How To Handle Rejection and Insecurity in a Relationship

 All human beings are emotionally driven by the need to feel secured and wanted in a relationship. Rejection threatens the very sense of security in a given relationship and victims of rejection more often than not, feel abandoned, scared and without any positive out outlook towards the future.

 No-matter your age, rejection is most likely to fuel your feeling of worthlessness to the point that you could even think you are not deserving of someone, let alone anything special. This if left unattended to in one way or another, could  affect a person’s mental health and well-being.

This situation is more poignantly felt by people who are facing divorce or children thrown out of the home by their own parents. For married couples, rejection could have been simmering in your marriage for a long while or it could have just suddenly appeared into your relationship, manifesting in the form of contempt by your partner, sexual denial and open infidelity that add more and more to your feeling of worthlessness.

Way forward

• To deal with the initial shock of rejection make use of your close network of friends and family. Get all the support you need to cope with rejection

• Keep your self liberated deliberately from negative thoughts It is this that will wear you down and affect you function as a human being. Look at the positive side of life even when you think you are in the middle of a rejection

• Give yourself some time especially while alone, to analyse what exactly has brought about this rejection

• Fight worthlessness by starting to do those things that used to add delight to your life however hard this may be!

• Avoid isolating yourself socially. People dealing with rejection need alot of support from people who care about their feelings! A good positive feeling from people including hugs can reduce the effects of a local rejection you are dealing with  at home from you spouse.

• Take advantage of anything that gives you a break from the feeling of melancholy, grief, sadness or a weepy situation that constantly takes away your joy in life.

• See a counsellor to help you out and be prayerful