Children Suffering From a Reproach

Many children today are living under a burden or a reproach while they happen to be a victim of many of our teenagers/youth are unhappy, uncomfortable, stranded with no clue as to what do. Frustration has set in. many are in need of fatherly care or touch. They desire to be with their father, listen to father’s instructions, learn at the feet of their biological father does not permit them.

Such children are crying bitterly with no end in sight as to how this reproach can be removed.

It is not as if death has snatched their fathers away, or is in a

Far away country. Not at all some of such children are:

(i) Victims of being born out of wedlock; you can call them love children, whereby the real wife does not want them around her husband. They are seen as treats.

I was listening to a teenage girl complaining with bitter tears rolling down her cheeks on how she could not go into her father’s house. At least to be recognized as a child in that house. Each time she made an effort, it was like the level of hatred the father has for her is no the increase. To some of these unfortunate children, their mothers are in another relationship where the stepfather does not accept responsibility for them.

(ii) Some children are confronting this sort of situation as a result of broken marriage. There are stories of woman who got married. The woman makes it difficult for the children to get access to their father; such children have no where to go and no one to care for them. They live with relation who got married to man that was honest to tell her there is a child before they met. She agreed to marry this man as it is, only for her to reject the child later, I know women own the house. She will only permit whoever she wants in her house. And if you think you are stubborn, she will show you the secret of her power that will out you away from her environment. It is natural and indisputable.

There are reasons why most women will not allow the love or children from a previous marriage to stay under the same roof with them. The risk is much. It’s not safe for the following.

1. The children will undermine her authority.
2. They come to complete with their father’s wife. Some of those children could be bold as to confront their step-mother and erode her confidence.
3. They see the woman as the reason why their mot her had been rejected and so want to do whatever to make the house unsettled.
4. The mother of those children could still find her way back to the house, since the children are in there.
5. Many of our men lack self-control, and sometimes do not have the ability to address situations correctly. So the wife could decide to save her marriage from molestation as a result of her husband’s lack of firmness.

There is nothing as tragic as being in marriage and be miserable. So it is better to protect your home against anything that could cost you peace of mind. For the man the woman, they are both liable to the plight of such children in our society. I will be a different case if the man did not tell the woman about his true status before the marriage.

If , in spite of your knowing, you think you can manage things for better, it is a bold step for any woman to take. You are putting your life on the line as sacrifice to help such children. Situation foe such a decision will continue in our society as long as people make choices and decisions

But the truth is that you are free to make your choices about whatever in life but you are not free to choose the consequence of your choice. That is why there is no excuse for ignorance. The word of God says, “therefore, my people will go into exile for lack of understanding”… if you lack the understanding of the working of a system, you could serve your slave. It is better to ask question, apply the first rule of entrepreneurship which says, “know thyself” before you agree to marry or not marry a man with children. As I was thinking as to hoe to help children who are already in this situation, knowing that many of those children are wayward as a result of rejection, with low self esteem and negative mindset, things were revealed to me which I will share in my next column. I have been through it. My marriage is a living proof of what God can make of any situation if only you will allow him. God has plans for such children, they are not alone. You are a child of great destiny, your destiny must blossom. You have unbroken connection. As for the fathers, I know what you are going through; blood is stronger and more powerful than water. Keep a date with Home front. You shall be happy again.