The Benefits of Marriage

Divorce is the final termination of a marriage.  Many couples however are staying together for many different reasons.  If you are in an abusive marriage or one of infidelity, by all means do what you have to do and divorce.  Unless, you are one of these couples that go to counseling and can get over it.  But what about those couples that simply just grew apart, or the wife who stay home all the years to raise children who know wants to break out of her shell and conquer the world? What if time made you a different person or your on two different pages of the book?

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There are many benefits to marriage.  They say a happy marriage makes you look younger and live longer.  Never-mind the message you have now sent to your children teaching them commitment and communication.  They say children of divorced parents are likely to divorce themselves.  For some reason, I don’t know about that one.  I think that the ‘children’ are more cautious and weary now to make a marriage work harder and to prove that it will work than go through trauma and mess that their parents did.

Divorce lawyers and marriage therapists say that for most couples, the motivation to remain married for financial reasons.  According to federal law, an ex qualifies for a share of a spouse’s Social Security payment if the marriage lasts 10 years.  Financial advisers and lawyers urge couples who are close to the ten year mark, to wait until the dependent spouse qualifies for benefits, if it a ‘friendly’ situation. In about 50% of Divorces, it  can make a financial situation worse if its bad and bad if its good.

• Some couples had to go into debt

• Some needed help financially and housing from family and friends

• Some had to sell homes, personal items, personal assets, investment

Now, lets say you divorce. Now what? Will you Remarry? Do you have Children? Will you remarry someone with Children? What if you divorce again? More Lawyers to pay, more assets to divide, more child support, alimony and never-mind the stress that you put yourself in again.  The best advice is when you marry, make sure you want to build a foundation with the person you are with that only grows taller as life goes on.