Healthy Moms Raise Healthy Kids

Being happy and healthy is noticeable; and not with the act people portray as being happy, but aren’t really. Those brief smiles and hellos that are shallow and to the surface can lift our spirits up for a little while; but real happiness comes from healing the past, and being mentally stable enough to put the left foot forward, and then the right foot. Walking a straight path of stability and accomplishment in ones life pattern and goals.

Children know way more than we tend to give them credit for. They intuitively know when something is wrong even if we say all is well. They know if they are loved or not and will behave in a manner fitting for misfortune due to their feelings and environment of the circumstances. As a parent we are responsible for our own happiness and the welfare of our children. By being happy and understanding, sympathetic of ideas, needs and wants will make all the difference in that child’s life.

I Love You

If you don’t love yourself than how can you really love anyone else? You must care about yourself enough to love your own self in order to begin from square one to love someone else. Mental illness can cause distortions of feelings and ideas of what is what, or how things truly are.

If you carry wounds from a misfortunate childhood or from a bitter marriage and need those ideas and thoughts healed of the circumstances you went through than consider seeing a therapist, counselor or psychiatrist to begin on the correct path again for another try. Life is work and in order to be mentally stable; loving and truly supportive without being co-dependent we need to be mentally fit, with healthy ideas and thoughts.

If you can look in the mirror at yourself and say “I love you” and really mean it than you are on the right track of healthy emotions but if you have any mixed feelings about it or can’t stand to look at yourself than how can you be a good parent? If you have issues with yourself then whom ever is around you is just a mirror of how you really feel about yourself.

The Healthy Family

Sane with mentally and spiritually balanced parents with produce the chances of the offspring being the same way are high unless of some outside of family structure influences negative traits in the child. Being a well protective parents and showing lots of healthy love, encouragement and stability will produce children that will be more out to become leading role models in society.

To be a good influence on your child parent(s) need to be free from any of these symptoms: depression, mental illness, extreme frustration in behavior or outlandish character flaws, addictive behavior. Suffer from alcoholism, drug addiction, obsessive compulsive disorder, workaholism, rageholism, compulsive spending, or eating disorders. To be good parent(s) it is important to be mature, self sufficient, mentally stable, good self image, God is apart of the family belief structure which brings with it faith and moral stability. Happy parents and committed to marriage or the relationship.

Cooking and Nutrition

If we eat right and our children see how we are eating they will follow by example. It isn’t the do as I say thing but the actions of what you do will speak loud and clear to your children, grand children and great grandchildren. By setting an example today will make a difference with generations to come. Read labels, speak of what is healthy and what is not. Buy organic and choose to buy foods that are healthy instead of all the junk foods, soda pops that fill up kitchens. If there is a serving plate of sliced up fruits and vegetables in the frig the kids will be out to reach for it when they are hungry enough if you are doing the same. Taste buds will change and the desire for the raw natural foods and drinks will increase as the taste buds change/adjust to the right foods to desire and crave for.

Communication and Independence

Be there for your children when they need you and talk with compassion to them. Instead of the old way of doing things of talking at children; instead listen and hear them out and if they are asking for your advice than give them your opinion on the circumstances but let them be free to decide and make their own choices in areas where it wouldn’t hurt to let them be themselves and decide. Encourage independence from an early age when appropriate. Let them have some rein to stand up for themselves or to go fetch the ball in the park when its safe enough to do so. Age appropriate independents. A little here and there of letting them be their selves and decide can be very healthy and teach them to think for themselves instead of always expecting someone else to hold the answers.

Role Model

Our actions count and make all the difference in our children’s lives. They never go by what we say, but by what we actually do. If we say don’t smoke but yet we are smoking they don’t pay any mind to the words we speak, in that regard; instead it is what we are doing that counts and holds weight. They are not stupid and often times will follow in our footsteps for good, or for bad.

Activities

If we enjoy sports or working out the chances are high that they will value those activities as well. If we aren’t active than they probably won’t appreciate, or learn to enjoy being physically involved in recreational activities. If we set boundaries for our own behavior and stick with constructive activities; the influence of our actions alone will teach the children proper behavior and will teach them with making their own future decisions in choices, and setting up boundaries and limitation. To teach them to stay away from negative influences by our own actions in what we decide to do with our free time.

Decisions

We all have choices and if we decide for reckless behavior in decisions, our children learn the misfortune of that behavior, but choosing to think out plans; and set goals, teaches responsibilities that can last a lifetime for setting good examples.