Is Your Mate’s Marriage Affair Really Finished for Good?

July 15, 2011 by woody45  
Published in Marriage

Unless you follow your spouse around twenty four hours a day seven days every week there is actually no way of guaranteeing they’re not cheating. What you are looking for are robust indicators that what happened is truly finished and they are serious about reconstructing the marital relationship.

It has been some time now since the news broke that your marriage partner was having a marital affair. At first you did not wish to believe it. Not one of the ordinary indications of adultery were noticeable so you just convinced yourself it’s stress and needless worry.

Except your instincts kept telling you something was very wrong. The more time that went by the more expounded it became til eventually there was no way to keep ignoring it. After checking some things out you confronted your spouse and they admitted to something that you were hoping against hope was not correct.

Since that point the two of you made a genuine effort to save the marriage relationship but you continue to have concerns about their fidelity. You still love your other half but after they crossed that line of trust it’s hard to credit that they won’t do it again or maybe worse that they are still in the middle of an extramarital affair.
Unless you follow your spouse around 24 hours a day seven days a week there’s actually no method of guaranteeing they are not unfaithful. What you are looking for are robust indicators that what occurred is actually finished and they are sincere about rebuilding the marital relationship.

Among these are :

1. Communication

Your other half can have a hard time talking about what they actually did to you but if they are making a constant strong effort than that may be a good sign. They talk about the marital relationship and why did they want to continue an affair.

Communication also means your partner listens to what you have got to say. You can repeat the same thing repeatedly again about how you’re feeling and what they put you through and your significant other understands without getting impatient or indignant.

2 . The Quality Of The Regret

Voicing sorrow after a marital affair is not a single shot deal. It could have to be said time after time again till the partner that was maltreated feels better about their significant other and future of the relationship..

It shows complete understanding of what they actually did to break the relationship and recognizes the hurt they caused to the marital partner with a promise not to do it again. If they are not willing to give this kind of apology then look out.

3 . Making It Clear

No matter how direct and candid the discussions or how powerful and humble the apology it boils down to proving it through action. The traits of adultery must come to a close. Secrecy, lying and lying thru omission are some of the traits.

If the two of you need to line up a system where you check in with one another on a consistent basis then so be it. That will strike some as overstepping the boundaries but if the marriage relationship is to be restored than openness is a vital ingredient to doing it.

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