How to Have a Serious Conversation with Your Spouse

If you need to have a seroius conversation with your husband but you can’t ever seem to get through to him, I have some tips for you.

FIrst of all Schedule a meeting. Most people don’t like have things sprung on them in the spur of the moment. Pick a time that is convenient with poth parties. Be sure that the time chosen is a time that you will both be able to concentrate.

Second, make a time limit so you each have time to get your thoughts and feelings across but not so much time that you will be exhausted and unable to make a wise decision. Make a date to talk again in a few days when you both have time to think things through.

Next, make some rules. Turn off your phones, television or any other distraction. Always stick to one subject so you both won’t feel overwhelmed.  Listen to each other without interruption and avoid calling names. If the conversation gets too heated, take time away. Meet again at a later time.

Don’t point the finger. Don’t say “you always” or “you never”  Always say “I think” or “I feel” Give him time to react to what you have said.

Don’t try to talk about more than one subject at a time. You will both feel overwhelmed. Make a list of things that you want to talk about and set a schedule of once a month or whenever is convenient for you.

I hope these tips help you find a good time and place to reason with your spouse.