An Impossible Situation

November 8, 2011 by JoanneHoyles  
Published in Motherhood

When working hard your whole life doesn’t pay off.

Here’s the situation. I am a University educated mother of two about to turn 30 and facing unemployment for the first time since I started working at the ripe old age of 14. I attended school regularly, never got into trouble, went to college and was awarded 5 A Levels, went to University and was awarded a degree in Modern Languages and Linguistics and the whole time I have supported myself by working as many hours as possible to allow me to do this. And then I decided to do what every woman on this planet was created to do – I had children. And that is when my hard work and dedication to getting a good education became worthless. 

You see, I recently made the extremely difficult decision to quit my job. A job I was good at. A job that I loved. A job that, despite it’s good pay was leaving me unable to pay the extortionate childcare fees. I was actually working for a loss month on month and that didn’t make sense to me anymore. So my options were either carry on working and paying out all of my salary (plus an extra couple of hundred pounds) for someone to look after my children OR quit my job and be a stay at home mother. Now seeing as me going out to work every day was leaving me short on cash I really only had one choice. 

Don’t get me wrong, I adore my children and am really enjoying being a full time mummy but I can’t help but feel a little disappointed that it has come to this. All my life I was told ‘pay attention at school! Get a good education! Get a good job!’ well I did all that. And now I’m almost 30, unemployed and skint. Makes me wonder why I bothered to do all of that when I could have just left school, signed on and saved myself the trouble of wasting 16 years working. 

Maybe one day I’ll get to use my qualifications and actually make a living. Maybe one day mothers will get more support when deciding to go out and work and contribute to society. But then again….

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One Response to “An Impossible Situation”
  1. Wendy love Says:

    Let’s hope that one day joannes experience will be apart of a minority instead of the majority. And to you Joanne don’t let the trials life sends you distract you from what you have achieved. Not only are you a mother I believe you are blessed with an education in languages, which many british people can only dream of. Stay positive life has a funny way of changing the direction of the path we follow. Your pain is felt by many but your passion shines through.

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