Stay at Home Moms,no Less of a Person Than a Working MOM!

October 15, 2011 by Traci Elizabeth Floyd  
Published in Motherhood

The only difference between a mom who has a job outside of the home & a stay at home mom, is the stay at home mom works pro bono!

I grew up in a house where my mom was at home every single day. She was there after school with snacks waiting on 8 kids. She chose to not work because she felt that her children needed her more than anything. She was room mother for all of us at some point in our school years, she went on field trips & helped us with homework every night. My dad was the one who went to work everyday & he worked very hard. It makes me sick when some people sit & say "well she doesn’t work so why is she so tired" or " whats she got to complain about she doesn’t have a job". Let me explain the difference in a working mom & a stay at home mom- a working mom goes out everyday & gets paid to do her job. A stay at home mom, runs around like a chicken with her head cut off & gets nothing in return. A thank you maybe, but thats it. She is a cook, clean, teacher, therapist, nurse, doctor, & anything else that her children may need 24/7. she has no vacation days, no sick days, no lunch break, & she doesn’t have the privilege of being "off the clock". She works just as hard if not harder than most who work in the outside jobs. I’m not saying that either is a bad decision. Its what ever is best for you & your family, but stop downing all of the women who can & want to stay at home & be with their kids. I have been in both pair of shoes, & let me tell you, when i finally went back to work- after only 3 months- i was more than ready! I am not mentally strong enough to deal with the stress of being at home 24/7. I think any woman who can do it & financially support her family at the same time is one hell of a lady. I could sit home every day of the week if i wanted to from a financial state of mind, but from a stressed out- no break- no quiet stance- oh no I’m perfectly happy to get up & go ot work 5 out of 7 days a week 40 hours a week. 

After 3 months of being at home with my kids 24/7, i couldn’t handle it any more. I was literally going stir crazy. I love my kids more than anything in this world, but I am not strong enough emotionally or mentally to be "on call" all the time. No matter what you are doing when they call you must go. No matter what time of day or night, where you are or how important something is, they will always find a way to interrupt what you are currently doing. So then multi tasking becomes your natural way of managing things. you take the kids with you everywhere all the time, grocery store laundry mat, doctors appointments, i do mean EVERYWHERE! your purse becomes a diaper bag & you would rather forget something you may need than your child’s favorite tote along bear, because if you somehow managed to forget her bear she would literally make the entire trip a living hell. & you now must be ready to spend an hour or better getting everything & everyone ready to go & loaded, because no sooner than you are all loaded in the car fixing to leave the driveway, you hear " i have to pee". Even though five mins before hand you asked did anyone need to potty. "no" was the answer. Then if you stop for gas, you must unload your bunch & tote them inside to wait in a 5 mile line to pay for gas & hear " i want this, i want that, well his mom got him candy, can i have a juice" for 15 mins, then you load them all back in the car, & pump gas, only to hear again " i have to pee". Usually because they want to go inside the store again & you’d rather chance them not peeing & fighting them in the store than for them to pee themselves & have to go back home anyhow. No matter what you are doing its never an easy task. A 15 mins trip to the store winds up taking 3 hours. You cant escape, the only break is if you are lucky enough for them to take naps & then you usually have a million other things that you try to get done while they are asleep. Naps are also a schedule hinder. You either have to leave the house before nap time or after nap time because other wise you are going to have some crabby, cranky, irritable children on your hands.

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One Response to “Stay at Home Moms,no Less of a Person Than a Working MOM!”
  1. Lydia Says:

    I was a stay at home mom & i hated for other women to say things about how i didn’t actually work. Thanks for this post! Great insight for women on both sides!

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