

  159. uchiha096L Says:

    hmmm… as i went on reading the article… i realized… that here are some of the signs my boyfriend should know it’s time he dumps me. I don’t really know what’s with me… i just felt that the relationship that my boyfriend and i have isn’t working… but i can see him putting a lot of effort on making it work… he makes me feel that he cares for me like no one else does…and i’m feeling so ungrateful to him… we want different things… i’ve tried breaking up with him many times… but… he doesn’t seem to wanna let go of me… and i’m just waiting until he finally realize that it’s really not working and that he dump me… i have already become the invisible woman, i’ve become miss X and i’m very secretive… still he’s not letting go of him… what can i do about this?

  160. uchiha096L Says:

    i meant “he is still not letting go of me”… :(

  161. Penny Says:

    Hey ladies, if you have talked to your man 3 times about something major and he keeps going back to the way he was, he either won’t change ever and certainly won’t do it while you’re with him. Dump him and tell him why, he might learn after you dont let him back in or he might never, either way you’ll be free to find someone who can learn how to treat you or just does treat you right to begin with. Believe in miracles. Sometimes things dont work out, its not the end of the world.

  162. kare n Says:

    I cant believe how accurate this list is..it was dead on in so many ways..the number 1 reason is the actual reason i broke up with my bf and father of my baby..it was the last straw! He saw me suffering with a migrain, and actually hid the asprin! and totally cut me off sex when i was pregnant, but we never resumed after she was born..We used to be very passionate, but he decided to cut me off cold, and never wanted to do it again..and when we broke up, he decided he did want me, but i was no longer interested lol

  163. jaimemragos Says:

    How about your suggestions when to dump a girlfriend?

  164. tammy Says:

    been with him many years, he has a friend icky vicky he calls her, hes always using her to make calls look up info and there always talking when he needs something, he just recently started taking her kids on little outings im working out of the country and cant get skype to work so i email her to give him a simple message she sends one back saying she gave our guy his mess when he brought home his step sons , a day later skype works he says he never got a message, she sends another saying how he says shes his main squeeze and how great they are in bed together, of course he denies it…so whos the liar here,, i work alot out of the country he lives with me, and of course its not perfect, but im sure he loves me.. now theres that doubt.. any suggestions

  165. Juliet Says:

    Dear Eli,

    Your story reminds me soo much of th pain I have gone through with my on and off boyfriend. What I would say is find something you love to do or hang out with your friends and make him see that you are not sitting aroung mopping. Also, dont under any circumstances let him make you feel guilty for anything, you saw it and your instinct was right. it hurts now but stay strong, you will emerge a stronger person. Before you text him, ask yourself, why shouldnt he be the one to initiate the text. otherwise he will always take you for granted. You deserve so much better. You will be fine.

  166. Juliet Says:

    Tammy,

    I’m sorry but I think your boyfriend likes to double dip and wants you and icky vicky. I know it will hurt to tell you but I think he is sleeping with her. if you are out of the country all the time, I feel you could be his number 2 because he probably feels you are never there enough. I think he loves you but he is just very selfish and not considerate of your feelings. Only you can know how he feels about you but I would find someone who is not seeing other people and thier kids. All the best

  167. shraqs Says:

    Just dump him and find another one that suits you the most

  168. srbasu Says:

    Very Good Information, Thanks for Sharing.

  169. Dolly Says:

    Sigh ok so ive been with my bf for a year now , and he is like a damn pig , sometimes i think hes too attached to me , he tells me he love me and he cant see me with anyone else , but i always ignore him , because he fooled around with my emotions too many times before !
    We are always argueing ! like LITERALLY!!! he always try to calm me down but hes the reason why im always bitchy!
    We break up , make up , break up make up , i tell him that if i dont make him happy to mve on with his life and find someone that makes him happy , i tell him to stay away from me and leave me alone , but he DONT he really really dont , he claims he wants to be with me and he cant let me go , i think if that was true he wouldnt be fooling around , i have lost all trust in him , and thats not good for our relationship i feel as if im giving it my all and he doesnt even care , when i leave him , he does not stop calling my phone , he comes by my house , whats next?? :(
    i really love him and i really want it to work but i feel as if im wasting my time !

  170. yoel1979 Says:

    I am pleased with this article, in order to remind everyone to learn ethics.

  171. A. Giovanni Says:

    Fun and informative! Great job!

  172. chearenas Says:

    gosh, i really can relate from your article. These are exactly the symptoms and observations i am experiencing right now. You’re right, no situation is unchangeable… i should rethink and better move on.

  173. Kermitnz Says:

    Decisions Decisions…
    I have a kind of similar thing with my boyfriend of eight months. He’s a musician and all he seems to care about is his music. I know that he loves me but he never seems to put the effort into me that he used to. At the start all he wanted to do was to be with me and now I feel like his guitars are taking over- he even wants to sleep with them sometimes. I’m doing a politics degree and don’t end up putting nearly as much time into it as he does his music. I’ve been really unhappy for the last few months to the point that we are having fights all the time. In the middle of fights he just walks of out of the apartment in the middle of the night to play guitar instead of actually talking over problems with me.

    I’ve been sick for the entire time we’ve been together and I get recurrent bouts of coughing as well as having really low iron which makes me tired and dizzy and often gives me headaches. It feels like he has no empathy for me at all.

    He also consistently watches films on his laptop so now if i need him to help around the house his excuse is that he needs to study but he always watches movies instead of studying.

    As a result I feel like I’m loaded up with doing all the housework, plus my own exams to study for and on top of that I’m so sick that doing everything becomes even harder.

    Our relationship has so many of those factors above but I don’t know how I could possibly leave him. Sometimes he shows the most amazing kindness and lovingness that I realise how much we mean to eachother but the fighting is driving us both crazy.

    What’s the worst at the moment is he gets furious when I cry. I feel like I just need to cry to get the frustration out but he can’t stand it and goes nuts.

    I really love him and his family, and we share so much of our life together so it’s really hard to leave him but I’m really unhappy. After a fight I was angry and changed my relationship status because we said we were breaking up and everyone was horrified. Our lives are so interlinked it’s really hard.

    What’s worst is I think he’s still in love with his old crush/best friend. He’s assured me he isn’t on a number of occassions. But he still has some contact with her over facebook messaging. He’s not really social so I usually update his profile for him but today I couldn’t help noticing her messages. It’s kind of hard for me too gauge because my french isn’t that fantastic but they seem to have really kind lovey relationship and it really upset me because the words he uses with her are never the kind he uses with me.

    I really don’t know what to do, I’ve tried leaving but I can’t. Equally, no matter how many times we have discussions about it he won’t change his ways.

    What can I do?

  174. Lenjur Says:

    Interesting information. Great post

  175. Rajiv Sighamony Says:

    I appreciate the observation you had made in your points.

  176. molly Says:

    i’m gonna dump him now, he makes me sick!!!! he does all the bad above mentioned things. he never calls me unless i do, he tells me that women are nagging that’s why he does not want to meet with me everyday and that’s why he does not like somebody who expresses their feelings towards him. i think he does not love me. he does not answer my call during weekends and always lie that his phone was on charger. he is really a pain in an ass. he gives me the tough thinking though i love him, i must dump him. thank you a lot, i didn’t know how i were going to do it.

  177. Me tooo Says:

    I have my boyfriend he is totally not romantic at all and some times I see hem ugly and some times cute and his Arabic and I don’t like people talking Arabic a lot he doesn’t even talk English I can’t break up with hem because once he asked me to be his gf and I said yes that was my mistake at 1st I didn’t like him a lot so I breached up with hem then I regret it so I ASKED hem to be my bf he says no now icant break up with hem because it’s just wronge so what am I suppose to do.

  178. Me tooo Says:

    Sry he says yes

  179. katie56 Says:

    I\’ve been with my boy for a half a year now and I dont know what to do. I love him and we are having a good relationship, we trust each other and talk about all the problems we have but what bothers me about him is that he is often so unhappy and serious about everything I say. When he has his bad days i say \”it\’s ok, just relax\” and Im trying to cheer him up but then he tells me that im not accepting him for who he is and he\’s frustrated because, as he says, im trying to change who he is. He does have some issues with himself and he feels insecure about himself but i saw how wonderful he might be if he only does not reject himself. I dont know what to do anymore because on his bad days he blames me for not being supportive girlfriend to him and im so annoyed with his pessimistic attitude. In fact, he says everything is gonna be ok but I dont believe that he is gonna be ok and I think that he will always talk a lot but act in a different and lazy way.

    What do you think I should do? Please help me out I really want someone to respond to me.

  180. katie56 Says:

    He’s is a perfect boyfriend- he cares about me and is there for me when I need him but he has no sense of humor and that’s a big problem for me because I like to laugh and I often am sarcastic but he does not get it. The other thing that bothers me is that I dont really like how he acts around people and sometimes I feel embarrassed by what he says and how he acts around my friends.

    Do you think I should dump him? But I do care about him a lot…

  181. BabySocks Says:

    Katie56,

    How can he be “perfect” if he then does all those things you listed? That doesn’t make sense at all. You can care about someone all you want but if you aren’t happy, don’t laugh, and get embarrassed by him, it’s time to let him go.

  182. Dazed & Confused Says:

    I am in my late 30s and engaged to be married this summer. I have been dating my fiancee for 2 years. He is in his 40s. He is a very good man. He is hard working, fiscally conservative, considerate, loving, caring, affectionate, a great lover, fun, etc. The problem is that I do not care for his family, immediate and extended. They are a bit on the eccentric side. Honestly, I am embarassed by them. I think he agrees with me because he tried to shield me from them for over a year after we were dating. I expressed to him my reservations about his family, but he keeps insisting that I will never see them, because he is not close to them, so that they will not be a problem. But, I believe that you do marry the family. Once we have children, his family is going to be more involved in our lives, I would believe. I sometimes feel like my fiancee is adopted, because everyone in his family is strange, except for him. For example, he has a sister in law that is bipolar in my opinion, and is constantly arguing with everyone around her. The rest of his immediate family has some sort of eating fetish. Irrespective of weight related illnesses, they eat crappy food because it’s easier. I try to eat all natural foods and I try to cook it myself as often as possible. My fiancee tells me that his family doesn’t care about living a long life, as long as they are happy by eating what they want. I belive it’s irresponsible to live like that, especially when some of them are bordering on obesity. My fiancee is thin now, but he said he used to be heavier. He works out all the time though, and watches what he eats, but he also loves to eat a lot. Also, he has a very small family but they are always arguing with each other and not talking to each other, which is going to make seating arrangements a nightmare. My family is rather large, and although there may be some people who don’t get along as well as others, they are mature enough to make nice when we have family gatherings. His family is not like that. They are immature and selfish, and won’t even make nice for one day out of their lives to make him happy. They are also very cheap and have no taste whatsoever. I am all for saving money where you can, but believe that you can still look nice and save money. Lastly, my fiancee is starting to annoy me with his obsessive habits and other habits which I am starting to believe are anxiety driven, like tapping his toes constantly, making repetitive strange noises all the time, especially when he is stressed, making repetitive gestures when he is stressed, etc. Also, when we go out as a couple to socialize, he gets really shy for whatever reason and follows me around. He is getting better with that, but he is not a little boy, so I am concerned about this behavior. He is very aggressive and a go-getter with work, though, so I don’t get this behavior at all, because I am very social with all of his friends. All in all, I am starting to see some warning signs that marriage to him may not be that easy at all. However, he loves me more than anything, and would do anything for me. I have been loved before, but never like this. I love him as well, but want to change him. Most of all, I am petrified that my children will take after his side of the family, and that I will have to deal with these issues forever. I am so confused. On one hand, I dont’ want to throw away a great 2 year relationship with a wonderful man who I believe, would be a great husband and father, but on the other hand, I am petrified that I am settling and that I am shortchanging myself. What do I do? Help!!!!

  183. collectorofarticles Says:

    I think most of what was mentioned above are true but I also believe that in the end, it really depends on fate. Eh. :>

    I have been reading few of your recent articles and I enjoyed it so I added your article in my blog. I hope you don’t mind.

    Articles Museum

  184. Ariam Gore Says:

    i been with my boyfriend for 10 years we dont live together. I dont know what to do. We have change our weeding date because he never has money. I have help him alot i dont know if i love him he is always telling me that he is going to help me with some bills and he never does i live with my two children good boys. He lives with his mom and does not pay any bills of rent his been driving my car for one month because he lost his car he also has gambling problems last week he lost 1,200 and he got mad at me beacause i did not loan him my rent money he said that he was going to pay it back. He owes so much money. Should i stay with him

  185. May Says:

    I’m going on 2 years with my boyfriend and we have lived together for a little over a year I love him with all my heart but I feel as if what he feels for me is nothing close. He tells me when I ask him how he feels like that I’m his baby forever and that he cares about me and for me to not forget it. I wish that he would actually act upon it though. I’ve yet to receive flowers, have only received a card because I asked for one, he shows no interest in anything that I want to do. On the other hand he has helped me out immensely with financial problems and I feel that if he didn’t care about me he never would’ve offered in the first place. I’m really confused. I try talking to him and telling him how I feel and he’ll act like he cares and try to comfort me but then eventually goes back to his old habits. I tell him everyday for the last couple of months that I love him and he replies your mine and kisses me, I don’t know if he’s just scared to tell me that he loves me if he does or if he just can’t love me.

  186. May Says:

    I\’m going on 2 years with my boyfriend and we have lived together for a little over a year I love him with all my heart but I feel as if what he feels for me is nothing close. He tells me when I ask him how he feels like that I\’m his baby forever and that he cares about me and for me to not forget it. I wish that he would actually act upon it though. I\’ve yet to receive flowers, have only received a card because I asked for one, he shows no interest in anything that I want to do. On the other hand he has helped me out immensely with financial problems and I feel that if he didn\’t care about me he never would’ve offered in the first place. I\’m really confused. I try talking to him and telling him how I feel and he\’ll act like he cares and try to comfort me but then eventually goes back to his old habits. I tell him everyday for the last couple of months that I love him and he replies your mine and kisses me, I don\’t know if he\’s just scared to tell me that he loves me if he does or if he just can\’t love me.

  187. Nadia =] Says:

    [Sigh] I can relate to all of these. I really am starting to hate my Boyfriend. He is becoming more of a problem then a lover. We only have sex once a week and its slowly becoming more of a way for him to not catch “Blue Balls”
    I always am the one to initiate the sex. He makes me want to throw up just by looking at him, Everything about him has become ugly to me and i really dont want 2 be with him anymore. sad to say but true. thanks for the signs.

  188. Gatomon Says:

    Im a boy and i can say thats the most important in a relationship.. even if i never had one.

  189. Alicia Says:

    This really helped me… I know it’s just one person’s opinion, but the signs seem to be right on. I have been in a relationship for a while, and I didn’t think that I was unhappy, but at the same time, I wasn’t sure that I wanted to continue the relationship. Thanks to your signs, I realized I’m not unhappy at all. I feel loved, and even though I feel like we might be going through a “boring” stage, I think it will get better, because only one of these signs work for me, and it’s not a big deal. So thank you.

  190. BluSphere Says:

    Great, thanks. It helped me.

  191. Anonymous Says:

    My man has been misunderstanding about many things, we have been having communication problems. I keep trying to let him know things will be fixed, we haven’t seen each other for a few days now (we used to see each other everyday) and he barely calls or texts me, lets me know he still wants to talk to me, but has been the biggest asshole you can’t even imagine. He treats me like crap because of all these misunderstandings. I cannot let go of him because I feel like he’s the one….what should I do?

  192. reba Says:

    hello i am dating this guy for a year.he has played more head games then enough but when we broke up he found out that some one asked me out and he wanted me back.we got back together but there is no communication,closeness,he only does things i tell him to but i feel he is with me for the wrong reasons
    i really don’t know if he loves me.i don’t feel loved.he only has sex with me because if he doesn’t he thinks i’ll get mad (which i would).if my bf doesn’t make out with me i don’t feel that special love that only he can give and he never wants to go out anywhere with me what should i do i feel like i am drowning and he might be too

  193. ryan Says:

    sounds like he doesnt wont u but doesnt want ne1 else 2 hav u either :( sucky i no but ame things happened 2 me b4…

  194. Margo Says:

    Okay, I can relate to the last one…
    I KNOW that I love my boyfriend, no doubt about it! Sometimes I feel like I can’t possibly live without him but other times I get the impression that my only fear is that I am scared of being alone. I love being in a relationship and I used to hate being single. I’m needy, that’s all. But lately I feel like I want to be single, free from the weight of being so deeply in love, even just for a couple of months. But, of course, this is the real world, and you can’t just take a break from a relationship just because you want to, that’s selfish plus I don’t know if he’d forgive me. But, truth be told, that’s what I want to do right now…even though I swear that I love him! I really do! Any advice would be much appreciated via email – emmaatsmith@yahoo.com
    And as for the bf, he’s PERFECT albeit he’s very needy also, is oversensitive, a little possessive (only a little bit) and is a dreamer. He wants us to be together forever basically. I’m not saying I don’t want that, it’s just I want to live my life first, even if only for a few months. Also sometimes I feel like I’m the rock in the relationship, his stability. It’s a lot of pressure on me cause usually I’m the unstable one. Unfortunately it’s my best friend who receives the blow of this from me and it’s not fair on her, I need a man that can handle my instability.
    Oh and our 6 month anniversary is coming up Dec 14th and I’m practically dreading it! Why?!

  195. Jesssie Says:

    well me and my boyfriend have been going out for not even a week and i think im going to dump him aye ,
    he likes me but he said that it just doesnt do it for him ,
    he spends 9% of his time on his xbox and i cant see him because im not aloud over his ( long story )
    he never texts me back or calls me and cause we go to diffrent schools , its worse !
    i do like him and stuff but its more sexual then anything else .
    it seems like he doesnt want to get to know me but i really want to get to know him ,
    ive tried talking to him about it but he just goes offline.
    i know i should dump him but i really like him
    + i know this may seem bad but im getting over my ex still its so hard cause i loved him so much.
    guys are such dicks sometimes !
    i wish they had a bit more esteragin ( dont know how to spell it but you get my drift ) so they would know how us women feel.
    also one of my bestfriends acctualy two of my bestfriends is madly inlove with me :/
    should i just leave it for a while and see whats happening,
    this is really hurting so should i take control and try and move on or ?
    please help before its to late !
    ps : i know this message sounds really immature but i cant really think straight right now im depressed and tired n’ can not go to sleep.
    :(

  196. Jesssie Says:

    i ment 98%

  197. Jason Butler Says:

    hi, i just wanna say a few things, i am a boy with extremely high emotions, girls WILL look at this post about the 10 facts but will use this as a stereotype, especially now that a lot of girls have related to some, most or all of them tips, not all boys are the same.
    Now I know for a fact i am nothing what so ever like the d******** out there and don’t get me wrong, there’s LOADS out there, but NEVER EVER let your eyes do the work, but your experience (not with boys you’ve been with in the past but with the boy you may be looking at), what i mean by this is go and learn things about him, things that may seem to good to be true… just might be, sitting in a room for 5 – 10 minutes with ANYONE, you can learn ALOT about somebody and like they say, don’t judge a book by their cover, because there are boys out there that are as soft as warm butter. Girls keep your eyes wide but your mind wider, DONT go looking for others when your with someone because you’ll make yourself as bad as a “typical boy”, and plus one thing that I HATE is being compared to the typical boy stereotype, just PLEASE PLEASE, NEVER EVER do that to a boy, because if they are a nice guy that’ll hurt them ALOT.
    Thanks.

