The Marriage Creed
Though we may not be able to stop any circumstances in a marriage, we can start by honouring the marriage vows and respect each other. Hopefully, the bond will last till the last breath of each married couples.
Getting married is a wonderful feeling. You have the opportunity of a life time to share your life with the person you love. Unfortunately, not all marriages have a happy ending. The married couples should learn to honour their marriage vows if they really want to spend their lives together till the end of their lives. There are many things that married couples could consider in keeping or restoring their relationships.
Firstly, the married couples must comfort each other. Their marriage is a hearth from whence come the peace, harmony, and warmth of soul and spirit. Hence, every husband and wife should provide a refuge and sanctuary for each other from the chill winds of the world. Secondly, warm your loved one’s body with your healing touch. If babies can die with lack of touching, so can marriages wither from lack of closeness.
Next, a husband and a wife should be a friend and a partner to each other. This is because if we regard our partner as no more than our spouse, the sparks in a relationship may die away quickly. Friendship can be a peaceful island, separate and apart, in a world of turmoil and strife. Reflect upon the tranquillity of the many future years you can share with a true friend, and beware of becoming battling enemies under the same roof.
The important rule in a marriage life is married couples must be open with each other. Do not bind yourselves in the secretness that causes suspicion and doubt. Though, it is not always easy to be transparent to our spouse because not all spouses can accept one’s spouse weaknesses. Hence, trust and reveal yourselves to each other, even as the building rose opens to reveal its fragrance and beauty.
The couples also must listen to each other. Listen not only in words, but also the non-language of tone, mood and expression. They must learn to listen to understand rather than listening to argue.
Every spouse must always bear in mind that every individual is unique, that each person is a person of flesh and blood. Therefore, entitled to his or her own choices and mistakes. Each owns himself, and has the right to equality.
In addition, a spouse must allow his or her spouse to be an individual. Never try to change over a person because it will give discomfort and pain. Accept your spouse as they are, as you would have yourself accepted.
As criticism divides, while compliments encourage confidence in spouse, it is crucial for every married couple to give each other approval. Avoid pointing out your spouse mistakes for he or she will soon discover his or her own mistakes. Besides, every couple should cherish their union. Allow no one to come between your togetherness, not your child, your friend and what more the worldly goods. However, maintain enough separateness to allow each other his or her own unique oneness. Finally, love one another, the most important essence in a marriage. Love is the river of life, the eternal source of recreating yourselves.
The discussion above is meant to be guidelines in a marriage in the hope that the sacred bond will be honoured with love and respect. We cannot stop whatever circumstances that may come but we can start by giving our best in keeping the relationship.