The Top Five Reasons Spouses Have an Affair

July 15, 2012 by woody45  
Published in Marriage

So why do people nowadays cheat on their mate? More than likely for the same reasons folks have cheated since the beginning of relationships.

It seems that you cannot go a day without hearing that a public figure caught in some type of infidelity scandal. They know that in this time of the internet, mobile phones and the twenty four hour news cycle that they are being watched constantly. For whatever reason this does not stop them in the least.

The same may be stated for unfaithful mates that are not in the spotlight. Although they may not need to worry about continuous press photographers, there are plenty of people watching what they are doing.

So why do people nowadays betray their significant other? Most likely for the exact same reasons folks have cheated since the beginning of marriage. Arguably the main reasons are:

1. The Lust

It is as basic as can be. A spouse comes across somebody that captures their fancy and then all bets are off. They want this person no matter the consequences. Once she or he scratches that particular itch the process starts yet again. It is akin to an individual addicted to alcohol that can never get enough to drink.

2. Low Self-Esteem

The spouse for whichever reason doesn’t feel good about themselves. Never mind that they are married to someone that loves them intensely and also continuously tells them just how wonderful they really are. It is still not enough. So they make the decision to carry on an extramarital relationship with the hope that it can fill the emptiness they feel yet at the same time knowing full well it will not. The troubled spouse is often consumed with remorse nonetheless it does not prevent him or her from being unfaithful.

3. Carefree

Generally this is the bunch which tells themselves that life is too short so you’ve to fulfill yourself in whatever way possible. If this manifest itself in the form of an extramarital affair so be it. No person should deny their self of enjoyment. Furthermore they do not mean any harm. That’s just the way it goes.

4. Boredom

The husband and wife has settled into a completely predictable routine so the cheating mate is searching for some adventure. Something that can break up the boredom and make him or her feel to life again. The most convenient way to do this is connect with somebody and begin an affair. They understand it’s not right yet the exhilaration of being liberated from the boredom of daily life is definitely worth the gamble.

5. Uncertainty

Your husband or wife doesn’t know what they want. One minute it’s domestic tranquility the next minute it is the overpowering desire to be not married and back to playing the field. They may love the idea of married life but are not completely prepared to put aside whatever they experienced before.

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