  198. anonynymous Says:

    my boyfriend is not of my nationality, and my parents want to set me up with an interesting guy from my own nationality. my BF loves me very much but as with all relationships, there are a few things that bother me about him. i feel i should meet up with this new guy and see what he is all about.. and if i like him, i will just need to find a good way to break up with my BF.

  199. Dark Angel Says:

    im so damn happy this Sigh helped me a lot, atleast now i know how i feel about my boyf because he such a ass hole i hate him so much.he takes me for granted i talked to him last sunday and i told him that is over between us.but he inisted he wanna see me so that i can tell him face to face.and of course im not afraid to tell him to go to hell i mean he so stupid.what he knows is to cheat. and he is a good lyier(lie).i dont know how am i going to leave with his dramas im so damn tired.i think wherever he is he thinks he will convience me i am so tired.all i want is just to get out of his life and move on.i told what he doesnt want about me some body want it badly si i am going to dump him period.

    ladys this is my advise,before you can love somebody start by loving your self so that if he doesnt make you happy to can put your foot down and say hell NO to his drama put your self first.he you cant find a way to tell him is over just find another way to break his soul.”cheat him when he finds out he will dump you anyway and thats what we want rite.LOVE YOU ALL AND ALL THE BEST IN YOUR NEW RELATIONSHIP.since well we all do mistakes i hope we learned from our mistakes.bright fuure to all of you STAY BLESSE

  200. turkyday Says:

    wow never done this (where i tell everyone my sob story) but i need to get it out cause i just realized i’m so drained of emotions i couldn’t cry tonight. happy thanksgiving first off. Im 25 i live with my ex fiance yes ex but i guess were together, he left me and our two kids a year and a half ago cause he said he needed to live his life, yeah his parents were all for it cause to them i ruined his life cause i got preg. . but i found out it what cause he was going out with a girl who had two kids herself!, yeah also found out he was sleeping with my sister behind my back the whole time we were together, and my ex best friend once!, . . wow never saw that comming i feel like idk the people who were sapose to be closes to me stabbed me in the back. i’m hurt, um mad, sad, ect . . when he came back i did the whole staying in bed, just getting out to go to work, i feel stuck we have two kids if i leave he’ll take everything and pluse i dont think i could deal with some other girl trying to play step mommy to my kids. . he went to his familys tonight, i didn’t cause well i’m not welcome cause i’m the bad guy i guess, then he went to my moms where it was us, the sister he slept with and the rest of the fam. my sister doesn’t know that i know she slept with him, but i told my parents and its like they dont care. . but how can i expect everyone to hate her when she didn’t wrong them. . and pluse i live with the person who hurt me the most. . i have no family i put my Smile on to keep everyone in a good mood but i can’t do it anymore! i called the cops on my bro tonight cause i just found out he was the one breaking into my house and car, what did i do to deserve this life? i work i take care of my babies i go to school. . maybe thats it . . i’m just alil tired cause work and school i’m just making a big deal out of nothing that no one cares about. . stay focused when i finish college and am all set the kids will be older and it will be easier to leave him. . . just not now cause it will cause too much drama . . FOCUS .. thanks to whoever and sorry for annoyin ya.

  201. mandy Says:

    my guy is a wounderful man,we have going out like almost a year .in the begining he was sweet,caring which i thought he wanted to die for me.he started avoiding me all of a sudden and giving me flumsy excuses like am busy at work,am at the gym and i need some time to rest.what hurts the most was because it was constant,which i understood for a while but he is not making any effort.apart from that i see people and they tell me i saw ur man at a resturant with a lady and given at the club,meanwhile anytime i go out with ma friends he gets angry but i cant be staying at home because he doesnt want to go out with me,he’s 30 and am 19.i was admitted at the hospital but he neva came to visit and when i had to go for a checked and i needed him to take me,which i told in the morning and he said he was gonna kal after he was out of the gym.he neva called me till 10;30 pm.i think i should dump him cos its killing me softly.

  202. Melissa Says:

    My guy and I have been together 7 years. We are engaged but a wedding I believe will never ever happen! He does alot of the things on the list. We live together, and I have become dissabled. I have no income until my attorney gets my dissability for me. My Bf never gives me money unless I ask and then its only 20 dollars or 5 or 10. He has his own business and makes about 100,000 a year. We broke up for 6 months because he and his ex were talking for years but I cought him going to her house 3 times and so we broke up. He tells his family lies to make himself look good and to make the break up look like my fault. I feel like this man has ruined my life. I knew something was weird after the first 6 months and i left. He would not leave me alone so I went back. When I went back after 8 months I found out he had his ex working for him for eight months behind my back. His family lives in Florida and they wont allow me in their home because of my religion. He leaves me alone and spends the whole vacation with them, and leaves me alone in beautiful Florida. If I get upset he tells me to stay home or that I am trying to drive a wedge between him and his family. When I met him he knew how sad my life had been and promised to treat me like gold, I wish I had not stopped dating, because he truly has no respect for me at all and never has. Its sad! We do not sleep together/ go to bed together because he is always up on the computer, and he does have email adresses that I cant see. I know he does not love me, our fights are physical now and we just exist together. My life has been hard, I grew up with abusive parents and they both still are to this day. I have two grown daughters I love very much. I spent 13 years with their father who did nothing but cheat on me and beat me. I thought I finallly found a great guy, but after the years, he just hates me and would really prefer I move, but right now I am dependant on him. What do I do? I guess be patient and then give him his wish and leave. Life can hurt so much, but it does go on. I dont think I really want to be in another relationship. I am only 46 but I feel drained from giving my love to people only to have them treat me like crap. Maybe I belong alone. It could be worse. I do know I will not trust anyone easily ever again in my life, it hurts too much when they just do not give a crap about you. I have begged for a dishwasher for 7 years still dont have one, whats that tell ya?

  203. Andy Says:

    When I encounter young girls who stop in their tracks because someone loves them, they say, I say, well, why shouldn’t they? You should say thank you, that is sweet, and carry on focusing on your life, not stop it. Also, ask something of someone at the beginning. Don’t just give. It is interesting when someone has to give something, not just take. There are too many accommodating women out there who think that men appreciate them when, really, quite often they just take them for granted. I am in an agonizing relationship of nine years. The other day after not having seen him, really, throughout golfing season again, he wanted to know if I would go to the company Christmas party with him (tonight). I said he should take someone, for example another woman whose name I mentioned I know he had an affair with, take someone he actually cares about and wants to be with and get on with his life and be happy because if he had cared about me he wouldn’t have been with others – plural. This has been years of agonizing hell – and two years ago to deal with the pain I started going to the casino at night – and now my life really is a hell on different levels and the pain is exacerbated, and the worst thing is that no one knew because I noticed I was often alone. I saw him yesterday re. work and I know he was going to ask me again to the party, but I avoided it. It has to end. It is very destructive to me in every possible way. He did give me an STD years ago, and I inferred as much, couldn’t tell him the details as the doctor said he would deny it which was true because he didn’t have symptoms, so was enraged and blamed me – but it turns out he was having sex with yet another married woman while I thought I was in a committed relationship. I asked a psychologist if I should tell the husband, etc., regarding his wife’s possibly having something, but they psychologist said it wasn’t up to me. Although I am not a vindictive person, on some levels all the women who knew I was seeing him while they had affairs with him I feel deserve to suffer as I did – but then on other days I am less embittered. He is a player, a frat boy (sorry, some frat boys are nice and focused and caring, but you know the ones I mean) who never grew up, all at 65. I am 57 with a sixteen year old still at home I have raised alone since she was five and another daughter doing her Masters Degree (with a full scholarship) who has moved away. I am constantly in a state of emotional angst, pain, agony, and hell – and he has not been worth it. I think the reason women stay is because they think that on the one highest romantic level that they feel, they actually think the man feels the same. To women, that connection is what means the most, partly because when they radiate out love they feel well, release endorphins or whatever, so they want to go back again and again to feel a lot of things, including not alone. However, at the end of the day, it is illusion after the fact, as if nothing was real or mattered, and they turn inward and suffer while waiting, waiting, waiting, til years go by and nothing changes and they are still alone suffering. What a nightmare for so many – and I think it becomes even worse later in life as it seems the fears increase in many areas. Younger women, buck up now and get a broader life. He isn’t worth it. Older women – do the same. Another thing to think about is that when someone is needing too much, wants to much, expects too much, makes a man feel cornered by having to make up for too much or give what he doesn’t want, or expain or anything at all, really, he will avoid the person making him feel bad, putting pressure on him. There was a Lee Marvin play/movie about a gunslinger cowboy guy – only saw part of it years ago – whose wife was long suffering, cared about him through womanizing and drinking and gambling. He finally shot her and men in the bar were asking him why. He said to put her out of her misery – and his, most likely, for having to always feel bad about himself. Not that anyone should murder anyone, but we are killing ourselves, destroying our own lives because of supposed love, when, really, it isn’t love, it is the idea of what love could be, our hope it will be, but likely it never will be while we are standing still in pain, waiting.

  204. Andy Says:

    When I encounter young girls who stop in their tracks because someone loves them, they say, I say, well, why shouldn\’t they? You should say thank you, that is sweet, and carry on focusing on your life, not stop it. Also, ask something of someone at the beginning. Don\’t just give. It is interesting when someone has to give something, not just take. There are too many accommodating women out there who think that men appreciate them when, really, quite often they just take them for granted. I am in an agonizing relationship of nine years. The other day after not having seen him, really, throughout golfing season again, he wanted to know if I would go to the company Christmas party with him (tonight). I said he should take someone, for example another woman whose name I mentioned I know he had an affair with, take someone he actually cares about and wants to be with and get on with his life and be happy because if he had cared about me he wouldn\’t have been with others – plural. This has been years of agonizing hell – and two years ago to deal with the pain I started going to the casino at night – and now my life really is a hell on different levels and the pain is exacerbated, and the worst thing is that no one knew because I noticed I was often alone. I saw him yesterday re. work and I know he was going to ask me again to the party, but I avoided it. It has to end. It is very destructive to me in every possible way. He did give me an STD years ago, and I inferred as much, couldn\’t tell him the details as the doctor said he would deny it which was true because he didn\’t have symptoms, so was enraged and blamed me – but it turns out he was having sex with yet another married woman while I thought I was in a committed relationship. I asked a psychologist if I should tell the husband, etc., regarding his wife\’s possibly having something, but they psychologist said it wasn\’t up to me. Although I am not a vindictive person, on some levels all the women who knew I was seeing him while they had affairs with him I feel deserve to suffer as I did – but then on other days I am less embittered. He is a player, a frat boy (sorry, some frat boys are nice and focused and caring, but you know the ones I mean) who never grew up, all at 65. I am 57 with a sixteen year old still at home I have raised alone since she was five and another daughter doing her Masters Degree (with a full scholarship) who has moved away. I am constantly in a state of emotional angst, pain, agony, and hell – and he has not been worth it. I think the reason women stay is because they think that on the one highest romantic level that they feel, they actually think the man feels the same. To women, that connection is what means the most, partly because when they radiate out love they feel well, release endorphins or whatever, so they want to go back again and again to feel a lot of things, including not alone. However, at the end of the day, it is illusion after the fact, as if nothing was real or mattered, and they turn inward and suffer while waiting, waiting, waiting, til years go by and nothing changes and they are still alone suffering. What a nightmare for so many – and I think it becomes even worse later in life as it seems the fears increase in many areas. Younger women, buck up now and get a broader life. He isn\’t worth it. Older women – do the same. Another thing to think about is that when someone is needing too much, wants to much, expects too much, makes a man feel cornered by having to make up for too much or give what he doesn\’t want, or expain or anything at all, really, he will avoid the person making him feel bad, putting pressure on him. There was a Lee Marvin play/movie about a gunslinger cowboy guy – only saw part of it years ago – whose wife was long suffering, cared about him through womanizing and drinking and gambling. He finally shot her and men in the bar were asking him why. He said to put her out of her misery – and his, most likely, for having to always feel bad about himself. Not that anyone should murder anyone, but we are killing ourselves, destroying our own lives because of supposed love, when, really, it isn\’t love, it is the idea of what love could be, our hope it will be, but likely it never will be while we are standing still in pain, waiting.

  205. Andy Says:

    When I encounter young girls who stop in their tracks because someone loves them, they say, I say, well, why shouldn\\\’t they? You should say thank you, that is sweet, and carry on focusing on your life, not stop it. Also, ask something of someone at the beginning. Don\\\’t just give. It is interesting when someone has to give something, not just take. There are too many accommodating women out there who think that men appreciate them when, really, quite often they just take them for granted. I am in an agonizing relationship of nine years. The other day after not having seen him, really, throughout golfing season again, he wanted to know if I would go to the company Christmas party with him (tonight). I said he should take someone, for example another woman whose name I mentioned I know he had an affair with, take someone he actually cares about and wants to be with and get on with his life and be happy because if he had cared about me he wouldn\\\’t have been with others – plural. This has been years of agonizing hell – and two years ago to deal with the pain I started going to the casino at night – and now my life really is a hell on different levels and the pain is exacerbated, and the worst thing is that no one knew because I noticed I was often alone. I saw him yesterday re. work and I know he was going to ask me again to the party, but I avoided it. It has to end. It is very destructive to me in every possible way. He did give me an STD years ago, and I inferred as much, couldn\\\’t tell him the details as the doctor said he would deny it which was true because he didn\\\’t have symptoms, so was enraged and blamed me – but it turns out he was having sex with yet another married woman while I thought I was in a committed relationship. I asked a psychologist if I should tell the husband, etc., regarding his wife\\\’s possibly having something, but they psychologist said it wasn\\\’t up to me. Although I am not a vindictive person, on some levels all the women who knew I was seeing him while they had affairs with him I feel deserve to suffer as I did – but then on other days I am less embittered. He is a player, a frat boy (sorry, some frat boys are nice and focused and caring, but you know the ones I mean) who never grew up, all at 65. I am 57 with a sixteen year old still at home I have raised alone since she was five and another daughter doing her Masters Degree (with a full scholarship) who has moved away. I am constantly in a state of emotional angst, pain, agony, and hell – and he has not been worth it. I think the reason women stay is because they think that on the one highest romantic level that they feel, they actually think the man feels the same. To women, that connection is what means the most, partly because when they radiate out love they feel well, release endorphins or whatever, so they want to go back again and again to feel a lot of things, including not alone. However, at the end of the day, it is illusion after the fact, as if nothing was real or mattered, and they turn inward and suffer while waiting, waiting, waiting, til years go by and nothing changes and they are still alone suffering. What a nightmare for so many – and I think it becomes even worse later in life as it seems the fears increase in many areas. Younger women, buck up now and get a broader life. He isn\\\’t worth it. Older women – do the same. Another thing to think about is that when someone is needing too much, wants to much, expects too much, makes a man feel cornered by having to make up for too much or give what he doesn\\\’t want, or expain or anything at all, really, he will avoid the person making him feel bad, putting pressure on him. There was a Lee Marvin play/movie about a gunslinger cowboy guy – only saw part of it years ago – whose wife was long suffering, cared about him through womanizing and drinking and gambling. He finally shot her and men in the bar were asking him why. He said to put her out of her misery – and his, most likely, for having to always feel bad about himself. Not that anyone should murder anyone, but we are killing ourselves, destroying our own lives because of supposed love, when, really, it isn\\\’t love, it is the idea of what love could be, our hope it will be, but likely it never will be while we are standing still in pain, waiting.

  206. Andy Says:

    When I encounter young girls who stop in their tracks because someone loves them, they say, I say, well, why shouldn\\\\\\\’t they? You should say thank you, that is sweet, and carry on focusing on your life, not stop it. Also, ask something of someone at the beginning. Don\\\\\\\’t just give. It is interesting when someone has to give something, not just take. There are too many accommodating women out there who think that men appreciate them when, really, quite often they just take them for granted. I am in an agonizing relationship of nine years. The other day after not having seen him, really, throughout golfing season again, he wanted to know if I would go to the company Christmas party with him (tonight). I said he should take someone, for example another woman whose name I mentioned I know he had an affair with, take someone he actually cares about and wants to be with and get on with his life and be happy because if he had cared about me he wouldn\\\\\\\’t have been with others – plural. This has been years of agonizing hell – and two years ago to deal with the pain I started going to the casino at night – and now my life really is a hell on different levels and the pain is exacerbated, and the worst thing is that no one knew because I noticed I was often alone. I saw him yesterday re. work and I know he was going to ask me again to the party, but I avoided it. It has to end. It is very destructive to me in every possible way. He did give me an STD years ago, and I inferred as much, couldn\\\\\\\’t tell him the details as the doctor said he would deny it which was true because he didn\\\\\\\’t have symptoms, so was enraged and blamed me – but it turns out he was having sex with yet another married woman while I thought I was in a committed relationship. I asked a psychologist if I should tell the husband, etc., regarding his wife\\\\\\\’s possibly having something, but they psychologist said it wasn\\\\\\\’t up to me. Although I am not a vindictive person, on some levels all the women who knew I was seeing him while they had affairs with him I feel deserve to suffer as I did – but then on other days I am less embittered. He is a player, a frat boy (sorry, some frat boys are nice and focused and caring, but you know the ones I mean) who never grew up, all at 65. I am 57 with a sixteen year old still at home I have raised alone since she was five and another daughter doing her Masters Degree (with a full scholarship) who has moved away. I am constantly in a state of emotional angst, pain, agony, and hell – and he has not been worth it. I think the reason women stay is because they think that on the one highest romantic level that they feel, they actually think the man feels the same. To women, that connection is what means the most, partly because when they radiate out love they feel well, release endorphins or whatever, so they want to go back again and again to feel a lot of things, including not alone. However, at the end of the day, it is illusion after the fact, as if nothing was real or mattered, and they turn inward and suffer while waiting, waiting, waiting, til years go by and nothing changes and they are still alone suffering. What a nightmare for so many – and I think it becomes even worse later in life as it seems the fears increase in many areas. Younger women, buck up now and get a broader life. He isn\\\\\\\’t worth it. Older women – do the same. Another thing to think about is that when someone is needing too much, wants to much, expects too much, makes a man feel cornered by having to make up for too much or give what he doesn\\\\\\\’t want, or expain or anything at all, really, he will avoid the person making him feel bad, putting pressure on him. There was a Lee Marvin play/movie about a gunslinger cowboy guy – only saw part of it years ago – whose wife was long suffering, cared about him through womanizing and drinking and gambling. He finally shot her and men in the bar were asking him why. He said to put her out of her misery – and his, most likely, for having to always feel bad about himself. Not that anyone should murder anyone, but we are killing ourselves, destroying our own lives because of supposed love, when, really, it isn\\\\\\\’t love, it is the idea of what love could be, our hope it will be, but likely it never will be while we are standing still in pain, waiting.

