What Makes a Cheater?

September 19, 2012 by Jswana  
Published in Marriage

A good question………..


The best approach to this answer to me, is to find it within myself and to ask what anyone else finds within their hearts on the subject of cheating.  It seems to be as old as water, this infidelity thing.  A man puts on his best cologne and attire to go out with “buddies” only to go to the NoTell Motel to meet another woman.  A lady perks up and calls to tell her husband that she will be at Mandatory Meeting, only to find herself on the other side of town at another guy’s apartment for a romp

The amazing part is that these people can present a very united front, so to speak and for all practical purposes, they seem to love one another.  So what is the real deal here?

If you are in love with someone, that feeling is special and quite indescribable.  That’s why people who are truly in love don’t have to announce it up and down the streets but would rather show it in dedication, purpose, happiness, and contentment.  That final word, contentment.  When we are content at home, by the fire, snug in our beds, enjoying dinner, any creature comfort in the world, we don’t feel the need to stray.  Still there are people who can have all of this and still not be content. 

Cheating is a human flaw.  It’s an inability to commit, to be intimate, to betray, to fool another, to get a rush from a forbidden act. The Cheater always feels that they are missing something by not going outside of a relationship because there is no real contentment in their heart.  And they will repeat the act over and over because something inside cannot be fulfilled on a normal, spiritual level.

Cheaters obviously do not understand intimacy which is the whole of it all.  Intimacy is not sex, but it is the mental desire to share in anything to understand everything just by a look in each other’s eyes.  Cheater’s don’t have that ability.  It’s easy to draw these people out on Television shows and make them look as stupid as they are, but it’s more than stupidity that drives them.  It’s something that needs to be worked out with a Professional.

If you are blessed enough to be with that person who has fulfilled your dreams, has complemented you, why would you go out and find another?  The truth is that most people do not, but many people do.  Those are the ones you should be concerned with.  I asked a cheating man once why he did such things to his lady and he said with the most bewildered look “I just don’t know.  But I do love her”.  Of course he had issues.  You cannot have all that it takes to be loyal if you have to Cheat.  It’s on you to let go of whatever it is that binds you to infidelity! Peace. :)

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15 Responses to “What Makes a Cheater?”
  1. gaby7 Says:

    Cheating is the original human folly! We cheat in thoughts and, deeds. Can’t agree with you more when you say cheating is as old as water LOL!

  2. Wrath Warbone Says:

    Well, I have never been married so I have not cheated, of course, but I think it is fun to think about, but I doubt that I would do it. It is not safe. It could bring a social disease, especially now days and it seems to me that is the main reason fidelity is demanded by the major religions. I certainly would not want to give the love of my life AIDS, for example. What a humiliation that would be.

  3. Tiki33 Says:

    Cheaters or cheating is a flaw that many wish they never had. This is why it is very important for couples to communicate their wants and needs. If it’s broken go to someone who can assist with fixing it or let it go.

  4. Tiki33 Says:

    Cheaters or cheating is a flaw that many wish they never had. This is why it is very important for couples to communicate their wants and needs. If it is broken than go to a professional who can assist with fixing it or let it go.

  5. Martin Kloess Says:

    Well written piece, thank you.

  6. herjave01 Says:

    When you are the aggrieved it is very tempting to make nasty answers to this question. :D Thank you for sharing.

  7. girishpuri Says:

    An insightful and thought provoking article,

  8. Lynn Hollis Says:

    Very interesting article on this age-old topic. I guess there always have been and always will be cheaters.

  9. Secre22 Says:

    I think there are different reasons in each case but I know I wouldn’t stand for it in a relationship…

  10. FastWriter680 Says:

    informative very nice thanks for sharing.

  11. mishee Says:

    I’d rather be single than have a relationship with a cheater.

  12. realityspeaks Says:

    Excellent post.

  13. Kai Vicky Says:

    Now, people say that if you are not caught red-handed, then you are not cheating. How stupid! Cheating is cheating, and if you cheat, you don’t deserve to be with your partner. Many find themselves repenting after they cheat over their partners, even when their partners aren’t aware about it.

  14. Kai Vicky Says:

    Many face mental stress and repent when they have cheated on their partners, especially when their partners aren’t aware of it. Cheating is cheating, even if aren’t caught with your hands in the cookie jar.

  15. youwho Says:

    Thanks for the info.

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