Tips for Stay at Home Moms

February 27, 2008 by Brenda Nelson  
Published in Motherhood

Is it possible to be a Stay at Home Mom in today’s society? Is it possible to put your child’s needs ahead of your desires for a higher income? Some Tips for Stay at Home Parents.

Yesterday and Today

There use to be a time where the majority of mothers were “Stay at home” moms. Several years ago mothers did not even have the option of leaving the home to find work, most families only had one vehicle and were okay with that. Then the tide shifted and more were working out of the home. The children were left with strangers in a day care, or another family member would watch them.Now the drive to be more competitive has heightened the feelings many parents have that they must have a larger income and own more things.

In reality many people “FEEL” they need to have both parents working, but they could really afford to have only one work IF they were willing to make some sacrifices and cut down on expenses, and put their kids ahead of selfish desires for status symbols. A lot of parents are recognizing the need to BE a parent. In some cases it is even the father who is the “stay at home mom“.

Is it possible to be a Stay at Home Mom?

It is possible to have kids and be a stay at home mother. I myself did it for the first five years of my child’s life, while living below the poverty line, but not collecting welfare or additional support. I really cannot say I was bad off, I am sure most people had no idea are income was as low as it was. Other than the mortgage (which was low) we owed nothing in bills or debt.

My husband and I knew that the first six years of a child’s life are their most formative, the ones where a parents influence is most important. We also knew that when kids are older it is very important that the come home to a place where they are not alone. We knew that teenagers who come home to empty houses are more often the ones who get into trouble.

A twist of fate saw my first husband die when my daughter was five years old, and I went to work outside the home when she was in school. I have since remarried and my husband and I have schedules that usually allow one of us to be home when she is home.

You have to be able to decide what you can do without. For me it was cell phones and cable TV. Home cooked meals are cheaper than fast food, and growing some of your own food can save hundreds of dollars a year. When you are a stay at home mom, you save money because you do not have the day care expense. A lot of people think when they work they are making so much more money, but forget that often times half of that is going to child care.

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  1. Denice Says:

    Nice article, don’t have kids if you are not in a position to care for them!

  2. Minister Marlene Says:

    I like this. I was a stay at home Mom and still am. I want to be here for my son. Children get into so much trouble when their mothers are off working. Not all do but I knew I wanted to stay home. My Mom worked too many hours and at a young age I was molested. . I’ve made a lot of sacrifices and still do but it has all been worth it. I cut a lot of corners and give up stuff that I really don’t need to have.

    I admire the integrity of the stay and home mom.


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