  207. Andy Says:

    When I encounter young girls who stop in their tracks because someone loves them, they say, I say, well, why shouldn’t they? You should say thank you, that is sweet, and carry on focusing on your life, not stop it. Also, ask something of someone at the beginning. Don’t just give. It is interesting when someone has to give something, not just take. There are too many accommodating women out there who think that men appreciate them when, really, quite often they just take them for granted. I am in an agonizing relationship of nine years. The other day after not having seen him, really, throughout golfing season again, he wanted to know if I would go to the company Christmas party with him (tonight). I said he should take someone, for example another woman whose name I mentioned I know he had an affair with, take someone he actually cares about and wants to be with and get on with his life and be happy because if he had cared about me he wouldn\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t have been with others – plural. This has been years of agonizing hell – and two years ago to deal with the pain I started going to the casino at night – and now my life really is a hell on different levels and the pain is exacerbated, and the worst thing is that no one knew because I noticed I was often alone. I saw him yesterday re. work and I know he was going to ask me again to the party, but I avoided it. It has to end. It is very destructive to me in every possible way. He did give me an STD years ago, and I inferred as much, couldn\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t tell him the details as the doctor said he would deny it which was true because he didn\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t have symptoms, so was enraged and blamed me – but it turns out he was having sex with yet another married woman while I thought I was in a committed relationship. I asked a psychologist if I should tell the husband, etc., regarding his wife’s possibly having something, but they psychologist said it wasn’t up to me. Although I am not a vindictive person, on some levels all the women who knew I was seeing him while they had affairs with him I feel deserve to suffer as I did – but then on other days I am less embittered. He is a player, a frat boy (sorry, some frat boys are nice and focused and caring, but you know the ones I mean) who never grew up, all at 65. I am 57 with a sixteen year old still at home I have raised alone since she was five and another daughter doing her Masters Degree (with a full scholarship) who has moved away. I am constantly in a state of emotional angst, pain, agony, and hell – and he has not been worth it. I think the reason women stay is because they think that on the one highest romantic level that they feel, they actually think the man feels the same. To women, that connection is what means the most, partly because when they radiate out love they feel well, release endorphins or whatever, so they want to go back again and again to feel a lot of things, including not alone. However, at the end of the day, it is illusion after the fact, as if nothing was real or mattered, and they turn inward and suffer while waiting, waiting, waiting, til years go by and nothing changes and they are still alone suffering. What a nightmare for so many – and I think it becomes even worse later in life as it seems the fears increase in many areas. Younger women, buck up now and get a broader life. He isn’t worth it. Older women – do the same. Another thing to think about is that when someone is needing too much, wants to much, expects too much, makes a man feel cornered by having to make up for too much or give what he doesnt want, or expain or anything at all, really, he will avoid the person making him feel bad, putting pressure on him. There was a Lee Marvin play/movie about a gunslinger cowboy guy – only saw part of it years ago – whose wife was long suffering, cared about him through womanizing and drinking and gambling. He finally shot her and men in the bar were asking him why. He said to put her out of her misery – and his, most likely, for having to always feel bad about himself. Not that anyone should murder anyone, but we are killing ourselves, destroying our own lives because of supposed love, when, really, it isn’t love, it is the idea of what love could be, our hope it will be, but likely it never will be while we are standing still in pain, waiting.

  208. Ahria1 Says:

    When I encounter young girls who stop in their tracks because someone loves them, they say, I say, well, why shouldn\\\’t they? You should say thank you, that is sweet, and carry on focusing on your life, not stop it. Also, ask something of someone at the beginning. Don\’t just give. It is interesting when someone has to give something, not just take. There are too many accommodating women out there who think that men appreciate them when, really, quite often they just take them for granted. I am in an agonizing relationship of nine years. The other day after not having seen him, really, throughout golfing season again, he wanted to know if I would go to the company Christmas party with him (tonight). I said he should take someone, for example another woman whose name I mentioned I know he had an affair with, take someone he actually cares about and wants to be with and get on with his life and be happy because if he had cared about me he wouldn\’t have been with others – plural. This has been years of agonizing hell – and two years ago to deal with the pain I started going to the casino at night – and now my life really is a hell on different levels and the pain is exacerbated, and the worst thing is that no one knew because I noticed I was often alone. I saw him yesterday re. work and I know he was going to ask me again to the party, but I avoided it. It has to end. It is very destructive to me in every possible way. He did give me an STD years ago, and I inferred as much, couldn\’t tell him the details as the doctor said he would deny it which was true because he didn\’t have symptoms, so was enraged and blamed me – but it turns out he was having sex with yet another married woman while I thought I was in a committed relationship. I asked a psychologist if I should tell the husband, etc., regarding his wife\’s possibly having something, but they psychologist said it wasn\’t up to me. Although I am not a vindictive person, on some levels all the women who knew I was seeing him while they had affairs with him I feel deserve to suffer as I did – but then on other days I am less embittered. He is a player, a frat boy (sorry, some frat boys are nice and focused and caring, but you know the ones I mean) who never grew up, all at 65. I am 57 with a sixteen year old still at home I have raised alone since she was five and another daughter doing her Masters Degree (with a full scholarship) who has moved away. I am constantly in a state of emotional angst, pain, agony, and hell – and he has not been worth it. I think the reason women stay is because they think that on the one highest romantic level that they feel, they actually think the man feels the same. To women, that connection is what means the most, partly because when they radiate out love they feel well, release endorphins or whatever, so they want to go back again and again to feel a lot of things, including not alone. However, at the end of the day, it is illusion after the fact, as if nothing was real or mattered, and they turn inward and suffer while waiting, waiting, waiting, til years go by and nothing changes and they are still alone suffering. What a nightmare for so many – and I think it becomes even worse later in life as it seems the fears increase in many areas. Younger women, buck up now and get a broader life. He isn\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\’t worth it. Older women – do the same. Another thing to think about is that when someone is needing too much, wants to much, expects too much, makes a man feel cornered by having to make up for too much or give what he doesnt want, or expain or anything at all, really, he will avoid the person making him feel bad, putting pressure on him. There was a Lee Marvin play/movie about a gunslinger cowboy guy – only saw part of it years ago – whose wife was long suffering, cared about him through womanizing and drinking and gambling. He finally shot her and men in the bar were asking him why. He said to put her out of her misery – and his, most likely, for having to always feel bad about himself. Not that anyone should murder anyone, but we are killing ourselves, destroying our own lives because of supposed love, when, really, it isn\’t love, it is the idea of what love could be, our hope it will be, but likely it never will be while we are standing still in pain, waiting.

  209. Ahria1 Says:

    Sorry about all those posts – said was a problem with the account, didn’t go through, changed names, changed the apostrophe issues – but then they all posted – so weird.

  210. Alison Says:

    I just met this guy on line. Seems like a really nice, respectable guy. Calls all the time, texts a lot. States he is not dating anyone else. He seems like sort of a work-o-holic, if you ask me. That is ok, I do like my space.

    Well, just told me that he is going out of town for a job…if I try to contact him and there is no answer, it is because he uses \”Cricket\” and connectivity is limited. He lives in Portland and I believe he stated the job is in Lincoln?

    Should I be alarmed?

  211. kelly Says:

    ugh this is so true… problem is, i love my boyfriend but 8 out of the ten describe exactly how i feel :( not sure what to do

  212. alley Says:

    i agree with the ten signs. its so true. though, its still difficult to dump a guy. just a situation no one likes dealing with. ugh boys!

  213. vivian Says:

    i agree

  214. V Says:

    Weird that the last post was by a Vivian also- guess I’ll go by V. (and they say “there’s nothing in a name”.. what are the odds ?? Two dif. Vivians reading the same posts at the same time and both feeling the need to comment, I usually don’t) Anyway is it just me or is no ONE commenting on the BIG b word in their relationship. Don’t know what I’m talking about? Sure you do. Say it with me… BOREDOM. Yeah, … I thought so. I mean why does it always happen?? You do things to try to keep yourself interested but your fighting a losing battle and you know it. I’ve been involved with the same guy for awhile and I knew from the beginning I was heading for trouble. He was boring back then and the sad part is … He knew it! When we met there was a lot of drama around me and I honestly think that’s what attracted him. Which is sad because although the drama was about me, it wasn’t being generated by me. I was like the flashy new car that everyone was talking about. I was aware that it would eventually die down but maybe he wasn’t (he thought the things being said about me were true) maybe he’s just as bored with me. Maybe he’s waiting … wishing I’d go back to being the flame attracting all the moths.

  215. lauren Says:

    ive been with my boyfriend a little over 4 months and were already starting to argue and fight alot i have a hard time trusting him cause of the few little lies hes told and sometimes i think hes seeing someone else but he says hes not how can i find out the truth if he really is or not i love him but things just havent been the same and i really dont know what do to

  216. Nik with a Chip Says:

    My boyfriend is fantastic in all honesty. Everyone who meets him- including my family- love him and really do understand that he’s a great and genuine person (even my Dad likes him, and he has hated all of my prior boyfriends). We are young- 21 and 22 (I’m the older of the two).

    We have been together for 4 years- it would be 5 years but we broke up for a year (experiencing the same problems now that we did then). Numbers 4, 6, 8, 9 and 10 apply to this relationship, and all of them are on my part.

    When we broke up the first time, I was happy for a few months prior but then really started to miss him. I could see myself again with him for the long haul. He’s financially stable, very intelligent, driven, is always helpful in anything and everything, and treats me wonderfully. I could see myself having kids with him. I can still see him being a great father and husband. When we got back together after being split up for a year, we were both in absolute bliss. 11 months after being back together, we moved into an apartment together only a half hour away from our parents’ houses.

    We immediately stopped having sex when we moved in. He’s always ready to “go”, but I never want to. He’s respectful of this, but it’s been 5 months since we’re really had any sort of good sex. I’m not turned on by him anymore and I can barely hug him for more than a few seconds before I get annoyed. If he talks too much or even kisses me for too long or too often, I’m annoyed. He also spends 90% of his free time playing video games- but what else is he supposed to do when I don’t want to hang out with him all that often? I feel like he can tell (not like it’s easy to hide it), and as a result he gets more clingy to keep me close to him.

    It’s heartbreaking. The first time I left, it absolutely crushed him. Leaving him again would only do worse. I don’t want to break up with him, but I also don’t know what to do. I wonder if moving out and living apart from each other would help at all? Or if breaking up again really would be the best solution? Even the thought of leaving him again makes me choke up, but I have no idea what else to do.

    Any thoughts, comments, advice would be greatly appreciated.

  217. Chad Says:

    Thanks for this. Im a guy but all of these things my girlfriend fits in. idk what too do..

  218. jessica Says:

    so i need help…i love my fiance a lot!! we have known each other for almost 2 years…we are planing on getting married july 7, 2012…the problem is i\’m a virgin and want to waite untill marraige to have sex, now i have done other sexual activities with him but never had intercourse, i really want to save that!! He is not a virgin and doesn\’t understand why i want to waite…i just feel like it\’s the right thing to for me, for my body…he doesn\’t want to waite but he is waiting for me…he is or was complaining about how hard it is for him to waite a lot untill i explained that i told him from the very beginging that i wanted to waite and he said he could so it\’s not like this is a new thing i told him…it makes it harder because he is in the army and i haaven\’t seen him in 6 months!! i miss him a lot but he cals me every day from korea and reminds me that he loves me and misses me and can\’t waite to see my beautiful face…when he tells me things like that it makes me sooooo happy!! i told him how sweet he is for telling m that and how happy he makes me and he says of course making you happy is my job. i asked him if i am doing my job and making him happy or at least smile. he just told me yes you are doing my job i am happy but could be a lot happier for other reasons…trhings like that make me soo mad at him and makee me wonder if he has his priorities straight because i\’m just tired of sometimes feeling guilty because i want to save myself!! shouldn\’t he respect my decision?? sometimes by saying the things he says like the example above he doesn\’t respect me but i\’m not sure if he just asks that way because the guys sometimes give him crap because i am a virgin…should i leave him? is that a sighn that he doesn\’t care, i know he cares, i know he loves me but if he keeps letting his thing down there talk i think i might just lose it and find someone who will waite and not complain about it!!! i just need to know…am i being to harsh? am i asking too much? or wedding is just a year in a half away is it really that bad where he can\’t waite,that\’s not that far away!!

  219. Lucy Says:

    I have been with my bf for almost two years now and I love him very much as a person but am not in love anymore. I think I’ve just come to realize we are wrong for each other. He is really a cerebral, logical sort while I am a more creative and sensitive person. We are just too opposite. And while that attracts us at times the majority of the time we really just repel each other. It’s awful. I’ve been thinking about other guys and breaking up for months now but how do you leave someone you love ad care for still?

  220. Alethea Says:

    I’m glad I read this. I’ve been unsure of what to do about my relationship with my boyfriend. We’ve been together for a little over a year but it feels like its been ages. I feel drained and mentally exhausted from this relationship. I’ve already broken up with him 3 times but I still keep trying to make it work. He loves me and I love him but we fight all the time. Its all I think about when I think of him now. I just feel a sense of dread wash over me as to how our future would be because we fight so much. I’ve began distancing myself from him. I was feeling smothered. We were together all the time. I felt like I couldn’t breathe. He was happy but I wanted more space. It sometimes felt like he was a leech sucking the life right out of me. I also tend to forget a lot of what he says to me. I don’t mean to but sometimes its just too much, and I let it fly in one ear and out the other. If its not something I need to remember or what seems important then I let it wash over me. Is that wrong? I get frustrated. My stomach gets agitated. I’m tired of trying to make him happy, resulting in me being unhappy. I just don’t think I can take it anymore. I love him and I don’t want to leave him but I just don’t know if we can work this stuff out. I refuse to be in a long relationship and be miserable.

  221. lil miss elf Says:

    im just not attracted to my bf. i never rlly was. we’ve been dating for 3 months and i tried to break up with him 2 times already but he just begs me to take him back then i end up feeling all bad then i do take him back. im not takin him back this time because its stressing me out. and hes too clingy. so yeah. thanks for the 10 signs.

  222. Carly321 Says:

    I have just started goin out with my boyfriend.. he says he really likes me + i feel the same way with him. He holds my hands infront of his mates and gets on the same way.. but in the past he has cheated on his ex girlfriends. He has told me he has changed and wouldnt cheat on me. Though my friends tell me not to belive what a we lad says because they only tell u what u want to hear. And it makes me upset and a little depressed.I have said to him beofre not to mess me around and he has explained hes changed.. though i dont want to get into a deep relationship just to get hurt can someone please give me a little advice on what to do + what to say to him please?

    Read more: http://beyondjane.com/relationships/twelve-reasons-why-you-allow-your-man-to-cheat-on-you/#ixzz19QjrU8Wi

  223. Tania Says:

    hi i have a Exboyfriend That I love But He Is Yelling At Me When he Told me To My Friend how i am Doing I Emailed Him And To check how he is Doing Then For Christmas I email him My New pics he Email Me And Said Bye forever and how many Times i Tell You Not To Email Me Anymore With A Mean Way What Should I Do I Still Love Him But He Tells My Friend To Tell Me To Thing He is Dead And Does Not Exit So i Dont Know What To Do i Just Wanted to make him happy That i still care for him and love him to give me a chance to love him again to go back to him but he does not want it

  224. Sam Says:

    I have been with my boyfriend for about a year. He recently told me that at the beginning of our relationship he cheated on me three different times. But ever since he made this confession he is constantly searching through my things (phone, facebook, etc.) to find “evidence” of me cheating on him. I have never cheated on him and never had any intentions of doing so. I’ve been going through hell because he has been taking his actions out on me. Will things get better or is it time to leave it all behind?

  225. Ms Xu Says:

    Nik with a Chip….

    I read your comment about this guy you’re with. Please give your relationship a chance. I hate to tell you this but, I let that guy go 15 years ago ( at least a guy like yours :D ) and have regrets that I let a good one go. You deserve a man that will treat you right!

  226. Jenna Says:

    I can totally relate to each one of the signs. But i still have THAT feelings for him. We had a fight before and I let go for a week. But then I found he went out partying with some lady-friends and i still got jealous so I got back with him. We are almost on 3 years in a relationship and we have established moments that are greatly cherished. Our families have known each other and we are constantly talking about marriage. However, all these signs prevailed and I cant help noticing them. Is it only a feeling of being afraid to be alone that is holding me? Or do I still truly love him?

    Just now we got into a fight because I broke down his PSP not by intent. He walked out without even spoke to me. I told him that I will pay for the damage if i cant have it fixed. He just told me I dont need to pay it as it is only a thing. But why did he got mad and stormed out in the first place if he’s thinking more about my feelings than the stupid ‘thing’!

    Please can anyone give me an advice?

  227. N/A Says:

    I have a boyfriend who is overly sensitive but we are showing all of these signs. I have been trying to be as sensitive as I can but im just so angry for no reason at him and I am not attracted to him as a person anymore. I just dont know how to break up with him without crushing him. Help please!

  228. lisa kat Says:

    my boyfriend called me last night crying for my forgiveness what should i do

  229. celina Says:

    Hey Everyone!! I’ve been with my bf for almost 4 years i am 21 now.. at the start of our relationship he was the nicest sweetest fella any1 wud ever want.. we never argued or had fights he was great.. in the last 6-8 months he has become a little distant doesnt ask me to stay over at his anymore he says we see each other ders no need… he wud rather drop me home at 2 and 3am than to let me stay.. ??? he never used to be like this always wanted me to stay.. wen we’re txtn he doesnt make much conversation its very boring.. he says he loves me wit all his heart and that he never wants to loose me.. but i just don’t know!! he wud be a fella that likes sex.. lately he gives ou bou it and wt i do wrong and alot of time i feel like i’m been used as he wud just come n den stop and get dressed leav me der n say u gettn dressed… its like once he’s done he doesn care… wer as about 8 months ago he was always interested in the two of us.. am i thinking too much into this or???… also he wud beg me bk if i was to dump him now he’d hav an attitude to say ye ri i dnt care etc please help me email me at celinaheyhowareya@hotmail.com

  230. STEPHANY VERAS Says:

    WELL I HAVENT SEEN MY BF IN WEEKS BUT THATS BECAUSE I CANT AND HE DOSENT WANT TO HEAR ME AND NOW HE SAYS THAT IF HE DOSENTT GET TO SEE ME IS OVER BUT HE DOSENT UNDERSTAND THE PROBLEMS -_-

  231. Kelly Says:

    My boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 and a half years, and im now 20 and in college. i really love my boyfriend a lot, but i hate him in almost equal measure. everything he does makes me crazy, but sometimes i wonder if im just being a bitch. how do i know if its me just being crazy or if hes really not a good boyfriend?

  232. Elizabeth Says:

    I really need some advise. I reconnected with my college sweetheart on Face Book after not seeing him for 20 years. We started communicating back and forth for several months because we were both married at the time. Finallly both of our marriages ended and we started seeing each other quite often considering we live 2,500 miles apart. However, we see each other and every 2 weeks. We are great friends, have a lot of the same interest and have great sex. He tells me that he loves me with all of his heart but he is not ready for a committed relationship yet. When his wife left she left him and took in financial ruins. So therefore He was in the process of losing his home, utilities were being shut off and being the people that I am and the fact that I have the means I started paying all of his bills for him. And have been for 7 months. I finally told him that our relationship was all or nothing. And he said that he loves me but needs more time, In the meanwhile I am paying around 3k per month for his bills. I told him that I couldn\’t do this anymore unless we were in a relationship so right now we are not speaking to one another because he feels that I am trapping him and I am miserable. Where do we go from her?

  233. Mar Says:

    I can relate to all ten, I live with my bf, and I live those 10 signs everyday.

  234. Marie Says:

    I can relate to all ten, I live with my bf, and I live those 10 signs everyday.

