How Divorced Women Can Bounce Back and Beat The Odds

May 30, 2008 by Anne Mathews  
Published in Marriage

When women divorce, the odds are stacked against them for economic survival. While divorced men are found to rebound and regain the divorce losses, women traditionally are held back by divorce and never recover from the financial devastation. How can you break out of the statistical dead-end?

How Divorced Women Can Bounce Back and Beat the Odds
When women divorce, the odds are stacked against them for economic survival. While divorced men are found to rebound and regain the divorce losses, women traditionally are held back by divorce and never recover from the financial devastation. How can you break out of the statistical dead-end?

Take advantage of therapy. This is imperative if a woman wants to regain her sense of self and ensure that she won’t make the same mistakes repeatedly. Getting short-term counseling to adjust to unmarried life, learn to guard against typical communication mistakes and grow into a fully independent person is key to future success.

Master personal finance basics. The goal here is to get a quick education on how to manage your own money, make simple investments and follow a budget that makes sense with your lifestyle, goals and family situation. You don’t need to run out a get an MBA (unless you want to!), but if you’ve never managed money before, this is the time to learn.

Make friends with other successful and divorced people. Like attracts like, so make every effort to enlarge your social circle with people who know how to be successful, are making things happen in their lives that are positive and especially divorced people that you have interests in common with. These connections will prove to be valuable and inspiring.

Steer clear of bitter friends and depressed people. There will always be those people in your life and circle of friends who bring you down about life and especially about your divorce. Every time you see them they will recount how sad it is that marriages fail and they’ll only make you feel miserable. Limit the time you spend with these people. You want to spend time with those who keep you happy and excited about your new life and all the possibilities in your future.

Education pays. Are you lacking marketable skills? Do you dream of becoming a psychologist or geologist or chemist? If you’ve never completed high school, get your GED. If you have a diploma, consider getting a university degree. You can apply for financial aid and could qualify for scholarships, grants and loans based on income and need. These monies can also include living expenses such as rent, food and childcare. Education and skills can protect you from ending up on welfare and your government knows this.

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  1. Clare Chambers Says:

    After over 20 years of being verbally and physically abused, I finally feel happy. I can laugh and realize that he had the problem not me. My counselor is GREAT in helping me through this period in my life. I’m returning to school, I paid “our” bills that he wouldn’t pay. I’m paying medical bills that “we” owed,plus medical bills that I incurred since the divorce on my own. That has given me a feeling of self-worth! Our child is adjusting. My-ex remarried. That’s not me I want to live life and enjoy life for once, just as your article stated. It’s been VERY difficult, but I have learned to be strong and keep on going. I’ll make it!


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