Improving Your Relationship with Your Husband

                Husbands and wives not getting along, that is nothing new.  But sometimes it just takes a small change that can make a world of difference.  As we get older we learn that how we approach a situation can dramatically change the response that we get from our spouse.

               “Can you put the garbage out!”, “Can you rake the leaves!”, “Can you paint the house!”.  Sometimes the simple and not so simple requests that we make of our spouses can cause negative feelings, pressure and resentment without even meaning to!

                Try this:  change the word “you” to “we”.  “How can we get that garbage out?” ,”How can we manage to get those leaves raked?”, and “How do you think we can accomplish getting our house painted?” This changes the focus and the pressure and sends a new message.  We are in this together!!!!  It says: Yes I want you do get these things done, but lets face it together and how can I help make this happen. What can we do as a team?  It also says “I don’t expect you to be a machine, I understand that you are working hard too!”

               What have you got to lose!  You will be amazed at the response!  The lines of communication will flourish and your husband will be much more agreeable to getting the things done that need to be done!  In addition, this small change can lead to more changes that can turn a negative relationship back into the exciting and vibrant relationship that it once was.  Maturity is a good thing!  Enjoy!