Simple Advice for Having a Happy Marriage
Every marriage can benefit from helpful advice and here is One that could do Wonders.
Wife and Mother
Before being a mom, you are a wife. So taking the time and effort to have a great marriage will be very beneficial to you and your children.
The basic idea is to follow the “Golden Rule”, you know it…Do to Others as you would like them to do to You. Or in this case, treat your husband the way you would like to be treated.
Following this rule can save so much pain and heartache, especially in very sensitive areas.
“Me Time”
One biggie is “Me Time”. Not saying that it is wrong, but would you like your family to seek their own pleasure first and set yours aside? Or would you like your family to keep an eye out in how to help, care for and bless each other?
Well, it has to start with somebody, and it might as well be you. This rule, if enforced and taught, can bring about a beautiful and rich family dynamic.
Marriage
One of the biggest areas of need would be in the marriage. After having your baby, you may feel tired, irritable, depressed, angry, emotional and so on. How would you like your husband to respond to your needs?
If you are feeling a bit weepy and need a hug, what would you want your husband to do? Would you want him to say, “What? Didn’t I just give you a hug 2 days ago? You need another one so soon? Can I just give you a pat on your shoulder or something? Oh, stop crying…ok come here, let me hug you now”.
You would probably want to turn him around and drop kick him right out of the room. Yet, is that how you respond when he is in need of “his” affection? Those same words that would be atrocious to your ears, have you used them on him?
Golden Rule
So how would the Golden Rule work in this situation? Would you want a hug more than once a week? Would you want the hug to be real and sincere? Would you want him to hug you out of obligation or frustration?
But rather, would you want him to make you feel that it is a pleasure to hug you? A treasure worth holding tight to, the only woman in the world he would ever want to wrap his arms around. Well then, treat him with the same desire and care that you would like to receive and watch it come right back around.
This is pretty foundational to any marriage but especially after the children come. Don’t let your man feel like he is of no value or desire to you. Treat him like a King and remember that a King’s wife is a Queen!
The Golden Rule is a gift that no one tires of receiving so pass it on.
More Marriage Advice
The above advice is very simplistic but quite profound. But if you feel that you need more instruction or encouragement or read about books that can help you better your marriage. You will find a little more information about the three basic types of men: Sweetie, Commando & Mover & Shaker.
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