  235. kartie Says:

    !~SOME ADVISE~!
    Ive been in a relationship for seven years now, it started when i was 16. Things were great at first but now they are horrible and have been horrible far a while. You may feel like you ove this person and in most cases you do but is it worth what you have to go through? My reason is 3 years into our relationship he started acusing me of cheating on him, his friends would tell him lies and it was constant arguing. Ive cryed so many nights because of it and it only gets worse, he started following me whenever i left, i can take a shower without him digging in my purse, he calls my work non-stop while im there sometimes even showing up unannounced. i wasnt allowed to hang out with him and His friends cause that meant i was going to sleep with them, no matter what i did it would not get better, we even moved half way across the country to see if that would help..IT DIDNT!! So what im saying is that it doent get any better in 99% of cases like this. He will never change and you wont change until he does so your stuck. Affraid to leave, think your still in love or that he might change…FORGET it, As soon as you get out of this so called relationship you will notice how unhappy you really were and you’ll be able to breathe again..So dont second guess this, just get out of it a.s.a.p…..

  236. christie Says:

    well 2-5-7-9-10 i have to go throught with all day long this really helps me out a lot

  237. Joanne Says:

    I live with this every day. And every day he plays mind games. Every day I think, is this me? Am I being unreasonable? We moved in together last year, he does no cleaning, no dishes, no clothes washing, not a thing. He expects me to cook for him – if I don’t cook he doesn’t eat, he has cereal. He doesn’t know how to cook, clean, tidy his mess. He doesn’t show any affection to me, talks about other girls all of the time but says he is ‘joking’. But then he does lovely things when he has done something wrong like offers to take me out or buy me things. i’ve told him i’m unhappy and he does nothing about it, he said ‘ i’ll never leave you and you will never leave me’. I am so deeply unhappy at the minute, but I love him so much. How do I make him realise how unhappy he is making me? He said to me ‘you need to accept what I’m like, I’m never going to change’. So do I just live along knowing that I am never going to feel special or loved? Just because I love him?

  238. sophsta_morden@msn.com Says:

    I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years, it was amazing up until about a month ago, amazing despite the amount we’ve been through, he was always the shine in my eyes, but i never felt the same love back. Its got to the point where i predicted it would, i explained to him a year ago i would fall out of love with him if he couldnt change certain manerisms around me. I wouldnt dare control him, and forgave him for most of his silly mess ups that not to my knowledge was ever cheating, but we did get pretty messed up around drugs aswell as sit in alleys freezing cold, id devote myself sexually and do anything he desires, that part is good, he just isnt a good boyfriend. He is a guy that has advice of what others do with their lives but the min you talk about his he sees it as me being a bitch. He has lived in my tent in a field, my house for a month, his friends house for 3 months, then the YMCA then back home because of unpaid rent. The fact i have been loveblind, i have distanced myself from my family, friends and work and college. He wont ever change, and i dont expect him to, but he only had to have a heart, and be determined for me. loads of signs are telling me to leave him, but i dont want to upset him, and i dont think im strong enough yet :/ confused what to do.

  239. trapped Says:

    Well I’m crying right now cuz I feel frustrated and trapped. My boyfriend lives with his mother, little brother and sister. They also rent and most of his money goes on rent, food and medical bills for his family. He does everything for them and it is attractive what he does for his family, a quality I would one day like in a husband, someone who will take care of me. But it has been five years since we’ve been together and we don’t go nowhere cuz of his money situation, all we ever do is buy food and stay at home. He never takes me clubbing, seeing that we are young and I want to go out and have fun since we’re getting older nor to any beaches and I may want to have a kid soon, so is only right that I enjoy the single life without a child. He excuses are always the same, he doesn’t have the funds to take me out and can’t buy anything for me especially if I see something I like. But I feel so trapped, especially frustrated and I do not know what to do anymore.

    Need some advice pls, should I leave or not?

  240. alice Says:

    I don’t know what to do about my relationship. When we were seeing eachother at first it was so stress free. I got pregnant 7 months after dating my fella. He wasn’t ready to settle down at the beginning but I was ready to cope on my own. However he stayed with me and we got a house. When we first met all we ever did was have sex, and now, when we do its not the same. I feel like im the one who wants it an he just feels like hes not up to it. We don’t really have the time anymore to have a relationship. I feel so frustrated because he has done so much for me and the baby and he tells me he loves me but he finds it hard to be open with his emotions. I do love him but I feel so stressed out and lonely. we barely see eachother because he works and does night at uni. Im starting uni in septemeber so i fear its goin to get worse. I feel like I need a break and I told him this an he started crying and got scared. we agreed that we needed to work on our relaitonship but nothings changed.

  241. Mrs Sex Says:

    My man just comes home from work very late. He has always come late and everytime he comes he just gets in bed and has sex with me. I feel like he is frustrated and wants to hump me because hes angry

  242. Lost & Broken heart... Says:

    This Article is missing some stuff… I (a man) had been dating this girl for a bit over two years… and one day she was telling me that if i ever left her, she would beat me with a wooden spoon, the next day (litterally the very next day) she broke up with me. when i asked her why she said that it was too much stress… i found out from common friends that she used to say i was a bad boyfriend and that she cheated on me. but i cant figure it out… where I went wrong. every article i read doesnt describe me or anything that i did (im not being niave, honestly, im my biggest critic.) and until i figure out what is wrong with me… i have no hope of ever getting her back… PLEASE HELP!!! email me if you have any ideas… clubgriffin@gmail.com

  243. confused!! Says:

    why is leaving him so hard to do…!! i hate this

  244. Tasha Says:

    This was very helpful for me. Today I broke up with my boyfriend after 2 years. It was a huge step for me, because he loved me so much and tried everything to make our love stay. But I could not love him anymore… he wanted too much of my attention, and if I could not give him attention, he would get angry.
    He could not make my happy because we had problems with my parents and friends disliking him. It was hard to break up… I feel happier now.. Just I feel sad for him! :(

  245. unhappy Says:

    Hi! thanks for the points you’ve given. Honestly, i am not happy with my relationship anymore because we don’t have a sex life anymore. Well, is it because of his age? But, he is just in his late 30’s!!! But, I can’t leave him ‘coz I will really feel bad :( HELP!!!

  246. Confused Says:

    I Love him,litteraly more than anything in the world,And somehow I know that I always will.But its lke over night he changed.He dosent care about my feelings.He used to say I was his number one,his everything and just the otherday he said to me why would I do so and so with you if I wouldnt do it with Sam (His friend hes known for about 4 months,We have been together 2 years) He does things that he know I hate him doing.I’ve quit doing a lot of things I used to do for him.But when ask him to stop doing somthing its me who is the stupid one. I just want him to run after to me and say he loves me too and he needs me NOT things that are bad for him,NOT skipping class,NOT other girls.I just want my baby,the guy I used to know.

  247. shauna Says:

    i carnt stop crying last night i dint go sleep and im cryin right now and im only 9 years of age.

  248. Alan Says:

    re: point # 9 – It might not have occurred to you, but relationships are about sacrifice and compromise. So you’re telling me that if your boyfriend makes great money, is caring, devoted, intelligent, attractive and fun, you would dump him because he leaves the toilet seat up? The fact that your blood boils over something like this is YOUR issue, not his. It is truly scary that women like you exist and if I were dating you and you spouted this nonsense, I would kick you to the curb and not look back.

  249. confused Says:

    i have been dating boyfriend for a year today he does consrtuction and manages apartments he used to be there for the first six months but lately he has been very distant he dont answer my calls most of the time i have to wait for his he talked to me about marriage he has not asked me to marry him. He calls me and tells me we are going to go out some where but then he cancells always has an excuse for it. We are adults and he has met most of my fam and i havent met any of his fam and when i ask to meet them he just makes excuses for why i cant meet them they are working they never have time its always something different. He has such a secret life i feel like i really dont know anything about him. Does anyone have advice please help.

  250. evangelist Says:

    hie…my bf doesntt hav any of d traits dat u mentioned above,..sumtimes he is tired nd doesnt wana m8 me bt den dats normal…
    but he has problems at his house nd i have 2 pay each tyme we out nd den he is not even thankful 4 it..
    cant say dis 2 him coz mayb wud hurt him
    but if i keep spendin so much my mom wud knw abt it nd i wud land in trouble,,as everytym we m8 he wants 2 eat at sum fine restaurant nd doesnt even touch his wallet.
    al dis is makin me feel he is using me. .. completely feelin broken. help.

  251. Shirvonne Says:

    I have been in my relationship for 5+ yrs now and in the earlier time we did alot together…………he says he never cheated on me cause he has had so many girls b4 it doesn’t phase him no more to cheat. (WHATEVER) Anyhow the only time we spend time together anymore is if I make noise. He tells me things like “I am acting like a little child” or “when u cry it doesn’t hurt me” and this is just a few of the things even things like ” you need to go back with ur EX boyfriend so he can bust your face cause that is what u need for acting stupid” hmmmm…………. What do I do we have a kid together how do I get through this without hurting my son?

  252. annonyms Says:

    my boyfriend told me if i get to fat he will dump me.
    he also really wanted a girl to flash him on webcam so he said that the girl in his msn name wasnt his girlfriend it was just a friend who was in hospital with a brain tumour, he also calls me a c*** all the time and swears at me like crazy/\.

  253. rose Says:

    I need to find out if my boyfriend had anyone else stay with him on a recent trip! How can I ring the hotel to find out if he was! What could I say!

  254. mandamikel Says:

    The fact that we are all on here looking for the signs, proves that we’ve already been considering it and probably should.

    However, that’s easier said than done. I know that I have noticed nearly all of the above beginning to take place in my relationship, yet I still can’t bring myself to do it. I love him to bits, but i’m just really not attracted to him anymore, and although sex is not the WHOLE relationship, it is a big factor. He also annoys me at times, and he used to see me all the time, but now he tends to stay at home with his friends, and then relays back to me all the stuff he’s been doing and how good it was, whilst i was sat at home feeling miserable, lonely and crying. Every time I bring up the problems I feel are arising, he dismisses them and refuses to talk about them, or says that he doesn’t feel that way and that doesn’t console me or make it any better. I know I should break up with him, but I guess the biggest factor in this is that I feel I won’t find anyone else as it took me forever to find him. I feel I’m not good enough to find someone else, which I think is to do with self esteem, which then mean sI should probably see a counsellor as I’ve felt this way for years. So maybe all my feelings about our relationship aren’t real and i’m just looking for reasons for him to leave me so I can justify my feelings about myself.

    Basically I think this is a taboo topic. If you really feel like it’s not working and there is NOTHING left in your relationship, yes it should be ended. If there are things you can work on, then you should give fixing them a try. However, it’s personal opinion, because after saying all this, I probably won’t end up leaving him either.

  255. lizzy Says:

    okay well ive been with my boyfriend for since 2008 its 2 years and 3 months well i love this man so much he is my world i cant stand thinking about breaking up with him bc he can make my day but some days its so diffrent like a year ago there was this girl that he has been friends with before we meet and i know she likes him and well i found out that she has been wright him letters and i didnt know about it tell i was cleaning his stuff and he tried telling me its nothing but i mean come on at least 45 letters that ive never sall before isent nothing? so we would fight a little and make up but once i found out she was texting him and telling him to delete his messages so i couldnt read them was the last straw for me i told him he could text her or talk to her but since 2010 he has told me that i am being nosy and that i cant read his messages and when he goes places i will text him or call him and ask him where he is going and he will say places and he dont evan know how mad that makes me and theres no signs of him cheating bc he is always back in less than an hour and he texts me why he is gone is he just being an ass hole or what? idk? when i start cring he will tell me im being a brat and a little baby and when i want to tell him how i feel i cant bc i know it will all come back on me….. I love him so much but the things he does i dont think is right? please help any body any advice?

  256. RedScarlet Says:

    Best thing that I ever did for myself is leave my abusive boyfriend. It was not easy(countless) breakups. Believe in yourself ladies, you deserve and are worth more. Good things come from putting yourself first. I am in a healthy loving relationship soon to be married to an amazing man who loves, believes, supports and shares a life with me. It is always darkest before the light. Hopefully this will help some of you out there. If I can do it so can you.

  257. nicq. - Says:

    ???

  258. monicq Says:

    hr is a tip to u gals. Try not to be so dependent on him, like omg! Txt him everyday or evn call on him, it will just like lead him to think that u are so obsessive to him that u cant live without him. Men loves those women hu could:1. Live by herself aka independent2.high respct in her woman hood3.idk but i notice this to other guys, eve n if ur not pretty ul still luk gud if ur smart, nice, and feminine. Being INTELLIgent is a high thing. Thats why ur bf will be more challenge if he knows that u have the guts to overcome his manhood. Thus this increases hs interest of u!!4.dont be so over jealous to other women, hell think that ur not confident about urself, like how u luk. I f he say ‘how i wish u could be like her’ just say ‘well she’s yours’ haha! I love to hear that.5. If he tries to make u feel jealous, try to be, but not overly jealouss, remember that guys love those girls hu can control theirselves.6. Dont tell to ur bf where will u go, or just dont tell all the normal things that u do. Like,, babe ill visit andy this summer. Omg!cant u go by urself not telling him those plans! U will be more intersting if u will not tell. Promise this strategy works!7. Men love challenges, so challenge him in other ways, not in the point that u insult him or whatsoever.8. Love urself! Be beautiful everyday u have plns to see each other, put light make up—pls?, perfume, and most of all ur hygiene! Most breakups are all factors of poor hygiene! Also he will loose interest of u, if ur smell is like a rotten egg.how can he barely kiss u? Hahaha, see my point?9. Men loves admiration, this is so true! My bf loves to please me of how he looks. Haha, he buys until now all those expensive things like expensive t shirts, shoes! He wants me to feel that he is rch even not, that he is above to other men! So please try make make ur bf number ONE! So he will not lead this way.10. Try not to be selfish, treat him, make him feel that he is not the only one hu makes the move.11. Let ur bf know all ur friends, dont show interest to ur guy friends, be equal. 12. If u have insecurities to others, try to be unique! Find other ways that u will that ur diff to others, and show it to ur bf,. Make some achievements! Omg!he will truly have satisfaction and also it will enhance interests to u.Theres more but its hard to type coz im just using my phone,.I wish this cud help u gals, those are the facts that is actually true to life! This will be more satisfying to those girls hu loves to make above to their bf. Try this at the very start of ur relationship., it’s fun, just love ur bf so they can love u back. What u do is what u get. Muaahhhhhh!

  259. pia Says:

    i just want to ask readers out there, i’ve been with him for 4 years already. but it just pisses me off whenever i see his friend’s message on facebook, on text messages. there’s a bond between them and i’m kinda getting frustrated. i know what’s my position in our relationship but every time i see the girl. my day turns into nightmare. ugh. hating him even more. that friend I’m referring to is a girl. is it really bad to get jealous?

  260. Ade Says:

    Oh my God!
    I really hope people think before they do something stupid by reading this on the internet, though sometimes just looking at it from the side can help.

  261. Jay Says:

    O why us up this guide is stupid thats called being in a relationship don’t put it all on men women do plenty of things espically the toilet seat thing annoys me whos to say its meant to stay down but you assume it should because you tell men that wise up if you have a bad relationship then break up if not learn to love the flaws thats what love is not the way movies are

  262. Jay Says:

    i apologise for the bad grammer and spelling problems with touch pad mouse jumping back and forth

  263. zeena Says:

    well am having the biggest problem in all my life
    am 23, and i have a perfect life, exept i love my boyfriend which shows me none of the affection or caring
    i cant let go of him, am always waiting something from him , though i try everything to be around and to care
    but i dont find results. when am with him am alone
    when am far of him am also alone, he claims that he cares, but i dont c actions
    plus whenever i try to explain why am upset, he never want to speak he stays silent all the time

    what should i do?? funny thing am aware of the fact that he dosnt deserve me
    and i hate the habbit of making him missing me by disapearing for a couple of days
    its pure acting
    why doesnt he misses without making me suffer
    whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
    i should dump him, shouldnt i !!

  264. seiva7 Says:

    this article is a big disappointment…

  265. clarce Says:

    dump him,if u wanted t0. But i blve it was just pure misc0muncti0n btween d tw0 of u

  266. whathashappened? Says:

    sigh… </3

  267. Patricia Vynchester Says:

    I would only like to add few more tips:

    Offering help – If the guy offers to help you with something, like really excitedly “Hey, I can help you with that!” that is also a sign that he likes you. He wants to do something nice to you, to help you out, it’s also pretty obvious – no?

    Carries on conversation – Have you noticed that he sometimes wants to just extend a conversation that has led to a dead end? If he really doesn’t want to end the talk and comes up with new topics, ideas, jokes, and if you determine that he does it deliberately – you’re right – HE LIKES YOU :)

    Not mentioning other women – This can be a pretty clear giveaway. If he normally talks about women and mentions his female friends but when he talks to you – he doesn’t – then that can be a sign. Why does he do that? Well he just does not want you to think that he might like any of those girls… It’s weird, but guys do it subconsciously…

    Well those are SOME of many signs if a guy likes you, but if you wanna know more, there’s a whole website covering the topic of how to tell if a guy likes you, so check it out –> http://www.ifaguylikesyou.com/

  268. attroneys Says:

    Sorry i dont know to give any comments on this site

  269. Jen Says:

    I’ve been with a guy for about a year and he proposed about 8 months into our relationship and I said yes but now were getting ready to move in together and he is changing how he treats me and we only have relationships when he’s supper horny. We argue about the things that need to be done for our move in day. All he wants to do is go to work and find another job just for the heck of it. What am I suppose to do I love him but I also meet him online. I’m really busy with working and going to school so how do I know if this is what he’s turning into or if this is just a phase he’s going through.

  270. A-Half-Decent-Man Says:

    Women aren’t the only ones who are pissed off by and at those same jerk boyfriends of their’s. We hate them, too! (I’m not kidding.) I’m very pleased about this. :)

  271. Kaie Says:

    everything has changed with my bf..he doesnt listen to me anymore and on my birthday he wasnt the firs to wish me happy birthday. i have been telling him i cant handle this anymore and i want to break up but we never break up. He got me unlocked! I want to be different i dont want to love him as this much, i want to stop having this feelings. I want to stop crying because of him.advice please x

  272. kish Says:

    i had a boyfriend, we’re 2 years and 5months now. he used to be sweet, caring.. and a head to toe guy u wanted.. before, when we go out and if we’ll return to our homes, he will send a message right away, saying how he truly miss me. almost everyday,he sends me messages, telling me how much he loves me. He’s happy knowing that i also pay attention to his emotions.He’s an obedient chiild, God-fearing, kind, genteleman, handsome, trustworthy and does no physical torture as what my previous boyfriends did to me before. But the bad side that he possess is too unbearable. Over time, he changed into a selfish bastard. Whenever we have problen, he does not share his feelings and views. He doesnt want arguments to be talked about, wnted me to shut up because for him, i am starting a fight again when its not. The sweet guy that i’ve known before is already as cold as a stone… he ignores my messsages, and call. he’s not that thoughtful anymore. When mad, he throws harsh words like how rotten and dumb am i. for 2 years and 5 months, I haven’t heard the word US and We when he talks about our realtionship. SERIOULSY! he only thrives on the present feelings. i mean i cant see MYSELF in his FUTURE expectation. it’s like talking about … “i want a house just like that..” “i wanted a car” always about HIM.. he doesn’t even mentioning my NAME in his DREAMS or PLANS… haven’t heard saying cliches like “i hope we could be together” ” i will try my best for our relationship to last”.. i havent seen myself in him!!! he owrks always to his own advantage. he told me before that he’s not telling those SWEET WORDS because he’s afraid that it will not come true.. what is this?? what does it mean??? there’s some insensitivity.. he takes me for granted.. that’s what i am feeling right now!!! I AM HUNGRY.. THIRSTY … he wants me to sit there and wait what wil happen next with our relationship. in short he doesn’t SHARE HIS PLANS ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP! and every time i wanted to blurt my feelings out.. hes telling me that i am doing same stupid thing over and over again… why can’t he see that it’s HIS PROBLEM anyway?? I tried many times to dump him but he told me notorious things.. things that he would do if i will dump him… i hat it!

