The Jamaican Baby Father and The One Room House!

February 22, 2011 by CRYSTAL EVANS  
Published in Family

Instead like most Jamaican young men, he is content with adding his baby to the litter without making any contributions. He is contented with sleeping with the woman and the three children on the one bed. The room is overcrowded, cramp and provides little privacy for the couple.

 

              Tamara has three children with her ex partner Garfield. Garfield decides to build Tamara one room house for her and the kids. He thinks it’s his way of showing appreciation and responsibility as a father.  He wants to get Tamara out of her maternal home and into her own house and he will gradually add other rooms to the one room as his income permits him.

         Tamara meets this new guy and gets pregnant for him. The man sleeps in the one room house along with her and her three children. They cook, watch TV and do everything in the shack. Tamara’s parents are upset that the new boyfriend does not have the pride or inclination to add another room to the house.  Additionally they thought that since his baby would be living there, it would give him an incentive to add a room for himself, the mother and the children could have the other room.

             Instead like most Jamaican young men, he is content with adding his baby to the litter without making any contributions.  He is contented with sleeping with the woman and the three children on the one bed. The room is overcrowded, cramp and provides little privacy for the couple.

           In Jamaica, men like him are called worthless men.  It’s evident that he has little intentions of committing to the woman and therefore does not feel inclined to invest his money where he sleeps. The first baby father pays the bills and provides the meals while baby daddy number two comes home, eats and drinks without concern for how those resources were accumulated.

              Tamara knows that her new baby father is not living up to father and provider ideal but she won’t question his actions because she is afraid that if she puts “too” many demands on him, he will leave her. She understands that it is difficult to find a man who is willing to stay with a woman with three children but she is missing the profound point that one of the reason her man sticks around is because she is not putting any financial pressure on him. The first baby father takes care of the bills; he gets free shelter and food.  

If she insists that he plays a more fatherly or husbandly role financially, like many young men, he will be out in a jippy!

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