Wives wonder why their husband has a mistress. Listen to what he’s saying sometimes and he won’t go to her. Please understand a lot of married men are not cheating just for sex.

I am not sure that he is marriage material I.E. Stay away from any male espousing similar fantasies. By the way, 5904, motherhood IS A REAL JOB, if you mean it. And yes, it is unglorious.

Unfortunately 5904 has the same opinions as my brother, who filed for a divorce, is now bancrupt and has about half a million in alimony to his ex-wife.

Hear. Hear.

P.S. I am a certified physician assistant, and I worked 10 hrs/day even after I had my first child. I put myself through college and grad school without my parents’ assistance, and now am a stay-at-home mom. Being a mom and wife (and ALL that goes with it) to my two boy toddlers and husband is by FAR more exhausting, more demanding, and more humbling (unglorious) than a day in the office — because it is NOT a 9 to 5 job/or a 8:30 to 6:30 job — it is 24 times 7 job. And did I say it is WORTH IT EVERY MINUTE (and every dime)!!!!!!!!!!!! Actually, now my husband signs up for more hours at work, as he is more exhausted coming home than staying in the office — just the truth.

Before judging your wives, guys out there, did you offer to watch the children (and mean it) so she could go to weight watchers — or are you only into dissing your wives’ countenance. Be real. Until the children go to school full-time, your wife is a nanny, maid, gardener, secretary, chauffeur,etc. — she does not have the energy or time to make herself beautifu for you. Don’t make her feel like a prostitute (making you the pimp) by making demands at the end of her busy day!! Get a life, be a DAD, and just be happy to give her roses (unreciprocated)!!!

59405: hear, hear.

(1) Get a real job. Earn real income and contribute to the family purse. Take an interest in socking away real retirement income. Use your college degree the way your husband thought you were going to do when he married you. Help pay for your kids college tuition by making the sacrifice of a full-time job that pays real money and has real benefits. Pretend jobs that pay minimum wage with no benefits and sporadic or non-existent hours do not count as a “real” job.

(2) Grow up. Stop living in a fantasy world where everything has to be done for your comfort, your approval and your satisfaction. Your husband has some real needs as well, and if you married a normal human being, this shouldn’t be hard to satisfy.

(3) Grow your hair long, if he likes it long. Where red if he thinks you look good in red. Let him know that looking good for him is important to you. Lose some weight for him if you’ve gotten too heavy. Let him know that you like looking good for him.

(4) Say “I love you” to him a lot, and mean it. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that an increase in manipulation is going to register with him as love. What he has been missing all these years might just be a sense that you think he is truly a great guy to have around. If you treat him and think of him the way you see “Family Guy”, then the lack of respect you have for him is almost sure to end up in a divorce.

(5) Increase the sexual component of your marriage. This means more sex, more imaginative sex, and more hungry sex. There are plenty of sites out there that explain largely what men want (no, anal sex is not usually one of these), and you should visit them.

(6) Don’t dwell on guilt trips against your husband if you want to keep him. The more right you are on these points might leave him no choice but divorce just to satisfy the need to get a clean slate. Give him a break, just like you would like to have a break too.

(7) Try to get back to being friendly with each other. It was there once, and most guys respond well to this approach. Stop fixating on your role as mother and protector of the kids. Stop fantasizing about your son as the perfect man and your husband as a lesser version.

Good luck.