Could Adultery Ever be Forgiven
May 21, 2011 by CA Johnson
Published in Relationships
Adultery happens in many relationships? Could adultery ever be forgiven?
There are many things that can ruin a relationship. Adultery is one of the things that can ruin a relationship. Cheating is not just limited to men. In fact, women can cheat just as often as men. To throw salt in the wound, some affairs result in a love child/children. This makes the situation even worse because in addition to dealing with the adultery, you have to deal with your spouse boyfriend, or girlfriend’s love child. This is a careless act because that means they didn’t use protection. This could lead to more problems than just an unplanned pregnancy. My question to you is could adultery ever be forgiven? Could adultery ever be forgiven if a child is involved? I’ll give some examples of celebrities who cheated on their spouses. These situations have been made public so I will not single out anyone who is not within the public eye. Some you should be familiar with and some you may not be familiar with.
Cheaters
Arnold Schwarzenegger
Actor and former governor Arnold Schwarzenegger famously cheated on his wife Maria Shriver for their housekeeper. To make the affair even worse, he had a child with his mistress. The child is the same age as Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver’s child. What he did was horrible. He was very careless about this affair. He has been seen in pictures with the love child. He really did humiliate Maria Shriver with this affair.
Tiger Woods
I’m sure most of you know about pro golfer Tiger Woods and how he publicly humiliated his wife by sleeping with many women. As far as the public knows, he didn’t produce any children with these women. I wouldn’t be surprised if a child came out of the woodwork. His wife made the right decision to leave because he was with too many women for her to overlook his behavior.
Eric Benet
Singer Eric Benet cheated on his wife actress Halle Berry. He had affairs with several women while they were married. He later admitted that he was battling a sex addiction. He also admitted in a Sister2Sisterarticle that Halle Berry made him admit to being a sex addict even though he wasn’t one. How else can he explain his behavior during his marriage? He is getting married again so hopefully he will honor his vows this time.
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May 21st, 2011 at 12:48 pm
I just have one answer to this: Yes, it can be forgiven.
May 21st, 2011 at 12:50 pm
I believe that the cheater can be forgiven if there is genuine remorse and a desire to rebuild the relationship. But, both have to want to work it out and there has to be true forgiveness going on. Can’t have that ‘just wait until I get you back’ thinking going on. lol
May 21st, 2011 at 1:37 pm
Excellent topic and valid points you’ve made here. Cheating is wrong and even worse if you are married. I guess it depends on the man or woman and how much they’re willing to put up with. I believe in the saying that once a cheater always a cheater. Some people choose to forgive a cheater for the sake of their children, however, even if you do forgive the infidelity, you will always have doubts and trust issues in the back of your mind with regards to the person in question. Personally, I’ve never been married nor have I been in this situation, but I’m a very strong-minded woman and don’t have tolerance for liars nor cheaters so if my husband ever cheated on me, I would just throw his stuff out the door and file for divorce. Some people forgive infidelity thinking that the other person is going to change. You can always go to marriage counseling and try to work things out. There are cases where the marriage does end up becoming stronger well, that’s what they say. Relationships are like glass. Sometimes, it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.
May 21st, 2011 at 1:41 pm
As for Tiger Woods and the rest of them you pointed out here, they don’t deserve a second chance. They should have thought about the consequences before committing adultery. Bill Clinton also cheated on his wife when he had oral sex with Monica Lewinsky in the White House. These women need to let these men walk away and remember their worth and value.
May 21st, 2011 at 2:01 pm
never
May 21st, 2011 at 2:22 pm
I think a one off could be forgiven but not when it happens over and over again.
May 21st, 2011 at 2:43 pm
An interesting share
May 21st, 2011 at 4:36 pm
I think each case is different and the reasons for the affairs are different. With hard work, trust can be reborn if both the husband and wife really want it. I have often told my husband I could forgive him one affair but not several. Thankfully if he has never had an affair or I never found out.
May 21st, 2011 at 5:12 pm
There is nothing that you can’t forgive in this world, though practically this cannot be tolerated.
But if you have a good heart, you can’t forgive, no matter whatever problems come your way.
May 21st, 2011 at 5:43 pm
Well, I have been a cheated wife and might I add never driven a wedge into anyone’s marriage till date but that said I forgave my husband quite a few times as they were all hearsay. Photographic proof and personal confessions did bring about a change in me but I stuck on till the behaviour went violent and his own guilt made him walk out on his marriage last October.