  273. anonymous boyfriend Says:

    Girl’s, if your boyfriend shows multiple signs listed on this website including the fact that you looked up this website. I will let you know that your better off single. Your golden years only last so long, and wasting them in a relationship shattered with defects will only lead to many lost opportunities with mr. right and compatible. Don’t let the fear of being alone and or the insecurity that you can’t do any better, stop you. You only live one life, try to make every day worth it so your life will be filled with wonderful memories you will cherish forever. If you need help breaking up, refer to this yahoo answer.

    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20091117101423AAiNlGj

  274. anonymous boyfriend Says:

    Girl\’s, if your boyfriend shows multiple signs listed on this website including the fact that you looked up this website. I will let you know that your better off single. Your golden years only last so long, and wasting them in a relationship shattered with defects will only lead to many lost opportunities with mr. right and compatible. Don\’t let the fear of being alone and or the insecurity that you can\’t do any better, stop you. You only live one life, try to make every day worth it so your life will be filled with wonderful memories you will cherish forever. If you need help breaking up, refer to this yahoo answer.

    http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20091117101423AAiNlGj

  275. ThisWhyImBroke Says:

    Here’s another one: if he’s banging all your friends

  276. desarah Says:

    I would rather see a guy happy with someone who will love them for who they are. I always break up with a guy as soon as I realize Im not the one for them. They can beg and cry, but in my experiance, they always find a more fullfilling relationship after the break up. And when I meet them again down the road, they are happier :) I don’t think it’s fair to anyone to stay in a relationship, if you don’t love the person no matter what. True love is letting go when you know it’s the right thing to do. sometimes all you need is time apart. And lots of courage. You are both wonderful people who deserves to be happy.

  277. desarah Says:

    I would rather see a guy happy with someone who will love them for who they are. I always break up with a guy as soon as I realize Im not the one for them. They can beg and cry, but in my experiance, they always find a more fullfilling relationship after the break up. And when I meet them again down the road, they are happier :) I don\’t think it\’s fair to anyone to stay in a relationship, if you don\’t love the person no matter what. True love is letting go when you know it\’s the right thing to do. sometimes all you need is time apart. And lots of courage. You are both wonderful people who deserves to be happy.

  278. geneeres Says:

    Try this for love Pray to Pomba gira very effective!!!
    sutitute his initials and then yours.

    OH! Poderosa Pomba Gira de los Siete Exus, quiero que de vuelta mi amado UMH que me entristece y me deprime con su desprecio, distancia e indiferencia, que UMH olvide y deje de una vez por todas todos los otros amores, a todas las otras mujeres y a los que nos quieran apartar. Que UMH deje de ser grosero, mal educado, egoísta, enojón y frío e indiferente conmigo MARG que UMH se desanime y sea frío con todas las otras mujeres, que UMH sea grosero e indiferente con cualquier otra mujer que quiera conversar con él y salga inmediatamente de la vida de el UMH Y que UMH tome enojo, desprecio, aversión y rabia odio mortal a cualquier otra mujer que quiera andar con él y que ellos se separen para siempre. Que ninguna otra mujer consiga hacer que UMH sienta placer, solamente yo MARG tendré ese poder dado por ti mi reina. Que UMH deje de una vez a todas las otras mujeres, que UMH sienta deseos, placer y amor solamente por mi MARG y consiga verme a mi como el único amor de su vida, que UMH se desinterese por conversar y salir con otras mujeres y que acepte de una vez por todas que solo me quiere y me ama a mi MARG y que UMH solo quiera estar conmigo MARG y nadie mas. Que UMH sienta placer y amor solamente conmigo y por mí MARG. Que UMH se sienta bien, tranquilo, feliz y amado solamente a mi lado MARG . Que UMH venga a mi MARG me pida mi amor y mi perdón y me pida volver con él para casarnos lo más pronto posible. OH! Linda Poderosa Pomba Gira de los Siete Exus, que en este momento UMH quiera andar y estar solamente conmigo y que realice hasta lo imposible para que esto se de. Que solo quiera estar conmigo y con más nadie más ni con amigos, mujeres, clientes, familia. Que UMH quede pensando solamente en mí MARG y pensando cómo va a hacer para HACERME FELIZ a mi MARG y en como va hacer para seguir luchando por nuestro amor para que se realice y siga dando y podamos así estar los dos juntos felices y casados para siempre y por siempre. Necesito Reina Pomba Gira me des una señal, un recado una llamada telefónica, un mensaje de texto de UMH o cualquier contacto para saber si UMH piensa en mi y me quiere a mi MARG para me quite de esta oscuridad y depresión en la que me encuentro. Que UMH hable conmigo me busque, que sienta que me echa de menos, me extraña, me necesita, me desea y me ama mas que nunca a mi MARG. Usted es fuerte y poderosa, traiga a UMH a mis pies, para siempre, y que venga Corriendo, que deje todo y a todos, que desconozca familia, costumbres, amigos, trabajo, mujeres, amigas. Y que UMH sólo piense y me ame a mi MARG Linda y Poderosa Pomba Gira de los Siete Exus con su gran e invencible poder destruya, derribe, acabe, quite, desaparezca todas las barreras, a todas las personas, hechizos, trabajos y sortilegios que están impidiendo que UMH ME AME LOCAMENTE a mi MARG y desee unirse y volver a mi MARG definitivamente. Quiero a mi amado UMH, amándome, admirándome, cuidándome, protegiéndome y consintiéndome siempre, siéndome fiel, tratándome con ternura y respeto y al acostarse que UMH piense en mi MARG haciendo así que solo yo MARG , sea el único amor en la vida de UMH, que el me ame y confíe en mi MARG. Mi reina te pido Que hagas a UMH sentir por mi MARG un amor grande y deseo fuera de lo normal y lo común, algo mas allá de lo inexplicable como nunca sintió por otra mujer y nunca lo sentirá por otra mujer solo por mi MARG, que esto no lo asuste, que esto lo motive a seguir luchando por nuestro amor para poder estar juntos UMH y yo MARG y ser felices uno con el otro. Que UMH sienta deseos sexuales solamente por mí MARG y más nadie. Que sus deseos, atenciones, sonrisas, miradas y buenos pensamientos sean sólo para mi MARG que sus pensamientos, gentilezas, amor, cariño, ternura, dinero, bondades y detalles sean sólo para mi MARG. Solamente yo MARG le daré placer varias veces en el mismo día, solo yo MARG tendré ese poder dado por ti mi reina. Salve 7 Sayas por los 7 Exus que acompañan tus pasos te pido y suplico, amarres en sus 7 sayas y en los 7 guisos de su ropa a UMH, para mi MARG . Linda y Poderosa Pomba Gira de los Siete Exus te pido quiebra, has polvo y desaparece las fuerzas, el orgullo, la dignidad, la resistencia, la indiferencia, las dudas, el recelo, el egoísmo y la distancia que hace que UMH sea tan frió conmigo para que UMH vuelva a buscarme y ser muy cariñoso, amoroso, comprensivo solamente conmigo MARG. Que UMH me quiera y me ame mucho de verdad a mi MARG, que yo MARG me Quede Con el UMH. Pero además, quiero que usted, Linda y Poderosa Pomba Gira de los Siete Exus, aleje de UMH toda y cualquier otra mujer que este detrás de el, que UMH las ignore completamente y solo me busque y me acepte a mi de una vez por todas para Que podamos ser felices juntitos los dos UMH y MARG. Que UMH sienta ternura, atracción, pasión, deseo sexual Y AMOR SOLAMENTE por mí MARG Que UMH me llame por teléfono, me escriba a mi celular y a mi email a mi MARG desde ya, desde este mismo instante y a todo momento para saber como estoy, con quien estoy, que estoy haciendo y para decirme cuanto me ama a mi MARG. Que UMH sienta nostalgia, deseo, pasión, y amor por mi persona MARG que UMH siga buscando y esperando por mi MARG y siga teniendo esperanza por nuestro amor! Quiero que UMH me busque hoy y ahora, en este preciso instante para decirme cuanto me ama y que me quiere a su lado a mí MARG para siempre. Quiero oír la voz de UMH, pidiendo verme para quedarse conmigo y volviendo a mi MARG para siempre, diciendo que me ama y que me quiere solo a mí MARG y no puede vivir sin mi y que quiere casarse y estar conmigo MARG y que va hacer hasta lo imposible para que todo lo nuestro se de y ser felices. Gracias Por el Favor Concedido, Voy a divulgar tu nombre a cambio de este pedido en 7 altares distintos al noveno día de terminar esta oración y novenario, yo MARG profetizo en el nombre del Padre, del Hijo y del espíritu Santo, confío en el poder de la 7 Encrucijadas, que así sea, así será y así esta hecho. Agradezco por el deseo pedido ya alcanzado, cada vez que lea esta oración mas fuerte ella se hará. Voy a divulgar a las 4 esquinas del mundo, pidiendo a la madre que conceda mi deseo, que haga a UMH se vuelva loco de amor y deseos por mi MARG y que lo haga luchar por nuestro amor hasta lograrlo, que cada lagrima derramada por mi MARG se transforme en un gran amor en el corazón de UMH, se que los espíritus de la falange de Pomba Gira están soplando en los oídos de UMH, soplando mi nombre MARG, de día y de noche diciéndole que me hable, que me busque, que me diga que me ama y que nadie lo amara como yo lo hago, que deje a un lado su orgullo, egoismo o temor y vuelva a mi manso y enamorado, que UMH duerma pensando, acordándose y soñando conmigo MARG que se despierte pensando y amándome a mi MARG. Salve Pomba Gira te pido OH madre, quita del pensamiento de UMH todo el odio, resentimiento, rencor, ira, enfado, enojo, dudas, mujeres y todo lo malo que paso que lo este haciendo separarse de mi MARG y que ahora todo eso lo conviertas en un gran amor único fuerte por mi MARG y que UMH piense solamente en nuestro amor y en luchar por el, y que UMH viva ENAMORADO de mi MARG de tanto amor. Que así sea, así será y así esta hecho. Agradezco por todo lo que ya esta hecho y confío que seré atendida, UMH va a estar loco de amor por mi MARG, lo más rápido posible, trae a UMH de vuelta a mí MARG YA. Por favor concédeme lo que aquí te pido. En agradecimiento divulgare tu nombre por las 4 esquinas del mundo

  279. geneeres Says:

    Thank yoy Pomba gira I appreciate what you do for me, i´ll say your name all over the world as paid for bringing my man back i love him!

    try this Pray to Pomba gira effective!

  280. guest Says:

    hey guys i need help…my bf and i have been together for 2 yrs now and its non stop quarrel….every week there is a quarrel for the smallest of things. I feel as if i can run away soooo far want freedom but i also feel trapped in this relationship idk what 2 do at all i cant take this anymore..everytime we go out there is an arguement i feel 2 beat up myself an what ever i do is just not good enough..please help

  281. jodiegrm Says:

    i am very glad,that my eyes and heart are open now,i know it so hard to forget him,he is the only man i love because he is the only one break my heart,i been crying for almost 2yrs.i felt so damn and miserable causing of how pity myself,so stupid i am,but the other side is i thank him,cause he thought what is real love is,

  282. kane Says:

    video games and potato chips are more important to my boyfriend of 4 and a half years then me and our 2 dogs will ever be. I am frustrated and so tired its not even funny but i still manage to work two jobs and take the dogs out and clean when ever i can. But my boyfriend acts like i never do anything and tells me that he doesnt care about the money. He is always say i am so obbsessed with money but i point out its not the money its the stability the roof over our heads the little food we have gas in the car dog food i stress alot and make myself sick this annoys him and he makes comments saying that i should be able to handle life like an adult. but when the truth is that he is the child he didnt work for a month and a half barely applied for any jobs and stayed up all night he rarely took the dogs out and cleaned a few times but it was always half ass. he makes comments that i am always acting like his mother trying to motivate him to do something to help me i really dont ask for much. but then expects me to wash his laundry and find him clothes make him food or bring him drinks. he has been really mad and mean to me since i stopped wanting to sleep with him i find him attractive sometimes but his habits and attitude make it hard. i feel so lost and confused i just want to run away. but when i want to leave or want him to go he crys slams doors bangs on stuff and yells it puts me on edge and drives me into a stand off mind set. he also is aggressive towards our dogs they are afraid of him…and as i finish venting i know that the answer is right in front of me but like most i am afraid and dont know how to go about ending our relationship?

  283. sad Says:

    I really dont know what to do its been 8 years.

    We started off very rocky and well never have been what I’ve dream of as a little girl.

    He has no job but makes money he is good to his mom but she is crazy.
    we meet whn i was 16 he was 23. we slept together the first date witch was my fault i really liked him and hung out before it wasent like we first meet and i had no had sex for like 8 months i was horny as hell for him.

    I loved him so much a really belive it was all going to work out.

    we been though alot he has throw my hreat all around the more i type the more i get we have grown but have really bad fights am not horny for him like i use to be i work 6 jobs and feel like we can never have a baby or a really life at all

    i dont want to leave though

    well i do

    and feel like i cant and all the time we have split i always go back i worry ill just go back to him and ll it will be a waste of time

    the thing is when we fight he hits me i cant even talk to him about anything and its stressing me out

    i have work like now and no time for this too rushing typing lol

    any help??

  284. Kim with boyfriend troubles Says:

    I can definitely relate.
    My boyfriend and I have been together for the a coupe weeks now. The first, it was great. Kept me close, hugged me, and said goodbye when his bus arrived.
    But now, he doesn’t do anything. If I say hi, he’ll just say hi back. He only hangs with his friends and his cousin.
    I really hope we could of talked before school ended for the year, but he didn’t even say a word.
    I don’t know what to do. Does anyone know?

  285. michelle Says:

    when i read this article ii started to cry cuz ii am really in love with my boy but im suffering next to him everyday i try to be happy next to him but it seems like everyday ii see myself curling into a little ball i the bathroom and crying even in fron of him sumtimes i cry .. cuz the things he says and does hurt me its like he thinks im heartless and do not have feelings at all .. but i wanna be with him lots of the thins dat are written above are happening to me like 7 of 10 are happening to me and.. i never feel good enough for him.. i feel like im never good enough for him and damn it i try and try and it seems like the more ii try to achieve a good relationship with him i keep struggling right now he is in my bed playing with his cell phone and mas at me i bet he doesnt have a clue im writing here

  286. erin Says:

    How can people be so heartless? I just wanna know what it means when an ex says he wants to get back together just not right now. I do love him still but half of the time I’m mad at him because he always says he will call me but then never follows through. Then he will make up excuses as to why he didn’t call, like work or not having his phone charger or that he just forgot or that he fell asleep. Every excuse in the book. His behavior repulses me. I truly believe he is seeing someone else and doesn’t want to hurt my feelings. Total BS. I have confronted him about it and he thinks I’m crazy. How can he say I’m crazy if all the signs point to him seeing another woman? So shady. I wish I knew why he does this. He wants to still “date” me, but nothing serious. What the heck should I do? He called me tonight asking to come over because his plans earlier didn’t end up happening. I never responded to give him a atse of his own medicine for saying he cares and then acting totally the opposite because I’m fed up and its high time he learns what goes around comes around and I will not be his doormat anymore. But what if he calls?

  287. lin333 Says:

    Thank you for these tips-I am a divorced woman but my boyfriend of 6 years lives in my apartment, and cares more about doing things for others than for me. He is overweight, has no teeth, is on disability, has limited language skills, and is plain lazy around the house. He is a damn slob and I am fed up with his inability to carry on an intellectual conversation and hates to as he calls it “arguing” but it is just discussing topics of importance. I guess it is hard for me because I have a MA degree, and love to read and write. I must find a way to get him out!

  288. fruity_lucky Says:

    i hate love

  289. sweetgal Says:

    Hi m sylvia..i’m in a relationship for the past 3 years n dis is my 1st love..he was loving me alot n vl meet almost 4 to 5 days in a week..he had certain family problems n v wer nt able to meet..i did’nt care 2 knw if m alive r not n i jus knw tat he exits…thn evrythn was 5n but i don find the care n affection tat i got initially..nowadays v don meet often..each time he gives me reasons.. relations hav cum hme,hav tat wrk n dis wrk..but i’m sure he wants 2 marry me..coz he has talkd wit his parents n he wants to marry me soon..but d prob nw is I FACE THE SAME POINTS GIVEN IN THE ARTICLE..he talks abt him n his family al d time..evn if m worried wit sumthn he jus ask me a name sake ques n tats it..he’l move on to nxt topic n does’nt care 2 bring me 2 normal..he acts selfish..n it looks like he does’nt want a girl to love him n care but a good daughter in law to do all household wrkz n routines..evn i hav prob wit ma wrk n family but he nvr cares 2 ask me abt tat..to say precisely he acts selfish..bt i love him so much…n he too loves me but wat to do wit his selfish nature,,,i’m helpless…whether to proceed???

  290. Angela Esada Says:

    thanks for the tips. Its high time guyz treat us very important.

  291. Ann H, Says:

    I met ( Online ) this really nice guy almost 6 years ago and he was the most caring and loving man i had ever met and he is a really good an trusting man ,,needless to say i believed in him and his love and when i left my home and moved in with him to another state the personal romance went from every night for 7months to 2 times a year im the romantic but he doesnt care for it,, so when he got a better job with better pay his love left me and i dont have my home anymore to move back to and now he is offering me ex amount of money to leave or he will go i told him i want enough to pack an buy another home he wont say anything to me as to the money to move , its sad we are in our 50’s and i am not old looking and he is not into romance and i am,, i have a teen an i hate the thought of her having a broken home ,, we dont fight or yell or drink the hard stuff but i can feel there is no interest in the relationship,,this new job is breaking us up, at one time he called me his wife know im his gf , if i ever get my own home again i will never live with another man unless my name is on the title of home. its true we are never to old to learn!!! Moving is harder when you are in a one horse town and no one for family to call on,,,, I will always love him but i have to think of me and my teen and our happiness first , Has anyone got some ideas to help me? its hard to find a love that you can trust and share and be trusted.

  292. Viola Says:

    Some very good points. Signs 1,4,5,7, and 8 most important.

