Thoughts on the plethora of adultery, cheating, and dishonesty in interpersonal relationships from a fairly open minded wife and mother.
And you know who you are!
I have known too many women who think it is justifiable to have sex with a man (or woman) other then their spouse.
I am not your “normal” person. My life has been extraordinary. Even with this unusual background I have held to a code. One of my few rules has always been: If in a relationship, dating all the way up the spectrum to marriage, cheating on your partner is not an option.
I would not tolerate being cheated on, and as far as I know I have not been. I will not cheat on whomever I am with. I will come to you and tell you that you and I, we are not working well, and we need to change how we are having the relationship. We see other people to breaking up, there are many ideas…. However, you will never find out I cheated on you.
There are certain crimes that are not going to be perpetrated by me. I will not cheat.
The grass seems to be greener …for some women… in another man’s pasture….
These women have had sex outside of their marriage while the husband thought everything was “fine”. One husband found out during the divorce. No papers have been signed no agreements have been reached yet the wife started wearing a ring, an engagement ring, around town. This farce of a male she has been shagging did not have the decency to wait until the papers had been signed to propose to her. She obviously has no integrity and could not wait for her children to have a secure custody agreement before she accepted.
. Another husband has no idea that his divorce was pre-empted by his wife of over 7 years screwing around with another man. This has been referred to as the “wake up call”. I swallowed my ethics on adultery and rationalized with her. I self justified her transgressions by:
- I did not know about her cheating until 3-4 months post cheating. Her divorce was in motion and she was introducing me to her newer lover. I had no idea there were other men in her life.
- I figured since she actually went through with the divorce she was being some what accountable. I shall never do that again.
A third man has no clue that his wife has been having an on going and very intense emotional relationship with her ex-boyfriend. This has never accumulated in a sex act (that we know of) yet many talks have discussed whether or not he (the ex) would be accepting of her children even though they are fathered by a man different then himself. He (the ex) is welcoming of her and the children. The current husband has no clue what his spouse, the mother of his children, has been up to for over 2 years. She has told my man repeatedly how unhappy she is.