What Makes a Cheater?
A good question………..
The best approach to this answer to me, is to find it within myself and to ask what anyone else finds within their hearts on the subject of cheating. It seems to be as old as water, this infidelity thing. A man puts on his best cologne and attire to go out with “buddies” only to go to the NoTell Motel to meet another woman. A lady perks up and calls to tell her husband that she will be at Mandatory Meeting, only to find herself on the other side of town at another guy’s apartment for a romp.
The amazing part is that these people can present a very united front, so to speak and for all practical purposes, they seem to love one another. So what is the real deal here?
If you are in love with someone, that feeling is special and quite indescribable. That’s why people who are truly in love don’t have to announce it up and down the streets but would rather show it in dedication, purpose, happiness, and contentment. That final word, contentment. When we are content at home, by the fire, snug in our beds, enjoying dinner, any creature comfort in the world, we don’t feel the need to stray. Still there are people who can have all of this and still not be content.
Cheating is a human flaw. It’s an inability to commit, to be intimate, to betray, to fool another, to get a rush from a forbidden act. The Cheater always feels that they are missing something by not going outside of a relationship because there is no real contentment in their heart. And they will repeat the act over and over because something inside cannot be fulfilled on a normal, spiritual level.
Cheaters obviously do not understand intimacy which is the whole of it all. Intimacy is not sex, but it is the mental desire to share in anything to understand everything just by a look in each other’s eyes. Cheater’s don’t have that ability. It’s easy to draw these people out on Television shows and make them look as stupid as they are, but it’s more than stupidity that drives them. It’s something that needs to be worked out with a Professional.
If you are blessed enough to be with that person who has fulfilled your dreams, has complemented you, why would you go out and find another? The truth is that most people do not, but many people do. Those are the ones you should be concerned with. I asked a cheating man once why he did such things to his lady and he said with the most bewildered look “I just don’t know. But I do love her”. Of course he had issues. You cannot have all that it takes to be loyal if you have to Cheat. It’s on you to let go of whatever it is that binds you to infidelity! Peace.