  293. Tracy Says:

    Hi all, I was just reading this and just last week my man had another girl give him a blow job. We have been together for 3 years now and in the first year we broke up for four months because I couldn’t stand all the fighting we were doing. Well I ended up meeting a guy in a couple days after I left him and this guy became my best friend. Well my ex started to beg me for four months to get back with him, but I didn’t want to because I fell hard for this other guy. Well eventually after the four months I finally got back with my boyfriend. Well we’ve had our problems and we broke up a couple more times and I ended up sleeping with the same guy again, well when me and my boyfriend got back together. he complains that I cheated on him. I feel I didn’t cheat since we were separated, but he called me a whore and a cheater. Since then it seems like he’s been trying to get revenge and he did. They didn’t have sex since it was her monthly thing, but she did suck his you know what and when I found out I flipped yes we were on a small break, but I had just slept with him a couple days before and he took me and my family to the zoo. I feel so violated. When he told me it was like yeah some girl sucked it. I didn’t believe him until he took me to his house and the girl left all of her belongings in his apartment. He told me that he told her that he slept with me recently and she still messed with him. Why are girls like this? It doesn’t make any sense to me. I am hurt because I love this man and want to spend my future with him, but now he just wants to be friends with benefits. It’s funny though because when I told him that I didn’t want to be friends I didn’t want to talk to him anymore He freaked out and is making sure we stay friends. Am I crazy for staying friends with benefits with him? Plus he decided to show me a picture of her giving him head and I saw her text to him and she sent a pic of her V J J. I’m so confused and can’t stop crying and thinking of it. Someone Please Help. Thanks Tracy

  294. Ughh Says:

    It feels good understanding that I’m not the only one out here in the world that feels this way. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 5/6 years. I don’t even really know. Lately, there have been lots of fighting, arguing, disagreements. We talked about marriage and I just don’t know if I can spend the rest of my life with someone like this. I feel bad. I feel like I’ve been leading him on. Even though I truly wanted to try to make this work. My situation is complex as we live together currently and I just don’t even know where to go when I break it off. I’ve been trying to break up with him for forever. He’s really nice, which is hard. But he’s also condescending sometimes. You know? He always does nice things for me but I do think that our personalities no longer click. I feel so guilty. I’m not cheating on him, he has cheated on me when we FIRST started dating so I forgave him immediately, dumb…5 years later I wish I would have broke up with him. That means I don’t want to be with him right? I also fall into the categories of 4 through 10.
    Ugh, I just don’t know what to do. This sucks. And I know I shouldn’t be with anyone for financial security. He’s a good person to know and be friends with, but I just can’t see myself WITH him anymore. I’m no longer physically attracted to him, he’s short tempered, I can never be right, we argue about stupid stuff. Not only that, I’ve been juggling the decision to break up with him for a long time now. At first I thought it was because he wouldn’t propose. But I’m over that now.
    I was scared of being alone, not finding anyone. I’m 25, financially stable and feel as though I’m attractive. I just need to get away. I feel so trapped. I can’t fully be myself with him. I feel like I need to be secretive because I feel like he’s so suspicious of me for no reason. We used to have fun, but now I’m just over it.
    Sorry for the run-on sentences, this is the first time I’ve admitted this to the world, besides close friends. Advice?

  295. Ughh Says:

    Another thing to add…although the things he is doing does now annoy me, I feel like I’m the jerk in the relationship. I feel like I don’t care about his days at work, what he does on the weekend, etc. Again I feel bad for feeling this way because I think he really loves me, but then again he may be putting on a good front. Who knows? I think about his family and how they would be real surprised to find out that we were no longer together, its crazy and I overthink and then end up staying – trapped.

  296. neky Says:

    I am so happy getting the site,but the point is i don’t know if is really of help because i have not left him yet.he is my first and we ‘ve being together for a yr n some months. i ‘ve given up a lot 4 him n some times he takes me 4 granted.He says he loves me some times but even if there are no much proves to that i have learnt to make up excuses 4 him.now i met this guy who is lovely n understands me well and i rily want to be with him but to leave my boy friend for him seems to be the most difficult thing i’ve ever had to do.all of a sudden my boy friend suddenly realises how much he wants me around but does not still agree to no sex thinks is so unfair.and the new guy is willing to date me with out sex.pls help me

  297. mumsboys123 Says:

    Well i’m ill today, sitting here in me jimmyjams, i’ve been cooking for him, letting him shower here share my bed, even when he had a bad cold may i add! Then today i’m down with a cold, put off his visit last night cause i felt rough and stressed about other things. I rang him last night, told him i felt rough and this was his answer, “phew! i don’t wanna catch yer cold cause i’m Diabetic”. Get this, i rang him this morning cause i felt guilty about letting him down last night, but he said “hope you feel better, n i’m plastering my walls today!” ;-(. Don’t give a damn does he? I think thats a dumping offence don’t you? Take take and no give, well sod him.
    Another useless one bites the dust X

  298. gummiber Says:

    I was so heartbroken over this one guy. One day he just told me that things weren’t working out and he broke up with me. I cried all night long. All I wanted was to talk to him, I called over and over again and send tons of text messages. but After i contacted this spell caster i told him my problem and he helped me out,and then i now know why everything I tried to get him back failed.It didn’t take much time to get my ex back! all it is contacting the right person, i want to thank the thelordofspell@hotmail.com,Thanks for helping me out.

  299. metalkitten Says:

    I agree with a few of these things, but I’m not sure if it’s enough to break up with him. My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year and a half. We were friends for at least a year before we started dating (we were both dating other people) and always got along great. We still do. We’re best friends- we make eachother laugh all day. We usually have pretty good communication (I’m really open- it helps him speak up) but there are a few times I have almost just walked away.

    He considers himself to be somewhat inexperienced sexually (four long term girlfriends including me- he’s almost 30, I have double the ex boyfriends and a two ex girlfriends) and he’s very jealous/self concious because I have more experience (guys, girls, a couple of three somes, ect). This tends to be difficult when running in to ex’s (we’re in the music scene which a few people I’ve dated are in- hard to avoid some people) and when talking about our history. He is also somewhat uncomfortable knowing that I am bisexual – only for the fact that he thinks I need a girl in my life to be happy and that he cant fufil all of my needs (this is untrue – he makes me very happy just by being himself and loving me).

    Last night as we were leaving the bar, one of our friends (not on purpose) mentioned to him that I used to date my friend Chelsea. She’s been a good friend to me for about 8 years, and we haven’t even had a fling in about three years. He didn’t say much on the way home, and he didn’t want to watch the movie we were planning on watching. I woke up to go to work and he was sleeping on the couch. I asked him what was wrong and he wouldn’t tell me. Finally, I told him I knew why he was upset and that I was sorry he feels that way. We talked about it and he’s not sure why he gets so angry but apologized for “being an asshole last night”.

    I don’t know what to do but for now I’m just going to try to have as many conversations with him as possible, reassure him that no matter what I used to do, I’m with him now. He just feels inadequate, like I can do better than he can and he gets jealous and scared that he isn;t good enough. But he really is a sweet guy and I don;t care that he doesnt have as much experience as long as he treats me well. I can trust him and he’s a good man – I just don’t want this to all go down a spiral because he can’t handle seeing the people I have a past with.

  300. wisewords1 Says:

    Every relationship has its flaws, but I now believe that the most important thing to remember is having your own happiness inside.

    Even if you think you love someone you need to understand in your heart that if you’re not truely happy then you are already sentencing yourself for possibly a lifetime of heartache – something no one should suffer.

    I have a troubled relationship of my own and I’ve felt for a while my happiness is not what it should be and what it once was. I was happy, crazy and fun and now I’m just isolated and lonely the complete opposite of myself and it’s time I left it and started again. I’m 22 I got a life to live and I’m tired of being bored and fed up of it.

    So I tell any of you. Live your life to the full, don’t let someone take you for a fool and most of all, always be yourself and respect your own personal values as I’ve let someone walk over mine, not a nice feeling. Nothing should make you feel second best as we are all best in our own individual way.

    Be true to yourself.

    I hope this has helped someone.

  301. Meager Maiden Says:

    I went to a search engine and queried, “my boyfriend gets mad at me when I cry”. Your post came up, I visited, I relate. My man turned into a vicious cruel person within months of our beginning the relationship. He accuses me of things not related to reality, he defends his friends when they are cruel to me, he condemns my thoughts and many natural behaviors, will take a positive moment and turn it into a painful one almost as if to have a reason to leave (because that soon follows), he defends even strangers over me (about most anything/everything/just to do it I think), he tells his friends (who absolutely hate me) personal things about me (and probably exaggerates), lived 5 mies away from me for 2 years and never invited me to lunch though he ate out every day (a routine he doesn’t want me invlved in), he doesn’t return laughter or funny moments with the same (unresponsive like he’s dead)…I can’t even recall all of the hurtful things he’s done while getting mad at me while I break down in tears..heaving sometimes. He says hateful cruel things to me when I’m saddened. He encourages me when I’m down only to take me back down like clockwork when I’m up. I still have never been upset by his snoring and what nots because I have loved him. Tonight though, he, for the last time, replied to my pain with anger. May he rot in relationship hell with a girl who returns his lack of empathy in the same psychopathic manner. I’m out of it.

    *phew..that almost felt good. meh #endrant

  302. Shannon Says:

    I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost a year. Things were really great between us…and then I suffered a reverse in fortune.

    You know, the old saying about when you’re down you find out who your real friends are, rings so true. And it rings even truer in a relationship. As I cascaded in a downward spiral, my boyfriend began backing off and keeping his distance. He stopped calling and texting–well, not as much as he did before–and I haven’t seen him in two months. I wish I could say it was because of his job–he is a pilot–but I know that’s not the case.

    So I lost my job and then was denied for unemployment and after that I lost my apartment and ended up homeless. When I asked him for help, he flat out told me no and that he was tired of my problems, that it was always something with me, and that hurt. That cut into me deep. I couldn’t even talk to him about what I was going through because he didn’t want to hear it. So I just stopped calling and texting and I didn’t hear from him after that.

    I asked him if he wanted out of the relationship and he said yes, so I said fine and hung up. He called back, saying he didn’t mean it and that he was tired of being yelled at and blamed when things went wrong. It didn’t matter what I said, he insisted he was right and wouldn’t budge.

    We worked things out and decided to stay together, but I didn’t feel the same about him anymore. I told him I wasn’t sure I wanted to be with him anymore and he asked why. I told him I was hurt that he didn’t reach out to me while I was down and offered me no help and even slapped my hand when I reached out to him. He retorted that he didn’t have the money to help me and I told him I never asked him for any money; I asked for his help. He said that was the same thing and I told him it wasn’t, that he could have offered me a place to stay until I got myself back on track and instead he was perfectly fine with letting me live in my car in the dead of winter in sub-zero temperatures and I just couldn’t reconcile with him after something like that. He got mad and said he knew I was only with him for money and got up to leave. I didn’t stop him and he stopped and turned to look at me. He reached for me and I resisted. He got upset. I just couldn’t get him to understand, so I told him to leave, which he did.

    He wants to get back together once I get back on my feet with a job and a place to stay, but as much as I miss him, I don’t think I want to stay with him anymore. That was so cold and heartless of him and I just couldn’t be in a relationship with a man who thought so little of me that he can make time to come over and get laid but never has time for anything else. So I know I will leave and I will find someone better.

  303. Andy Says:

    Some of these seem really off to me. A lot of the “signs” mentioned seem so needy. Who says someone doesnt love you if they dont visit you in the hospital(I mean as long as you arent dying or anything) and why does a guy have to recognize in the face of his loved one that they may/may not have had a bad day? I certainly wouldnt want to talk about a bad day or experience that I just went through, so why would I ask my wife/ girlfriend? Sex should definitly not be a measure of love in a relationship…that is revolting. I do however, agree with keeping secrets(thats a big no-no). One last thing, I dont understand why a relationship has to be right there 24/7. I mean if you want individual appartments than do it. You dont want the same bed, than do it. Relationships dont need to be all touchy touchy and what not. Even in marriage. Love shouldnt have to be created day by day. Just believe in it without having to change your whole life! and stop expecting SO much out of your spouse(goes for men and women) no one is perfect. You make the best out of what you can get. Thats reality for ya.

  304. miss happine Says:

    I recently saw a testimony about a spell caster of some sort in a blog I visit for relationship and dating counseling problems because i had been having serious issues with my boyfriend and we had been dating for six months,he just suddenly changed,he was returning my calls,he started cheating,he was hurting me in so many ways i never thought possible and I just thought I should try it maybe out of desperation of some sort ..and I contacted them..At first everything felt dreamy and unbelievable,their consultations and solution was a little bit easy and strange and I was scared a little cos I heard read and heard lots of stories of fake
    spell casters,scams and i never really believed in magic..I played along with a little hope and and faith and I was sent some few stuffs after everything and it worked like a miracle,everything went to a while new direction,it was and is amazing…I guess it was all good faith that made me read That particular post that faithful day..I hope they could help other people too like they did me…I did a little and I got everything I wanted and wished for my husband,my family and my life back their address is; templeoflive@gmail.com

  305. confused Says:

    I started dating my boyfriend while i was very ill. He took care of me (we were friends to start) and i started to fall in love with him, however the sexual attraction started to ware off and now I am just totally turned off. this has happened in a previous relationship where a friendship turned into more but then I fell out of it…

    i am his girlfriend at 27yo and i’m chicken to break his heart.

    But mostly I am afraid what it will do to our professional relationship and for that i feel selfish.

    why is this so hard…?

  306. Retal Says:

    Last month, it was my birthday, the anniversary of my late husband’s death, and a time when I experienced another loss in my family. I was in total depression also because the gentleman I had been seeing for nearly a year decided to cut ties with me. All this happened at the same time, and my heart was broken. Then I found Prophet Aluta ’s website, and all my luck turned around – especially because the master did a wonderful spell of Love for me and my dearest companion, who decided he had made a terrible mistake by leaving me. We even took a much-needed vacation. It meant the world to me, and I have you to thank for it. I send you Prayers churchofnativevity@gmail.com. Janice P.

  307. luis Says:

    Like anybody would be, I was very skeptical about using a love spell or any spell for that matter but I was absolutely shocked when Allen called me after I had freemercytemple@yahoo.com cast my lover back spell “return my lover. It was 6 weeks that I had my spell cast that he came back to me (practically on his knees). He broke up with me over a month ago and now we are happier than ever,he beg me for all the wost he did to me. Thank you Dr. Messiah Barbi Luis

  308. Oceanangel111 Says:

    I just ended something that I didn’t want to end but to put it simple, he couldn’t meet me half way. If a guy wants you, there is NOTHING they won’t do to keep you. Look at all this energy going out towards these men who don’t appreciate you! I’m 39 and have had enough on the one-sided relationships. I want someone to want me as much as I want them. Men are attracted to vibrant, happy, independent women who don’t them to feel good about themselves. If you aren’t happy, he can’t make you happy, but YOU can make yourself happy. It’s hard to let go, but I promise you this, if you do the right man will show up and you’ll be so glad you’re no longer with what’s-his-name!! Empower yourself!! Even the uncomfortable feelings remind us that we’re alive!! We don’t “need” anyone. We choose who we “want” in our life. Accept and love yourself so you can allow someone else to love you the way you deserve to be loved :)

  309. Oceanangel111 Says:

    I just ended something that I didn’t want to end but to put it simple, he couldn’t meet me half way. If a guy wants you, there is NOTHING they won’t do to keep you. Look at all this energy going out towards these men who don’t appreciate you! I’m 39 and have had enough on the one-sided relationships. I want someone to want me as much as I want them. Men are attracted to vibrant, happy, independent women who don’t them to feel good about themselves. If you aren’t happy, he can’t make you happy, but YOU can make yourself happy. It’s hard to let go, but I promise you this, if you do the right man will show up and you’ll be so glad you’re no longer with what’s-his-name!! Empower yourself!! Even the uncomfortable feelings remind us that we’re alive!! We don’t “need” anyone. We choose who we “want” in our life. Accept and love yourself so you can allow someone else to love you the way you deserve to be loved :)

  310. Oceanangel111 Says:

    I just ended something that I didn’t want to end but to put it simple, he couldn’t meet me half way. If a guy wants you, there is NOTHING they won’t do to keep you. Look at all this energy going out towards these men who don’t appreciate you! I’m 39 and have had enough on the one-sided relationships. I want someone to want me as much as I want them. Men are attracted to vibrant, happy, independent women who don’t them to feel good about themselves. If you aren’t happy, he can’t make you happy, but YOU can make yourself happy. It’s hard to let go, but I promise you this, if you do the right man will show up and you’ll be so glad you’re no longer with what’s-his-name!! Empower yourself!! Even the uncomfortable feelings remind us that we’re alive!! We don’t “need” anyone. We choose who we “want” in our life. Accept and love yourself so you can allow someone else to love you the way you deserve to be loved :)

  311. Oceanangel111 Says:

    I just ended something that I didn’t want to end but to put it simple, he couldn’t meet me half way. If a guy wants you, there is NOTHING they won’t do to keep you. Look at all this energy going out towards these men who don’t appreciate you! I’m 39 and have had enough on the one-sided relationships. I want someone to want me as much as I want them. Men are attracted to vibrant, happy, independent women who don’t them to feel good about themselves. If you aren’t happy, he can’t make you happy, but YOU can make yourself happy. It’s hard to let go, but I promise you this, if you do the right man will show up and you’ll be so glad you’re no longer with what’s-his-name!! Empower yourself!! Even the uncomfortable feelings remind us that we’re alive!! We don’t “need” anyone. We choose who we “want” in our life. Accept and love yourself so you can allow someone else to love you the way you deserve to be loved :)

  312. Oceanangel1001 Says:

    I just ended something that I didn\\\’t want to end but to put it simple, he couldn\\\’t meet me half way. If a guy wants you, there is NOTHING they won\\\’t do to keep you. Look at all this energy going out towards these men who don\\\’t appreciate you! I\\\’m 39 and have had enough on the one-sided relationships. I want someone to want me as much as I want them. Men are attracted to vibrant, happy, independent women who don\\\’t them to feel good about themselves. If you aren\\\’t happy, he can\\\’t make you happy, but YOU can make yourself happy. It\\\’s hard to let go, but I promise you this, if you do the right man will show up and you\\\’ll be so glad you\\\’re no longer with what\\\’s-his-name!! Empower yourself!! Even the uncomfortable feelings remind us that we\\\’re alive!! We don\\\’t \\\”need\\\” anyone. We choose who we \\\”want\\\” in our life. Accept and love yourself so you can allow someone else to love you the way you deserve to be loved :)

  313. Oceanangel1001 Says:

    I just ended something that I didn\\\\\\\’t want to end but to put it simple, he couldn\\\\\\\’t meet me half way. If a guy wants you, there is NOTHING they won\\\\\\\’t do to keep you. Look at all this energy going out towards these men who don\\\\\\\’t appreciate you! I\\\\\\\’m 39 and have had enough on the one-sided relationships. I want someone to want me as much as I want them. Men are attracted to vibrant, happy, independent women who don\\\\\\\’t them to feel good about themselves. If you aren\\\\\\\’t happy, he can\\\\\\\’t make you happy, but YOU can make yourself happy. It\\\\\\\’s hard to let go, but I promise you this, if you do the right man will show up and you\\\\\\\’ll be so glad you\\\\\\\’re no longer with what\\\\\\\’s-his-name!! Empower yourself!! Even the uncomfortable feelings remind us that we\\\\\\\’re alive!! We don\\\\\\\’t \\\\\\\”need\\\\\\\” anyone. We choose who we \\\\\\\”want\\\\\\\” in our life. Accept and love yourself so you can allow someone else to love you the way you deserve to be loved :)

  314. Mariah. Says:

    Oh my gosh, everything but 4,5,and 6. :(

  315. Janice Marquis Says:

    Mine is alot worse th an these guys. He promised to divorce and its 5 years later and guess what! No! Still talks to the ex and she to him and they dont care about my feelings! Hes cheated. Hes broken so many promises. He breaks plans. He takes money from me for beer when hes working ft and Im not working for 6 months now. He promised to pay back and when he gets paid he gives money to his dad instead of me! He used to give me 100 for spending every pay day now Im lucky to get a free fast food certificate once a month! I should also feel lucky he cooks me a nice meal once a week but guess wh at- he wants me to buy my own beer or drinks- I dont usually always want to drink but hes an alcoholic. His sister made up stuff on me that was untrue and neither him or his dad confronted her- it was very hurtful and it was xmas eve. Im alone in this city. He is also very jealous. He is always right. If Im u pset about something Im told to be quiet that Im rambling! But if hes upset im there for him. He treats me bad when Im out of work but when I make good money im treated better. If I have a problem and ask him advise he says its not his problem! He manages to get sex when I go see him. He knows I want to marry but its 5 years and Im now 47 and there is no word of it. We were engaged when we first met for 3 months but him and his exwife broke us up and a huge fight ensured and I had to leave the city, he turned abusive on me. I think he tells his family and his work mates that I have emotional issues and gee I wonder why! He also wakes me up hitting me in the middle of the night when hes drunk with hard liquor. He sneaks money from my wallet then lies when I confront him. He has alot of female friends who seem too close and seem to kmow him too much- makes me think hes cheating. ALl our problems are blamed on me including me having to move 6 times over 5 years due to him losing our apt by not paying the rent and him turning abusive and me having to leave! When I brng it up guess what, its all me!!! Funny no other man said this about me!! His family has abused me too over the years since they know that Im alone here.

