Aging

I turned twenty-nine yesterday.  I kept getting told I didn’t look a day over eighteen.  Does this mean that when I am turn fourty everyone will think that I am still twenty-nine.  When I was younger I was afraid of aging because I thought that aging meant that the body looked forward to new potentially unsolvable problems that the body does not experience when you are younger.  I was also afraid of going through the aging process alone, and that dying would be scary for me.  I also thought that the Bible was scary.  I realized when I was no longer a child that the Book of revelation was only a frightening thing to read because I did not understand that the passages were merely metaphoric warnings of the dangers to come from the things that human beings will do to themselves if they are not willing to change their evil ways.  I have heard that with age there is a decrease of energy also.  I refuse to believe that because I woke up this morning at six-thirty feeling like I was indestructable, as if there was nothing that I could not learn or do!  I was ill yesterday, and I slept till fifty minutes after three o’ clock, but I still believe that I can be as young as I feel, so today I am probably about sixteen.  I hope that I feel this good at fifty-eight!  That would be something else!  There are health issues on both sides of my family but I refuse to let them bring me to pre-destiny. I can change the way my outcome will be if I change the way I live my life!  I have some advice that I hope will help others age gracefully.  Whether it be proven in a text book, or it be a positive philosophical view about life I hope that it will help.

1. I know that this gets said alot, but every women of every body type needs to know and embrace who she is.  I realized that we are not all the same, and that I will never look, sound, think, or act exactly like somebody else, so why should I exhaust myself being someone that I am not.  Ladies, you need to love and appreciate yourself!  Show others that you are not a walking carpet!
2. Every women is beautiful.  I may be too young to say it but I should like to think that every laugh line is a symbol of happy memories, or a time of a women’s life when she overcame an obstacle to become accomplished and esteemed.
3. As an older sister that begged my mom and God for a baby sister and got it I would like to think that gray hair is rather an earned snow white silk symbolizing everything that us kids put you through and your struggles makes you   another year wiser.
4. I think that women should be proud of every wrinkle.  I believe that a wrinkle is a representation of every hardship won, and every fair fight for the right thing that was victorious.
5. I hope all of the single ladies find love and make sure that it is love and not the first man that will say whatever you want to hear because love is beautiful, and to all of the engaged ladies may the Irish blessing carry you all the way through marraige!
6. To all the abused ladies!  You are wise, beautiful and more resourceful than you know.  Love and happiness you deserve see no age, and you should get out, get help, and get another chance at love!  Love sees no age!
7. Last but not least, for those afraid of moving on to a different kind of life tied down by your past who can’t seem to forgive yourself;  Let go of your burdens that don’t let you figure out what love is!  Never be held down by a man who tries to take away your sense of self-worth.  For every woman held down with guilt there is a man who holds blame.  I know I am only twenty-nine but I have never met a man who won’t move on because he has had to many girls that he wasn’t serious about, so dry your tears, tell yourself you are beautiful, and face the world with a confident aire about yourself!  If it truly is a new day, you can love yourself enough to start over no matter your age.
8. To all of you girls under eighteen, don’t rush it!  Love will come to you when you are both ready, and you will just know.  Being apart from him won’t break your heart.  It will make you stronger when you know that he will come come back to you on his own, because no matter how far away he goes he will know that you are the only girl for him. 
9. To all of you girls in high school who will only date someone of he is a cutie, forget that!  When you get older  and he ages you will both have to love each other for your minds and your personalities, and looks won’t matter.
10. Love yourself and age gracefully!  Beauty is always from the inside out!

I wanted to share with all who read my work that I found someone who loves all of my flaws, that wants to get serious about having a life with me!  He accepts all of my flaws and he makes sure that I never have to hear anything negative that would bring me down.  We laugh at my flaws and fix them together!  I would like like to hear about other people’s experiences or thoughts.