Mommy Monsters

I have come across something that I just can’t grasp my mind around.  For the past three years I have sent my daughter to this school based in a Baptist church.  This should be one of the best most positive, emotionally uplifting places for a youngster to be.  It is for the most part great for her but the parents are far beyond this description.  On the first day of school I scanned the parents, thought this one looked very down to earth, that must be a stay at home dad, this one is very talkative, she has really nice hair, oh I wish I looked like that one.  I thought this was going to be a great year everyone seemed nice and easy going. 

This is just my type of people, the no work no strings attached kind of friends.  Boy, I couldn’t have been more wrong.  The second day the questions began.  How old are you?  What is the age difference between your two kids?  Well having dealt with this age thing before I now lie about my age and say I am 32 despite being younger.  I had no idea the judgment that would be brought for my kids being not even a year apart.  Actually their seven days shy of being a year apart.  Well the mother that I thought boy I wish I looked like ended up being the gossip and not the one I wanted to look like anymore.  She followed my answers with “Boy I wasn’t even getting any that fast after mine for that matter even now”.  I was just left speechless not thinking anybody would have an answer like that.  Well I was all the talk the next day.  “Can you believe her kids aren’t even a year apart?  I thought I was bad waiting a year in between kids.  Can you just imagine having two in diapers?  What were they thinking?”   She dragged everyone of those parents to exclude me.  And what is worse she would not let her child play with mine. 

Okay punish me if you feel that my life, the one you don’t have to live, is punishable but don’t treat my child as the enemy.  So she started making play dates, then lunch dates, then trips to the mall all in front of me but never asking me to join.  She would go to the extent of saying “Invite whoever you WANT to come.” And then smile in my direction.  At first I thought it was all in my head.  And I was thinking that was true because I then got invited to go to lunch.  At first I was reluctant to say yes and I should have listened to my gut but I thought my youngster would have a great time and maybe I have been thinking all wrong about these moms.  Nope, I only wished that is how it happened.  They only wanted to get more info from me to gossip about.  “How long have you been married?  Your first one is how old?

  I see and how much older is your husband than you?  It must be nice not to have to worry about anything at your age.”  Then the next school day my answers were rippling back to me as I walked down the hallway.  I keep acting like it doesn’t bother me one bit.  You know the lesson that you try and teach your kids when they are being bullied.  Just ignore them and then they will see it doesn’t bother you and they will stop.  Well I got to say it is REALLY hard not to respond to them.  Now when I look at this mother I know longer envy her looks, I see that she has a limp and walks pigeon toed.  She has a lazy eye and a really bad attitude with jealousy that will be the death of her.  I come to realize that these mothers are jealous of my life.  I have a wonderful husband and beautiful kids and no worries.  And evidently I get it a lot!  What more could a women want.  So to all those Mommy Monsters out there, start making your life happy instead of putting your energy into envying someone else’s life and trying to make them miserable.   Stop thinking about a life you wish you were living and live the life you are!  To all the envied mommies keep smiling and your head held high for you are not alone!