  316. matina Says:

    HI….
    I just wanted to say thank you soooo much to your God given TEMPLE freemercytemple@yahoo.com the time that you took with me and helping me to get Justine back with your gifted powers. Through all the phone calls and e-mails, you were there for me and helped me to get him back i really believe in your SPELL CASTING. The Spirit has truly blessed you with a very special gift. Never give up and always continue to follow the light as you have been and things will continue to look up for you and many blessing will fall upon your TEMPLE FREE MY MERCY . Just as you told me, Spirit always watches the actions of every person and makes determinations on their future based upon this. Well, my part with the extensive positive r easing is making me feel great again thank You i keep in contact with you, probably more that I should have. I have been blessed and I am grateful that your good wheel put you in successful path.

  317. too young to deal with a crazy controlling boyfriend Says:

    Need help! I’v been with my BF for almost 5 years now, I’m 19 years old he is 20. We have been having problems since high school, I mad some mistakes back then and he wont let me live them down! I know I hurt him but I was in high school. and now every time we argue about anything it turns into everything iv ever done wrong.
    I am pretty much a tomboy when it comes to almost everything, and it was really bad when i was in High School, but im growing up and into my own person and i want to do my hair and nails, and he doesn’t seem to understand or care he thinks i should be the same exact person he met in 10th grade!
    people grow up once and while. really? so every time i want to do my hair or my nails he gets all upset and says it is going to take to long and just complains until i don’t do it at all or until im done doing it. i never spend money on myself or anything for the house, my walls are bear and just plane white. I just don’t feel like im going anywhere with him its the same argument and fight every time i turn around.

    I walk on egg shells just to please him and when i fail to do something right or forget something its WW3, telling me that im stupid and need to use my head and pay attention to things. im 19 im going to forget to change the toilet paper roll….. does that mean im stupid?? I don’t think so!

    I think it’s just time to forget about it all and move on but he is all i know, and im so connected to his family that everyone is going to be hurt. can’t decide if he is the crazy one or if its me…..

    he hates my family, both sides and wont go to any family functions with me, but I am at every single one of him family events, mom’s and little brothers Dr. appointments. they really count on me and i think that is why this is so hard.

  318. too young to deal with a crazy controlling boyfriend Says:

    Need help! I\’v been with my BF for almost 5 years now, I\’m 19 years old he is 20. We have been having problems since high school, I mad some mistakes back then and he wont let me live them down! I know I hurt him but I was in high school. and now every time we argue about anything it turns into everything iv ever done wrong.
    I am pretty much a tomboy when it comes to almost everything, and it was really bad when i was in High School, but im growing up and into my own person and i want to do my hair and nails, and he doesn\’t seem to understand or care he thinks i should be the same exact person he met in 10th grade!
    people grow up once and while. really? so every time i want to do my hair or my nails he gets all upset and says it is going to take to long and just complains until i don\’t do it at all or until im done doing it. i never spend money on myself or anything for the house, my walls are bear and just plane white. I just don\’t feel like im going anywhere with him its the same argument and fight every time i turn around.

    I walk on egg shells just to please him and when i fail to do something right or forget something its WW3, telling me that im stupid and need to use my head and pay attention to things. im 19 im going to forget to change the toilet paper roll….. does that mean im stupid?? I don\’t think so!

    I think it\’s just time to forget about it all and move on but he is all i know, and im so connected to his family that everyone is going to be hurt. can\’t decide if he is the crazy one or if its me…..

    he hates my family, both sides and wont go to any family functions with me, but I am at every single one of him family events, mom\’s and little brothers Dr. appointments. they really count on me and i think that is why this is so hard.

  319. ROSE Says:

    I had my doubts about magic spells and I never think I would have ordered or just hire
    any spell caster randomly. why I consulted spiritual Messiah. I mean was so confuses
    about what was happening to me,it is my life i was talking about! I can’t just let any
    spiritual illness mess with my future. Long story short: spiritual Messiah did his analysis and then told me what specific spell casting that would work BEST for me. For ME and my future,he did everything and now he cast all the bad demons in my life which make me settle and happy to be human again just get this spiritual contact freemercytemple@yahoo.com and be happy like me again …

  320. alice Says:

    the freemercytemple also cast the return my love back for me and it work. i am a happy man now

  321. Kylie Says:

    I want to say that my lover left me in Febuary. For few days now I have contacted many casters and bought almost ten spells without results. My ex wouldn’t contact me, wouldn’t answer my calls and emails. But I never lost hope because I knew we were soul mates. Dr. Ogun cast the most wonderful spell for me 1 week ago and everything has changed since then. We are close to each other again and he is calling me many times everyday. Thank you Dr. Ogun, your help is very appreciated! I will keep in touch with you and any one who desire’s help should contact Dr. Ogun for help on this email address: Templeofloveandmoney@gmail.com

  322. Helpless Girlfriend Says:

    hello my boyfriend of almost 2 years and i have a problem we go to this group at my church every now and then and some of his buddies will show up and my friends are there too. He will just leave without even telling me he is going anywhere. He will send me a text once he has left. I told him it doesn’t bother me if he wants to hang out with his friends it bothers me that he doesn’t have the decency to say bye to my face. he has done this about 4 times now and he knows it upsets me. then last night he was over at my house and his friends were calling him because they wanted to hang out. i didnt hear what he said to them. i told him if you need to go hang out with them its okay. i honestly didn’t mind. He didnt say anything so I was under the assumption he was staying we hung around for about a half hour outside and we were about to go into the house when a truck pulls in the drive way he goes “there’s my ride ” and i was just left there confused as he walked off. about 5 mins later he came in the house and said goodbye to me and he didnt want me to be upset Then he left. What am I supposed to do? He always says sorry but I don’t feel like he even means it anymore because it happens so much. Am I being clingy ? I honestly just don’t want to text him for a few days because I’m hurt. I don’t want to break up with him we have a great relationship outside of this little problem. I need advice..

  323. jerica Says:

    My thanks to this Doctor Messiah, It took me a long time to think about this testimony! He helped me so much lately that I really

    wanted to express all the feelings I have since I met him. Of course, I am really happy that he reunited us. Yet, what I will remember

    from that fantastic experience is he made me live with this wonderful spell, it s that he have always been a very kind and sincere

    person. Now I consider him like a confident helper, and not only a simple spell caster. He remind me a lot of my grandmother who

    was counting me many stories about spell casting when I was young. Dr. Messiah is a rare person and I m glad that I met him for

    help. I can feel all his spiritual goodness in all the emails he wrote, from the first day until now! I ll be forever thankful. Jericca,

    Capetown contact this spell caster on freemercytemple@yahoo.com for help.

  324. ronald southafrica Says:

    \”i am giving this testimony regarding my case, my woman, my soulmate, my entire life is back. I have nothing but a huge thankful heart for what priest have done for us. I won\’t hesitate in recommending his services. A strong and kind regard to him and his family, powerful Priestoflovespell@yahoo.com (Ronald, South-Africa)

  325. Gennifer Anderso Says:

    Hi My name is Gennifer Anderson just want to share my experience with you on how i got my love back and saved my marriage, so that you can also get back your lover into your life okay.I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce… I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me cause i loved her with all my heart and didn’t want to loose her but everything just didn’t work out… she moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly cause I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and used roots and herbs… Within 7 days he called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma she had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy too and we are expecting our third child…I have introduced him to a lot of couples people and also the young once who are involve in relationship with their problems across the world. so him me and help so many of my friends help me to thank him is a great man. i want you to contact this man so that HE CAN GIVE YOU MORE advice on how to get back your boyfriend and that you can still be together Email: spritspelltemple@yahoo.com

  326. michelle Says:

    My ex-boyfriend dumped me 4 months ago after I accused him of seeing someone else and insulting him.I want him back in my life but he refuse to have any contact with me.I was so confuse and don’t know what to do,so I reach to the internet for help and I saw a testimony of how a spell caster help them to get their ex back so I contact the spell caster and explain my problem to him and he cast a spell for me and assure me of 3days that my ex will return to me and to my greatest surprise the third day my ex came knocking on my door and beg for forgiveness.I am so happy that my love is back again and not only that,we are about to get married.once again thank you ultimate spell.you are truly talented and gifted Email:ultimatespelltemple@gmail.com is the only answer.he can be of great help and I will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man ultimatespelltemple@gmail.com

  327. Catherine Says:

    glad to say i dont have any of these signs with my bf :)

  328. mialia Says:

    vudoospell@gmail.com is great.

  329. JEOM Says:

    I’d tried everything to bring back my ex, then I discovered you vudoospell@gmail.com, I just knew you were the right spellcaster for me. My ex is back here with me now. Truly I’m over the moon.
    thankyou, thankyou.

  330. noname Says:

    ur heart says leave but ur feet wont move i cant find myself to leave.

  331. tyui Says:

    AFRICA VOODOO thanks for making my wish true! I was totally devastated when Frank left me. It was like all my world vanishing into sorrow and pain. But your kind words when I first emailed you gave me hope. I felt how sincere, honest and authentic he were from his first email. I know it sounds weird but out of all the casters I contacted, he were the only one to give me that impression of being so true and caring. More than your words, it s the fantastic work you accomplished for me that I will keep in mind. He brought my lover back and he made all my wishes come true. He s now loyal, pays attention to me, he offers me flowers every Sunday, and we often go out at the cinema or at the restaurant. I will be forever thankful for turning my life from hell to heaven! if there is anyone to get your ex back to you, it is africa_voodoo@yahoo.com

  332. nelly Says:

    I want to give testimonu of how Dr Aluta brougth back my divorce husband back to me,were married for 9 years then we break up, due to the fact that he never love me again.
    i have many felling for this my ex because we have gotten 2 kids together and i will want us to come back again. but all way i tried for us to come back all went in vain. i was confussed and sad because i needed himbacj into my life, so i dicided to contact Dr aluta, i never believe in spell casting i just decide to make an effort and see if something can come out of it. i contacted them and they told me that they needed to cast return back of love to him, they did the spell and after 2 week my ex called that he still love me and wanted us to be together again,what suprise me most was that he was married to another woman, and after the spell casting he divorce the woman for me that same week. it was the s[ell i cast on him that brougth him back again. we later got married again and now the kids are happy that thier father is back to thier mother again, i relly thank this Dr A luta for bringing back my ex husband to me. i want you my fellow women who want back thier divorce husband to contact Dr Aluta for his return, do not lose hope you can make this great step as i did then your ex husband will come back to you. and also your ex wife too okay,
    his email address id is traditionalspellhospital@gmail.com, i want you to contact him and he will solve your problem for you and also he can do any kind of spell you want to cast.

  333. sandy Elly Says:

    My Name is Anderson..I never believed in Love Spells or Magics until I met this special spell caster when i went to Africa to Execute some business..He is really powerful..My wife divorce me with no reason for almost 4 years and i tried all i could to have her back cos i really love her so much but all my effort did not work out.. we met at our early age at the college and we both have feelings for each other and we got married happily for 5 years with no kid and she woke up one morning and she told me she’s going on a divorce..i thought it was a joke and when she came back from work she tender to me a divorce letter and she packed all her loads from my house..i ran mad and i tried all i could to have her back but all did not work out..i was lonely for almost 4 years…So when i told the spell caster what happened he said he will help me and he asked for her full name and her picture..i gave him that..At first i was skeptical but i gave it a try cos have tried so many spell casters and there is no solution…so when he finished with the readings,he got back to me that she’s with a man and that man is the reason why she left me…The spell caster said he will help me with a spell that will surely bring her back.but i never believe all this…he told me i will see a positive result within 3 days..3 days later,she called me herself and came to me apologizing and she told me she will come back to me..I cant believe this,it was like a dream cos i never believe this will work out after trying many spell casters and there is no solution..The spell caster is so powerful and after that he helped me with a pregnancy spell and my wife got pregnant a month later..we are now happy been together again and with lovely kid..This spell caster has really changed my life and i will forever thankful to him..he has helped many friends too with similar problem too and they are happy and thankful to him..This man is indeed the most powerful spell caster have ever experienced in life..Am Posting this to the Forum in case there is anyone who has similar problem and still looking for a way out..you can reach him here: vadoospell@gmail.com

  334. janet hhqs Says:

    My name is Janet . I found a great spell caster online who helped me to get back my husband who has left me for pass 3 years. we where married for 8years without a child and my friend introduce me to a real spell caster which i never believe it exist but after the meeting of this spell caster my problem where solved and now i am with my husband who left me for pass three years my life and my entire family are now happy now i have three kids with the help of this great spell caster. Thanks Dr. Vadoo of vadoospell@gmail.com if you need any spell, you can email him will be in the best position to help you. I wish you good luck and success.

  335. Mr Luis Bright Says:

    Mr Luis My name is Mr Luis Bright,i live in Mexico,and I’m happily married with a lovely wife and three children.I had a very big problem with my wife few months ago,to the extent that she even packed her things away from me and my kids for almost 5 months,and i tried all my possible best and effort to bring her back,but all to no avail.I discussed it with a very good friend of mine,and he gave me an advice concerning a spell caster,and i quote.“There’s someone who can handle your situation,he’s always ready and able to do anything related to spell casting,i will like you to contact him with his email,which is as follows.”AYELALA SHRINE”. I never believed in spell casting,but he convinced me and i had no choice than to follow his advice,because i never dreamt of loosing my lovely wife.And that’s how i contacted him with his email address,and i discussed with him and so surprisingly,he told me that I’ll get my wife back a day after.so i never believed,until when i got home,the next day,my wife called me to inform me that she was coming back…..So amazing!! That’s how i got my wife back through spell casting and our relationship was now stronger than how it was before.One of the price i was asked to pay was to tell it to people around me that problems like this,can always be solved by “AYELALA SHRINE”. So! my advice for you out there is to visit this same website,and tell him your problems too,if you are in any condition related to love issue or getting your ex back,to have a happy family.THANKS……ayelalashrine@gmail.com,

  336. AMina Says:

    My Name is Alex..I never believed in Love Spells or Magics until I met this special spell caster once when i went to Africa to Execute some business..He is really powerful.The woman i wanted to marry left me 2 weeks to our weeding ceremony and my life was upside down.she was with me for 3 years and i really love her so much..she left me for another man with no reason..when i called her she never picked up my calls and she don’t want to see me around her…so,when i told the man what happened.he helped me to do some readings,and after the readings he made me to realize that the other man has done some spells over my wife and that is the reason why she left me..he told me he will help me to cast a spell that bring her back.At first i was skeptical but i just gave it a try…In 5 days,she called me herself and came to me apologizing..I cant believe she can ever come back to me again but now i am happy she’s back and we are married now with lovely kid and we live as a happy family..Am posting this to the forum incise anyone needs the man.His email address isjaja12demonsspell@gmail.com

  337. sanchex Says:

    my testimony goes to ultimate spell temple,me and my ex breakup 4 months ago and she told me that she dont love me any more and went to be with another guy.i was still in love with her and need her back i try to get her back but all my effort was in vail until i reach out to the internet for help and i saw a testimony of a spell caster,i decided to give it a tryand i contacted him and tell him my problem.He cast a love spell for me and guarantee me of three days that my ex will come back to me and to my greatest suprise my ex come back to me and beg for forgiveness and promise never to live me again,i am so happy my ex is back to me again,thank you ultimate spell for reuniting me and my ex back together again.if you need him to help you Email ultimatespelltemple@gmail.com

  338. Jennifer Says:

    Reading this made me cry because I’ve known my relationship was over the moment I stopped asking/pleading for couple time and became angry at him for everything. I just kept making up excuses to stay, but I still knew it was over.

  339. Nikki Says:

    Greetings to every body that is reading this testimony.

    Me and my boyfriend were seriousely in love for six years and we were planning to get married but one day he came to my house and told me he was no longer interested in our relationship simply because he was dating another rich lady who promise to buy him a car and to sponsor their wedding. And i suffer heartbreak for seven months and i was not tired of loving him.so i take a bold step by contacting a spell caster who help me bring my ex boyfriend back. he is powerful and great his contact is churchofproblemsolvedchurch@yahoo.com you can also contact him for help

  340. lucy Says:

    he bring my boyfriend back

    i am mary and i want to thank Dr.rivers for bringing back my ex boyfriend, we broke up for more than 8 month and he told me that he will never want to see me in his life again. i love him so much to the extend that i could not think of deating any man again, i was confused and depress due to the love i had for him.i did everything i could do to have him come back to me but all went in vain. so i decided to contact a spell caster, i did not believe in spell casting i just want to try it may be it would work out for me. i contacted dr rivers for help,and he told me that he have to cast a love spell on him, i told him to do it. after 5 days my boyfriend called me and started to apologize for leaving me and also he told me that he still love me. i was very happy and i thank dr rivers for helping get back my ex back to my hands. his spell is the greatest of all over the world, it was the love spell he cast on my ex that make him come back to me. all you ladies who want back their ex back i want you to contact Dr.rivers for the return of your ex boyfriend and also your ex girlfriend he can also cast any kind of spell you want him to cast for you. his contact email is dr.rivershebalisthome@gmail.com just try him and their will be a solution to your case.

