A Mother’s Love and a Doula’s Helps

There is no other love, that is so tender, and unconditional, from the moment I brought this precious baby girl into this world; I knew for a fact; I could not have done it without a Doula by my side, she coached me during my pregnancy and promised she would be there for the birth and if I needed her to guide me and support me until I was sure I could nurse and handle my daughter. Guess what, she was there for it all, like a long lost friend.

A Doula comes into your life, at your request, and is willing to guide you from the beginning to the very end. She is there to support, and coach you. She will help you prepare a birth plan or a “wish list”, telling the hospital or your midwife, what you’re hoping to get out of your birthing experience. Most first time parents do not realize that they have the right to say no to an epidural, or they can ask not to be confined to a bed.

It is a proven fact that walking, standing, even squatting, will help bring the baby down faster!

The doula usually has some medical knowledge to keep you informed of what is going on, for first time parents, each step is an adventure, and they don’t know what to expect. A good doula will be able to bond with the parents as well as with the medical staff, if communications are open; everyone is on the same page.

So now you have chosen your doula, you’ve met, and now the process begins, you meet with her weekly, or monthly; you call her with any non-medical questions, your on the path of becoming friends. As friends you have to be open and honest, everyone has to feel very comfortable, working together. She will help you to learn how to focus on what is important when the time comes. Some doulas, do meditation, or guided visualization, along with soft soothing words; others use music, perhaps dancing. That is why it is very important to find a doula, early in the pregnancy, so together your able to find something that works.

Finally the time comes, and you think you need to go to the hospital, you call your doula; she tells you that she will be right over. When she arrives together you go to the hospital, it doesn’t matter that it is three in morning, this is the moment she, as well as you have been waiting for. You arrive at the hospital, your admitted, and to your dismay, your just about two centimeters, the hospital will suggest you go home and try an get some sleep. Your doula agrees that it’s a good idea and offers to spend the night. (This is why friendship and trust is so important) She stays the night, it may have been a little rough, but you both managed a few hours of sleep. At this point she will suggest a long walk, a warm bath, as the “rushes” or “contraction” get a bit stronger. She will keep watch of the time, soon it will be time to get back to the hospital; at the hospital your five centimeters and they’re ready to admit you.