Pregnancy at 16 or at 21 is Still Far Out There

             The better half of someone always thinks about the good things about being pregnant. No one ever thinks that there is a down side to the whole pregnancy thing. Women these days think that a baby will change every thing for the good but it’s not necessarily the case. Women who have babies when there young like 19,20,21,22 and maybe even on up to 25 have the issues that face a 16,17,or18 year old. This age rage is difficult in a woman’s life no matter what a man or older adult tries to say to you. The younger person has the guidance of mom and dad and then when the age of accountability befalls upon the female or male then the parents tend to pack on the responsibility even when that person may not be ready for it.

     A person needs to be aware of the things they are giving up when they decide to have a child at that age. Why am I saying that age 21 is the same at age 16? That’s because most women are not married, not in a committed relationship, and have no clue as to how they are going to make it through to the next year.

    Family helps you in this situation, but what would happen if they found out you were pregnant. Would it be as easy for them to step up and say we’ll do everything and anything you need us to do. We will help you get through this.  My mom did that with me when i found out I was pregnant a few months before i turned 2. i had no where to go and no place to live and about a month before I found out I was pregnant I was kicked out of my apartment and was forced to move back home. Leaving was the hardest thing I did, coming back was even harder. Things had change because my brother wasn’t living at home any more. i was terrified of going back home because my dad was there and me and my dad hadn’t got a long since my sister died and it was just not a good relationship and it still isn’t. I thought I had a family and aunts and uncles and cousins that loved me enough to help get through this but once the initial part of them finding out I was pregnant was over, they started laying blame. The thing that this family does best. The blame was all on me because I wasn’t married and supposedly that was the traditional way of the family, when every one but my parents at the time were the only ones that were not divorced. My little girl is 4 years old now and I practically have to beg one of my family members to come and help me with me. Basically I don’t ask. It usually ends up in argument because they accused me of this and accused me of that and even went as far as to accuse me of being the reason my dad went to jail and had a lot of the problems that he does now.

The thing about life is that you never know what could be tossed your way and even being married at 21 or 22 years old or even at 26 you still are not sure if the relationship will hold up because you have a child. Many women think that the baby will change things in a marriage and sometimes it does but most of the time if a marriage is already going down the drain then the baby will not help it. Moving in together won’t help it either if you are boyfriend/girlfriend and thinking that because you are pregnant he will want to live with you and be with you and not question who the father is. Life doesn’t always turn out like a fairy tale book and the women in this country at this age need to realize this because it’s important to look at the facts before you decide to take the next big step with a man. If you can have relations with a man without getting married then why get married if all it is going to do is end up in divorce? Why put your self through that? Why put your heart in the wrong place to be hurt again when you know that they will not ever love you the way you think they should? If they cheated on you, would you be able to forgive and forget? If you couldn’t answer honestly and answer yes to that question that I suggest that the idea of marriage and babies be put on hold until you can definitely say yes to that question.