Marriage is about compromise and adjusting accordingly but if there is a huge price to pay including death and disease, I would choose to walk out and I just did in my own life…
May 21st, 2011 at 5:46 pm
Being a cheated wife/husband doesn’t give you the right to cheat on someone else or with someone else… Its more the respect for oneself not just the person on the other side that makes the world of marriage go round…. Its the Embodiment of Love with mutual respect for the other and is worth more than that wedding band ring you wear.
May 21st, 2011 at 6:32 pm
I left a fella I was supposed to marry because he more or less said it was his right to cheat on me if he wanted to.Plus ,I know for a fact that he was romancing other ladies online as well.Went as far as to say a wedding ring would not stop him from cheating so yes I ran and never looked back.In some cases if the cheater is sorry and proves he can regain your trust a second chance maybe in order.But some you stated doesnt
seem remorseful and will live life as they pretty much have before.Its the wemon or men they cheated on that could pay
for their cheating partners moments of pleasure.It has even hit home for me, my former companion kissed and fondled a friend of mine some years back.We arent together as a couple because of that and other unknown factors.But we have to get along for the sake of our mutual job and beautiful granddaughters.B ut do I trust him alone with any of my younger female friends anymore?Not as far as I could pick him up and throw him and yes..keeps my female friends way out of his reach.One may learn to forgive and build up a shattered trust
as my niece did with her long term husband.but she herself will tell you she never forgot and it slightly affects how she now thinks.
May 21st, 2011 at 9:06 pm
Personally, I can forgive, but won’t be able to forget. Marriage is a sacred union, and if the vow is broken, mending will take time!
May 21st, 2011 at 10:37 pm
you may be able to forgive.. but, as others said.. you can NEVER forget.
I dont even think forgiving is really possible
May 21st, 2011 at 11:35 pm
Marriage is sacred and forgiving that betrayal would be extremely difficult. Once trust is shattered it is next to impossible to rebuild.
Sometimes the infidelity is not another woman but an addiction…
May 22nd, 2011 at 12:40 pm
I also believed that they can be forgiven provided that they feel deeply regret and promise not to repeat this ill-manner act again!
May 22nd, 2011 at 7:55 pm
I personally believe that they will repeat the act. They believe that they are so clever and because you are not a drama queen, but keep your cool; they believe they can pull the wool over your eyes, so to speak.
Monica on Digg.
May 23rd, 2011 at 9:04 pm
a very well researched and interesting article.
May 25th, 2011 at 6:08 am
Cheating is an inherent human nature that is common more among men than women, although this is not to say women are not impulsive cheaters! Truth is, a man will always cheat somehow-rather than kill your life because you hubby has cheated on you-just let life move on, after all you wont stop that from happening no matter how hard you try because men are naturally wired to cheat. Women who try strenuously to put their men to order are denying themselves peace needlessly-when he comes back home to roost, he is yours period. Look at Dominique Strauss-the wife bailed him out-$1,000,000! Does anyone doubt that Mrs. Dominique Strauss was oblivious of her adulterous hubby? Take a cue from Mrs. Strauss save yourself the the hullabaloo about your cheating hubby-forgive and forget every cheating incident, it may give you some peace in life!
May 25th, 2011 at 7:39 am
I feel people forgive celebrities better than their own spouses. Arnie would be forgiven and his act forgotten just like Tiger Woods .Why it works that way I’ll never understand.
May 26th, 2011 at 10:34 am
every couple will want a perfect marriage, who want to be cheated, so it’s easy to say that cheaters cannot be forgiven because that never happen to them yet. Being cheated is very painful, and most people will never think of forgive the cheating spouse, however there are cases whereby the cheater being forgiven and the couple start all over again and live happily ever after, but need a lot of courage. If a spouse is willing to forgive the cheating spouse, he/she must not mention it anymore. Afterall, it’s between the couple, outsiders will never understand and should let the couple make the decision whether to keep the marriage or sayonara. However, I cannot tolerate those who have several mistresses, they are not even faithful to each mistress, so don’t deserved to be forgiven.
May 27th, 2011 at 11:51 pm
Very nice share and I believe that it can and should only be forgiven if you are in true love and if you have trust. Wonderful observations and keep it up
May 28th, 2011 at 10:43 pm
Once cheating happens, the person has to decide whether he / she can tolerate another cheating from the partner. Many marriages do not end divorce not because cheating no longer exists, but simply because of many other reasons.
May 30th, 2011 at 9:48 pm
Forgiving sometimes is the only tool to repair the broken relationship. So although it is hard, forgiving is a must.
May 31st, 2011 at 2:10 pm
Some men and women who cheat don’t feel sorry for what they did.
July 11th, 2011 at 11:40 pm
I think one of the couple won’t feel peace if they are cheating. So they have received their punishment