Relationships: How to Get to The First Date
A guideline on what women see in men, and how simple mistakes made by men can make or break getting some digits.
In the world that we live in, just like for many years and centuries, men hunt women down in order to get something going. The guy is commonly looking for “one thing” while the lady looks for everything. Probably the most difficult part of relationships is the man meeting the woman.
First things first, if a woman isn’t attracted to you, don’t bother. Attraction is some unexplainable emotion that literally decides the relationships’ future. If the woman shows interest in you, you’ll get her number, and get to the phone call, and first date. You can’t make someone feel attracted to you. Every guy and girl who has flirted with a decent amount of the opposite sex knows that if the person is not attracted to you, it can’t be done, and if it does, you wind up clinging to her or becoming her “tool,” which is buying stuff for her and doing what she wants. Which brings me to my second reason.
Women love a guy who takes charge, yet gives her enough power to make it seem that she has a power role in the relationship. After all, according to Henry Chaucer “The thing women most desire is mastery in a marriage.” In plain English, women don’t want to be the second class citizen in the relationship. They want some control on where the relationship is going. However, they don’t want too much, they don’t want to have themselves making ALL the decisions, cause then, the guy becomes a tool and too clingy, its a turn off for most women. Anyhow, make some of the minor decisions, and let each other have a say in major ones, don’t get too powerful, but don’t get too obedient.
Women like a guy who makes her feel feminine. I don’t mean by showing her how many push-ups you can do or treating her like a celebrity, I mean by not seeming too clingy. They don’t want to look at you as a puppy that keeps running close to her feet while she tries to walk. They want to look at you as a man who doesn’t whine, cling, or give in easily to her demands. They want the guy who can make them laugh and make them feel special, all while not clinging too much.
Why do women date jerks? They ignore her and give her a hard time. What’s happening here?! Simply enough, that is the closest thing to a man she can get to. She doesn’t want the nice guy, because he’ll do what she wants, which sucks. I’m personally labelled as the “nice guy.” I hold the door for my girlfriend, I pick up stuff she dropped, I make her laugh, etc. Most girls, however, want the jock who makes her feel as feminine as possible by ignoring her. It is your classic scenario where the girl pushes the little boy into the mud because she likes him.