17 Warning Signs of a Bad Boyfriend

October 7, 2010 by o7Lucy  
Published in Relationships

You know the guy you’re thinking about marrying is wrong for you if he has no friends, your parents and siblings don’t like him, and his credit history doesn’t check out.

Sometimes the best words of wisdom don’t come from academics or scientists with impressive titles and educational credentials. Sometimes the best advice comes from people who have been there and done that in the real world. Such is the case with a recent letter published in the syndicated Dear Abby advice column that listed 17 signs that your boyfriend is NOT the one you should marry.

A married woman who said her husband now wanted a divorce passed along these tips to Dear Abby for the not-yet-married. If you see these red flags, she advises you to dump the guy:

  1. If your parents or siblings have doubts about him, pay attention. Listen and check it out.
  2. If your intended has nothing good to say about his ex, beware. This is a pattern. Divorce is rarely only one person’s fault.
  3. If his children have nothing to do with him, do not believe him if he says his ex brainwashed them against him. My stepchildren have told me it was because they hated him, and they have good reasons.
  4. Look closely at his credit and job history. They are sure predictors of what your life will be like.
  5. If he’s over 30 and has no money, do not let him move in with you, and don’t marry him until he’s financially solvent. If he has any respect for you (and himself), he’ll insist on it.
  6. Be sure in your heart that you can live with him AS IS. You cannot change another person.
  7. This is a biggie: Beware if he has no friends. It is not true that they all chose to side with his ex.
  8. If your friends dislike him, pay attention. This is also true if he hates your friends.
  9. If he has more than one DUI and still drinks, run!
  10. If he is one personality at work or with others and another person alone with you, run.
  11. If he has nothing to do with his parents, investigate why. Don’t take his word for it.
  12. If he’s an expert at everything and brags a lot, understand that he will turn off a lot of people, eventually maybe even you.
  13. If he has sexual problems, go with him to a doctor before you marry him. Believe me, his problem will become your problem.
  14. If he is emotionally or verbally abusive, it will only get worse. Yelling, name-calling and glowering are classic signs of an abuser.
  15. If he is never wrong and never apologizes, everything will be “your fault” forever. And after years of hearing it, you may even start to accept the blame.
  16. If he does something wrong and says, “That wouldn’t have happened if you hadn’t (fill in the blank),” that’s another sign of an abuser.
  17. And if he’s mean to children, pets, or animals, recognize that he’s pathological, and the next victim could be you.
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One Response to “17 Warning Signs of a Bad Boyfriend”
  1. Adelnica Amor R. Izon Says:

    nice one! will keep these in mind…

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