When The Mistress is Pregnant But You are Still Trying
Pregnancy is an out of this world event that we may not have much control over. Matters are however complicated when the legal wife tries in vain to get a child but the mistress conceives!
You may call her a mistress, the other woman, a witch or whatever monstrous name that may spring to mind but her pregnancy will surely complicate life for you especially if you are still trying to have a child of your own. The idea of the other woman being pregnant before you is agonizing to say the least. Children are known to complicate relationships. Your hubby might have wanted some breathing space, dated your friend, hit the bed sheets after a bottle or two and now that woman is pregnant. To make matters worse, you may have forgiven him but now an innocent child is involved.
What can you do in such circumstances? Most women fear going ballistic because they want to protect their otherwise perfect marriage from prying eyes and nosy neighbors and will therefore suffer in silence. Some will go after the other woman and try to wrench the growing fetus. Some will walk away and never be heard from again, while others will simply take the nearest substance that will quickly send them to hell.
You badly need a child, but providence has not yet been kind to you for the human cycle works in less predictable ways compared to that of other animals. It’s not your fault when conception doesn’t happen at the right time and frustration pushes you to the wall. A husband who leaves you for another woman just because you couldn’t get that child in his appointed time is not worth the title and neither should a marriage be about children, children and more children.
Do not think of what to do when you discover that his mistress is pregnant; rather work on your happiness and his inside the marriage. When things do not go according to plan, it helps to seek the help of a professional counselor rather than setting off on a revenge mission. Apportioning blame and calling each other names or going for the other woman’s jugular will not solve the problem and neither will it ensure that you keep your husband.
Many factors may be to blame for this unfortunate incident but when it happens, the least you can do is try to force the fetus out of her womb. Leave the decision to her and seek an alternative solution. Last but not least, it helps when you cry for a while, dry your tears and find something else that will absorb your depression for when you are depressed, chances of getting a child of your own may even be slimmer.
Forgive me for asking this though. I love children yes, I adore them and find their purity and innocence admirable, but should they mean everything in the world when the ability to get them or not is out of our hands?