Stay at Home Mom vs.. Working Mom

June 30, 2012 by jppraline  
Published in Motherhood

I am in my senior year in college, and when people ask me what I want to do with my life I say, "Get married, have kids, and raise them the best I can." Then the response is usually similar to, " So, you just want to be a stay at home mom?"

I don’t believe that one way is better than the other, but that they are different. Being a stay at home mom has its benefits, and being a working mom has its benefits. 

I have always been a good student and a hard worker. I have been going to school full time and had at least 2 jobs at a time since I was 18. Now that I’m finishing college, the only thing that I really want to do is start a family and raise my kids. I want to make them their meals, and get to know their friends. I want to spend time doing activities with them and learn what they like to do, and I want to have the time to help them with their school work. The only problem is that being a stay at home mom is frowned upon. People don’t expect me to want to be a stay at home mom. When I tell people what I want to do I get a lot of responses ike “Hmm..” and “Huh…” I don’t get an, “Oh how cool!” or “Good for you.” 

I understand that not every mom has the option of being a stay at home mom because of money, or maybe they just don’t want to stay at home. Some people love their jobs, or love having extra money and dont’ want to stay home with their kids. There is nothing wrong with that. There also shouldn’t be anything wrong with wanting to stay home and raise your kids, but society says there is. Society says that stay at home moms just don’t want to work, and that they’re lazy. 

I have been babysitting since I was 13, and every time I look at a little kid I think, “My kids are going to be so cool.” I picture putting them to bed every night, making up funny songs to hum while we brush our teeth, and making them peanut butter and jelly sandwiches just the way they like them. I want to teach them how to read and how to ride their bikes. I want to help them be smart and independent so that they can find school fun. I want to be home every day when they get home from school to help them with their homework so they don’t get frustrated and fall behind. What’s so bad about that? What’s lazy about that?

It used to be that working moms were frowned upon, but now stay at home moms are frowned upon. My family thinks this is a phase, and that I will end up working in some big money career field. It’s not a phase though, it’s the only thing that I actually have a passion for and can see myself doing and being happy. 

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