  341. gona Says:

    y thanks to dr.koko

    I want to let you know how absolutely happy i am right now for what a spell caster with the below address. dr.kokotemple@gmail.com has done for me! form the day a friend my mine advice me to sick his help .form the day i contacted him. job offers have started coming my way, my creativity has been re-energized and I can’t believe how many lucky coincidences have suddenly entered my life. I am the most happiest women in the whole universe now, and i never knew spells are this powerfull. Each day I look forward to what a new surprises it’s going to be my beloved spell caster are so powerfull.all thanks to dr.koko

  342. cynthia Says:

    my fiance has propose to marry me

    February 10 is the day to always remember because i cant forget, that day was the day my fiance propose to Marry me, he has been making promises to marry me,but he fulfill his promise as he said, i have no chance than to look for a good spell caster to cast a spell on him so he can marry me, then l ment a great Dr.dodogods asked me to fast for a week, i carried out his in instruction as he told me, the next week, my fiance came to me, knelt down on his knees , putting a ring on my finger, telling me he must marry me and no one can stop him, his action became crazy to me. i wonder what my marriage would have been without this address, dodogodssolution@yahoo.com.
    Posted by cynthia

  343. basse Says:

    It took me a long time to think about this testimony! prophetharry helped me so much lately that I really wanted to express all the feelings I have since he casterd my spells for me. Of course, I am really happy that he reunited us. Yet, what I will remember from this experience is that prophet have always been a very kind and sincere person. prophet is a rare person and I m glad that I got prophet to cast my spell for me and not some other Fucking scammer. I can feel all his spiritual goodness of his love spell working in and around me. I will be forever thankful to prophetharry@ymail.com. for making my husband to come home and take care of me and the children
    Danielle Bessa,UK

  344. jackie Says:

    I’m Jackie from Texas,thank to prophetharry@ymail.com his spell working on my boyfriend his now caring and promissed to marry me. i have nothing to say but tell you out there reading this testimony to make use of this man when you need help in getting back your lover. May god bless prophetharry
    Jackie,Texas

  345. jacob Says:

    I had spells cast for me before without success but when i went to prophet about my lover who has been acting strange to me, prophet harry made me know that his spell is powerful and different from all others, I never felt so taken care of before. prophetharry@ymail.com really care about his client’s. All my problems are solved now , i am happy that my lover is now fully with me, he now love me so much.
    Jacob Lowry,RSA

  346. Angeli Says:

    The spell I order for a better relationship with my boyfriend has worked wonders. Dr. Ogun really does know what he’s doing. I saw results within 3 days and it’s continuing, so I owe Dr. Ogun a lot. he’s wonderful and he cares, he contacts you back if you have any questions and more importantly HIS SPELLS WORK. thank you Dr. Ogun. I love ya, and will use you again for sure. He’s great, everyone should try him!!! Via Email: Templeofloveandmoney@gmail.com

  347. Eduardo Says:

    The problem is that people are to quick to jump into boyfriend territory.
    They want a defined, stable relationship and they want it NOW, so in order to have sex with you, the man will tell you “Yeah, sure; we’re boyfriend and girlfriend” but in reality, you’re not his girlfriend.
    I personally don’t want a girlfriend.
    I have no qualms about explaining to a girl that I don’t want anything serious with her, and that our relationship is just a casual one.
    It’s not that the girls are “easy”. It’s just what it is: We’re both attractive to one another, we have sex and we invite ourselves to drink whatever’s in the other one’s fridge when we stay over.
    That’s it.
    I don’t want her to expect anything from me, I don’t care about her feelings, I don’t care if she hasn’t left her house in two weeks, I don’t care about her family, I don’t care about her dreams, I don’t care about her frustrations.
    But most of all I draw this distinction because, honestly, the moment I decide to care about someone, I won’t cheat on them and I’ll care about them, and I’ll have those same expectations of mutual trust from them.
    But I won’t simply assume anything about the decisions someone else has made until we’ve both talked and decided what it is we want to get out of that relationship.
    Why is this so hard to do?
    Simple: The same reason serial killers can lure victims with a drink.
    Because we’re afraid.
    We’re afraid to ask where we are and say what we want, and we’re afraid of that someone else’s reactions won’t go according to our wishes.
    We’re afraid to offend others, or that they’ll think bad things if we don’t trick them.
    We feel responsible for other’s insecurities.
    Others feel we’re responsible for their insecurities.
    We feel others are responsible for our insecurities.
    Others feel responsible for our insecurities.
    A relationship is, sadly, turned into an outlet for many people’s frustrations.
    A band-aid to cover ulcer.
    It’s interesting how much people can complicate the simple act of being with someone else simply because they can’t face the despair that it generates them to think that someone they love might not love them back or the guilt of an opposite situation.

  348. Katia Says:

    “I want to tell everybody that my Love Spell works very fast. I couldn’t believe when after 6 month without seeing my boyfriend he just came back to me saying he still loves me. wiseindividualspell@gmail.com is an incredible person, try it!”.

  349. faith Says:

    Lilly, I wanted to take a minute to thank you for all of your work and effort. I requested a binding love spell and received the strengthen our relationship love spell as my free spell and within 3 days Sam was back and home with me and we are finally talking about marriage and kids! I cannot thank you enough for your spell casting services! I have already recommended two friends to you for help with their love lives!!! Those of you who need help should contact Dr. Monday via his email address: theworldpowerfulltemple@gmail.com

  350. Jenifer Says:

    Abalabatemple@gmail.com let me tell you… that you are the best! Never had I gotten any results until you worked for me. I did that love spell because my man told me he was seeing somebody else and he wanted nothing to do with me. After the spell you casted 4 days later he called me and apologized to me and told me he didn’t know why he broke up with me, but he felt like he made a mistake. He said that he is going to leave the other women alone and want to work things out with me and he loves me. I am so happy now……..Jenifer

  351. Mr Luis Bright Says:

    My name is Mr Luis Bright,i live in Mexico,and I’m happily married with a lovely wife and three children.I had a very big problem with my wife few months ago,to the extent that she even packed her things away from me and my kids for almost 5 months,and i tried all my possible best and effort to bring her back,but all to no avail.I discussed it with a very good friend of mine,and he gave me an advice concerning a spell caster,and i quote.“There’s someone who can handle your situation,he’s always ready and able to do anything related to spell casting,i will like you to contact him with his email,which is as follows.”AYELALA SHRINE”. I never believed in spell casting,but he convinced me and i had no choice than to follow his advice,because i never dreamt of loosing my lovely wife.And that’s how i contacted him with his email address,and i discussed with him and so surprisingly,he told me that I’ll get my wife back a day after.so i never believed,until when i got home,the next day,my wife called me to inform me that she was coming back…..So amazing!! That’s how i got my wife back through spell casting and our relationship was now stronger than how it was before.One of the price i was asked to pay was to tell it to people around me that problems like this,can always be solved by “AYELALA SHRINE”. So! my advice for you out there is to visit this same website,and tell him your problems too,if you are in any condition related to love issue or getting your ex back,to have a happy family.THANKS……ayelalashrine@gmail.com

  352. makily Says:

    I will love to share my testimony to all my friends because i never believe i will have my girlfriend back. When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her Facebook and she changed her Facebook status.when i went to her to her place of work she told her friends she never want to see me.I tried all i could do to have her back with me but all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to meet my aunt.I told her my problem and i all have passed through in getting her back and how she embarrass me in her place of work,he told me he is going to help me but don’t believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend left me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him,he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back home the following day and i called him when i got home,he said he is busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 3 days that is Thursday. My girlfriend called me at exactly 10:35am on Thursday and apologies for all she had done, she said she never knew what she’s doing she promised not to do that again.It was like am hallucinating when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my girlfriend called me on phone apologies. Am posting this to the forum for everybody that is interested in meeting the man for help this is his email address :alomaspelltemple@gmail.com All i have to say is THANK YOU DOCTOR

  353. Jenna Says:

    I contacted drcharlesspelltemple@gmail.com in regards of my lover. He no longer wanted to associate with me anymore. He was interested in working out his marriage, after begging and pleading with him I realized it was out of my hands, he really was leaving me. My co-worker went threw a similar situation and told me about a spell caster that helped her which is Dr. Charles. I cant say how much I’m grateful that she introduced me to Dr. Charles. After discussing with Dr. Charles, He cast a spell that has done more than what I expected. My lover not only came back to me, but has left his wife and now were are engaged, we are getting married in the next two months. I don’t know what I would have done without Dr. Charles. THANK YOU DR…… Jenna

  354. Precious Pretty Says:

    There is this great spell caster on the internet i just met through a friends description and he have just helped me to get back my lover i am so glad that i met with him he is just on the internet to help people and i am among those he have helped and i am telling you to also go and get hold of your own solution as he shall soon be living the internet he said he was sent on a mission to the internet to come and help people and to make those who are at a cross road be back to life just meet him with your problems and consider it solved Templeofloveandmoney@gmail.com

  355. victormandel Says:

    My wife and I split up over two years ago, and I have tried many different spells from almost every place locally as well as online and none of them worked. I had almost given up hope until I found this man prophetharry@ymail.com. I ordered a reunite love spell to help my ex wife forgive me for the mistakes that I made with an old girl friend. Then I purchased a marriage spell so that we could get married again. I was floored that both spells worked within 3days, i am his customer for life and I will definitely be contacting him about more spells when i need his help.
    victor Mandel

  356. miss lucy Says:

    After being in relationship with him for nine years,he broke up with me,I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex
    called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email is blackspiritualtemple@gmail.com you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything.

  357. So Confuse Says:

    Best article I’ve read so far!!!!

  358. Rosekate Says:

    I was in a relationship with john and we loved and cherished ourselves for 3 good years and every thing was going on smoothly but August 12, 2011 a day I can call a lovers day we both had misunderstanding because I answered a call from a guy that is asking me out for a date but I refused, and he told me that the relationship is over and that he is fed up with me and I begged him because I love him so much but he refused me I was so down cast and I felt the world has come to an end for me but my friend told me about a spell caster that helped her sister out in getting her relationship back, a good job and favor in any of her endeavor but at first I was scared but I have to give this man a trial because I love john very much and I am not willing to loose him to any woman, so I ordered returning my love spell from this great spell caster that make me a happy woman again to say it all my ex came back to me with much love and a caring heart…i am testifying to this great spell caster Dr sambol spell temple. if you need his help you can contact him on drsambolspelltemple@gmail.com

  359. Thomson smith Says:

    Hi My name is “Thomson smith” just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage…I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce… I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me cause i loved her with all my heart and didn’t want to loose her but everything just didn’t work out… she moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster Dr. CHECK who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly cause I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and used roots and herbs… Within 7 days she called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma she had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy too and we are expecting our third child… I have introduced him to a lot of couples with their problems across the world so great templeoflove1@gmail.com, Please help me thank him for his great work in my life..

  360. frank Says:

    My is Name frank

    i want to tell everybody about Dr Odumadu who helped me brought my girlfried back to me less than fourty-eight hours, my girlfriend broke up with me for the past three mounths, i have be begging her for the past two mounths now she still maintaince the fact that she does not love me again
    i gave up all hope because i so much belived nothing can really make her come back again, a friend of my called peter, i explained my problems with my girlfriend to him, he gave me an email adress landofsolution@gmail.com he told me to contact him Dr Odumadu a powerful spell cster i decided to give him a try to my greatest suprise my girlfriend came back to me saying she is sorry for what she has done to me, thanks very much Dr Odumadu i don’t know what to say i own you my thanks i am saying this to you that have the same problems, you can contact Dr Odumadu +2347053319835

  361. Joan Says:

    This guy and I aren’t officially dating, but for the past month we’ve been basically acting like we were, telling each other we love each other, holding hands, hugging, texting all the time, almost kissing, etc. When we first told each other we liked each other, I felt so excited about it and every time he sent me a text I would get butterflies. But lately, I just don’t feel like I love him anymore. I don’t like holding his hand or hugging him anymore, I practically have to force the words “I love you too” out of my mouth, and I find myself ignoring his texts because to be honest, I just really don’t feel like talking to him. I don’t know how to end it though, because since we’re not dating, what is there to end? Idk what I’m going to do at this point. I guess we’ll see what happens.

  362. Joan Says:

    This guy and I arentofficially dating, but for the past month we\\\’ve been basically acting like we were, telling each other we love each other, holding hands, hugging, texting all the time, almost kissing, etc. When we first told each other we liked each other, I felt so excited about it and every time he sent me a text I would get butterflies. But lately, I just don\\\’t feel like I love him anymore. I don\\\’t like holding his hand or hugging him anymore, I practically have to force the words \\\”I love you too\\\” out of my mouth, and I find myself ignoring his texts because to be honest, I just really don\\\’t feel like talking to him. I don\\\’t know how to end it though, because since we\\\’re not dating, what is there to end? Idk what I\\\’m going to do at this point. I guess we\\\’ll see what happens.

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  365. jake Says:

    I contacted Ancient benin shrine because someone that I loved the most suddenly left me. I have always been the one that has been hurt. I knew that when I first met him, he was the one I have always been looking for. For some reason he’s been holding on to the pain from a past relationship. Dr.Ancient so far has been in contact with me every day and has decided that he will take my case. He told me that me and the guy was very well matched and he will help clear his mind from all the negativity. He did all that and now we are now both happy together again. Thank you Ancient benin shrine .Thank you for choosing my case. Thank you for giving me hope again. Email ancientbeninshrine@gmail.com jake

  366. JULIANNA Says:

    HI my name JULIANA AM FROM ESPANIO i want to DR ABULU who help me with my problems. My husband and i have been married for eight years now ,we live happily as good couples until a friend of mine cast a spell on my husband. he abandoned me and his family, he didn’t even want to see me at all because he was under a spell. it was now getting to six months since my husband abandoned me and i was frustrated and don’t know what to do until i meet this great spell caster on line, I tell him my problems and he give me four days assurance that he will come back to me. He help me break the spell that was caste on my husband and to my greatest surprise the fourth day my husband came knocking on my door and beg me for forgiveness. once again thank you DR ABULU you can also contact him through his mail abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo.com

  367. adam vivian Says:

    A POWERFUL SPELL CASTER WHO WIPE A WAY MY SORROW

    Amazing?? i do not know how to thanks Dr vooka who did a spell that make my husband to come back to me.he left me for the past five years,and for the past five years i have been in pains,sorrow,bitterness and wiping.until i read a magazine about this man called Dr vookar,who help people to unite their relationship within two days.i never believe in spell or magic,so i decided to give him a try.i contacted him.he told me that he shall come back to me according to my believe.he also promise me that he shall return to me within two days,i was still doubting,if he can really do according to what he says,unfortunately on the third day he call me on phone saying that i should forget and forgive him.that he is now ready to love and cherish me,on the forth day he but a car for me to say he is very,very ,very,sorry,big thanks to Dr vooka you help me to bring back my lovely husband,any body act their,having similar problem like this,thinking on what to do,Email him @SHANKIKISPELLTEMPLE@GMAIL.COM,he will surely but a smile on your face.not only that he can help .

    1) Have promotion in anything you do
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    3)Success in business
    4)spiritual problems
    5) win court case

    Mrs Adams Vivian
    Regards

  368. THANKS DR MUKULUPAKURUMO Says:

    I wanted to thank you for helping me get my girlfriend Roxanne back. She broke up with me last month and I have been miserable ever since the day she left me. I ordered your Return My Ex-Girlfriend Love Spell and within a couple of 2days we were back together! I have to say I am very pleased how fast and effective your spells are. I am also going to order a Money Spell to help with some finances. I would like to propose to Roxie and I want to give her the ring she deserves, Dr.mukulu is like a Father to me any thing he say come true that is why you have to do any thing he ask you to do to make every thing work fine his email mukulutemple@yahoo.com is here on internet to contact him now for your problem to be solve.

  369. nickylucy2 Says:

    I just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage… I was married for 3years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that he filed for divorce… I tried my best to make him change his mind & stay with me because i love him so much and don’t want to loose him but everything just didn’t work out… he moved out of the house because it was a rented apartment and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly because I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and used roots and herbs… Within 7 days he called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma he had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy too and we are expecting our third child… I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the world and they have had good news… Just thought I should share my experience because I strongly believe someone out there need’s it… You can email him through his email address templeofpermanenthealing@gmail.com

    Nicky Lucy

  370. Michell Says:

    My testimony all thank to DR.MAGBU i was in love with a girl named Nicki i was in deeply in love with her i have tried my best to get her, on till i meant this man named Dr Magbu i explained eventing thing to him, he told me that my problem is solve but i ask him how is that possible, he told me that i should not worry again that my problem is over than he cast a spell on her to come back to me to my surprise she come back to me in 4 days after the spell has been cast. She is in love with me so i am very happy she is back to me thank you can contact him if you need your ex back EMAIL:reunitingexspell@gmail.com RE UNITING EX SPELL TEMPLE IS REALLY GREAT michell

  371. Gillian Says:

    Hello every one there. AM Gillian , I found a great spell caster on line who helped me to get back my husband who has left me for the pass 4 years. we where married for 10 years without a child and my friend introduce me to a real spell caster named Dr.oduwa, which i never believe it exist but after the meeting of this spell caster my problem where solved and now i am with my husband who left me for the pass four years my life and my entire family are now happy now i have two kids with the help of this great spell caster. thanks to doctor oduwa and i will advice anyone in need of help to contact him with this email address oduwatemple@yahoo.com

  372. Lilian Says:

    i just want to share my experience and testimony here.. i was married for 6 years to my husband and suddenly, another woman came into the picture.. he started hating me and he was so abusive..but i still loved him with all my heart and wanted him at all cost…then he filed for divorce..my whole life was turning apart and i didn’t know what to do..he moved out of the house and abandoned the kids.. so a friend told me about trying spiritual means to get my husband back and introduced me to a spell caster…so i decided to try it reluctantly..although i didn’t believe in all those things… then he did the special spell casting for me. After 2 days, my husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldn’t believe it.. anyways we are back together now and we are happy..in case you wanna contact this wonderful spell caster, his email address is ishvaratemple@yahoo.com

  373. louisa Says:

    I have been with my partner now fiancee over 3 years , when he proposed to me last year I was in shock but said yes, on that very night we was in a lovely restaurant then went into town it was getting late like 2.30am and I said lets go home now, oh no, he started an argument with me, said it was early and wanted to stay, he then got me a taxi took me home in the taxi then left me and went back out returning at 8.45am,,,, since before the engagement he did go out and leave me til early hours and has done so since…we went into town and i wanted to prove a point after numerous times of him drinking then having to go out all night returning 8ish am…so this time i didnt want to go early but he wanted to go at 2 so i said i was staying, he left me but he didnt go home he went off to another club…then 2 hours later I thought i would go there and he walked in dragged me out, i was arguing saying no leave me alone but he still dragged me up the road so i hit him to stop him dragiing me, then he literally hoisted me down the kerb and across the road I fell broke my wrist and my ankle, am still in casts, but a week later he drank again and totally left me all night and i was literally unable to move…am I mad to be with this person or is this normal…I tell him he is awful and selfih and he seems to have no remorse…I would so appreciate your opinions..I am 47 this year and he will be 41.thankyou kindly

  374. Nana hill Says:

    Thanks once again the great Dr samura I am faith krotov I want to share my testimony to every one here about what this great man did for me I was married for more than six years now know child with this, my heart has been trouble so I don’t know what to do. And I have gone from one place to another still I did not found the solution of my problem on till one day in my office when a friend of mine came for a visit so I have been hiding this for every body not to share this problem to any one so when I see the situation on ground now my husband is about getting another woman, I try my best to share this with a friend so she advise me to contact this great man for a spell cast so I was not my self of telling her my problem so I ask her what we it take me? She said it we not take much time just three days it we be done then I look up and down were we I start from now? She insist for me to try him the I ask her for his contact she gave me his number and his email address his number +2347030410643 and here is the email SAMURATELLERSPELL100@GMAIL.COM so I called him first before I email him to know if his the write person so he cast the spell and am so happy with my husband with two kids with this, the man is great and his spell casting is real thanks to my friend may God almighty bless you all from Nana hill


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