Moneywalk 194: A Husband’s Gift That Lasts

May 19, 2013 by Randy Parlor  
Published in Marriage

Husbands love your wives like Christ loves the Church and gave His life for her.

This program will help you undo financial bondage.

Husbands have an awesome responsibility that comes with a pathway to greater prosperity. Yet, many of them are not aware that the greater blessing is reserved for husbands that love, understand, pray for, and care for their wives according to the will of God for marriage and the family unit.

Hardships, trouble, divorce, and broken family units are the by-product of a husband’s failure to love their wives like Christ loves the Church. He laid down His life for it so that we could have an abundant everlasting life filled with the positive vibe of belonging to the Father’s family and be of great use on the earth in His service to bring Him glory.

Some husbands provide what they consider to be the needs of the wife, but once done they believe they can move on to satisfying their own pleasures such as purchasing boats, season sport tickets, going to the bar with friends, etc. In most cases they have not organized their finances, budgeted their income and expenses, and set the family on a pathway to consistent good stewardship by tithing, eliminating debt, saving, and investing.

Some even pressure wives for agreement or mentally or physically bully their wives into accepting such purchases by lording it over them with comments like “God made me the head so I get to make the decisions around here” or “I don’t know why you don’t want me to have anything when you always get what you want” etc.

It may be true that the wife is afforded some leeway to purchase things she wants, but in some instances it is meant to help alleviate the husband’s guilty feelings that come from spending too much time at work, hanging out with friends too much, buying toys the family really can’t afford, and not spending enough quality time with the wife and kids.

Some of our harmful marital attitudes and actions were formed when we were kids socialized by watching interactions between our parents and our friend’s parents and some of our problems come from mimicking the worldly interactions we see all around us today. We mimic them without using biblical truth, instruction, and guidance to sift the beliefs, customs, traditions, and behaviors to know which ones we should and should not mimic.

Of course, your parents, other parents, and even some unbelievers may have been great examples in some areas that you chose not to follow. No matter the reason for your current dysfunction you can stop the flow of negativity in your marriage, see the dysfunction and lack of leadership for what it really is, and correct it to greatly enhance your marital unity and financial condition.

Here are a couple of suggestions. First, surprise your wife every now and then with a bouquet. Second, make sure you honor her birthday and special days with a gift that fits your budget. Third, always be open to her input, suggestions, and ideas that will help discipline you all to be good stewards. Fourth, reduce your monthly expense that is going out to pay for desires to a level that fits well within your budget, savings, and investment goals. The increased marital care and discipline will greatly increase the blessing on your life and annually increase your net worth.

Please pray for this ministry and email any questions. May God bless you richly as you follow His plan!!!

Malachi 2:14-15, Matthew 19:3-6, Ephesians 5:28-29, 1Peter 3:7-8

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