The Key to Surviving Your First Year of Marriage

The Key to Surviving your First Year of Marriage

“I do.” Those are the words that begin your journey as a married couple.  Marriage comes with responsibility and the ability to adapt to one another. Many couples imagine that after your vows your spouse knows everything about you.  This may not be the case. Being married comes with obstacles and challenges that can strain a marriage. By learning and applying these suggestions you’ll be able to survive your first year of marriage and many more years to come.

The first advice is to consult with each other. Often enough many couples rely on themselves to make all the decisions for their family. This could prove very frustrating when there is a lack of communication. If you have to make decisions that may affect your family, the first step is to find a time to talk about the situation or decisions. Second, listen to each other. You want to give each other the opportunity to express their opinion openly and freely. Third, we want to be adaptable so that you can accommodate the needs of your family. To have your family succeed you must have an open line of communication. This will save your family many frustrations and disappointments.

We must master the art of being tactful. You may come from different backgrounds and cultures. Perhaps you grew up with your family being openly opinionated or perhaps more reserved.  The key is not to presume that your partner wants you to speak to them in the same method in which you may be accustomed too. Learning to adjust the manner of tone and speech will help you become more comfortable with each other.

Suggestion is learning to adapt to your roles. As a newly married couple it may be very difficult to assume your roles. Some suggestions for the head of the house are not to expect instant and perfect subjection from your wife. This requires time and patience. Also, when difficulties happen husbands should “love your wife as your own body,” as stated in the Bible.  As for the wife my suggestion is to allow your husband the time to take on the role as your head. You should always show respect to your husband even if he makes clumsy mistakes. A wife should not to be too critical and demanding her first year of marriage. Allowing mistakes to be learned is a growing process. We all make mistakes but we should try to forgive and forget. We’re all imperfect.

As your first year of marriage begins have fun. Allow yourself time to adapt to one another. This takes time and you’ll learn so much in your mate as you build your foundation for your future. To have a successful marriage you must have a line of communication when making decisions as well as being tactful. This will allow you to carry your roles as husband and wife. This is one of the many keys to making your marriage succeed.