The Correct Timing of the Second One

Are you thinking about a second child?  You probably already know most of the precautions from the birth of your first.  Many parents come to the belief that they may have their second within a year or two from the first.  How would the family be able to benefit if we decide to wait.  What if we don’t want to wait?  Here are some interesting facts for couples of any age.

After having your first child your body goes through a recovery process that takes no less than three months.  During this time it is important that you spend the majority of your time at your child’s side.  This creates the bond and it also provides the time for your child to familiarize itself to you. Within the first eighteen months of the child’s life you must focus most of your attention to the child.  This makes it hard to prep for the second child.  It will most likely be the best time also, because the child would not recognize any changes in your body.  Yes it is hard to believe how many children wouldn’t even recognize the change in your mid-section.  Children to the ages of three and one half to four years of age only tend to recognize body amputations only.

At the age of two in life in the absolute worst time to bring a new child home.  At this stage in life the child wishes to do is follow you around.  When you leave for work your child throws a fit.  You tend to take showers and baths with your child in hopes to get to take one.  The child will not be willing to share his/her mother with another child.  Also at this age it would be wise to distance yourself from the child as much as possible in hopes to get to shower alone, and to receive some personal time with your man.  This is the perfect time that you have to prepare for your second child.

Between the ages of three and four years old is the perfect timing to have your second child.  This is the age where your child is old enough to understand that, “At grandma’s house I can get cookies and milk.”  So they are more inclined to staying at grandma’s while you are at the hospital giving birth and recovering.  They also tend to become a caring older sibling and even though there is a little bit of an age difference it is also amusing to watch.

A thing or two to remember; it takes nine months to “pop” another one out, just because it was good timing doesn’t mean it is fertile, and finally plan ahead.  If you are looking for a July baby try sometime in October.  If it helps, get a calendar to plan ahead.  And final words from the author, good luck!