Do You Want a Divorce? You Can Stop It

March 16, 2013 by Janelle Coulton  
Published in Marriage

If you are not happy about your marriage ending then you need to stop the divorce proceedings as soon as possible. It does not really matter who filed for the divorce; as the decision to reconcile should be made as a couple. And who knows? Maybe both of you filed together. Some do.

If you are not happy about your marriage ending then you need to stop the divorce proceedings as soon as possible. It doesn’t really matter who filed for the divorce; as the decision to reconcile should be made as a couple. And who knows? Maybe both of you filed together. Some do.

So you need to figure out what is wrong in your marriage and fix it. Sounds easy doesn’t it? Well it’s not, but if your spouse is the one who filed and she is unhappy about the divorce too, then you will need to discuss what’s needed to solve the problems.

Many of us think if our marriage is unhappy then divorce is the next step, it’s not. Divorce is not inevitable, and it is not necessary as there is no problem that cannot be worked on. Not every issue can be fixed, and you may need to compromise, but divorce is not the answer if your marriage problems are about issues you cannot agree on. It’s your choice, fix the marriage or let the court decide your fate. You need to find out how to stop it from happening. If you filed, then you can retract your divorce in writing. However, you need to tell your spouse how you feel and commit to saving your marriage.

Before you even talk to your spouse, contact any courts or judges you must commit yourself to the process of fixing your marriage. You must be prepared to do as much as it takes to save this marriage or there is no point in going forward. If you want a decent shot at stopping this divorce then you must have the right intentions in mind. It will take more than wishful thinking, but you can save your marriage if you are committed to it.

Saving your marriage will not be as simple as saying a few magic phrases and every thing’s better. There will be hard work involved here, and it won’t be a picnic. At the end of the day, it will be all worth it especially if your hard work and that of your spouses ends up saving your marriage. Prepare yourself for the hard work ahead and keep in mind that the nasty stuff in reconciliation is much better than the trauma of divorce on your and your family.

Once you have the right mindset and you have definitely made your decision, then you will need a plan to outline how you intend to go about reconciliation with your spouse. You may not be a relationship expert or marriage counselor to know how to stop divorce, but it’s not a bad idea to seek help from a professional. Their advice can extremely useful. The next step is to contact your spouse and start the ball rolling.

Getting your spouse on board especially if he or she was the one who walked out of the marriage and filed for divorce can be difficult. But just because this is the case, does not mean it will be impossible. Picking a good time to get together and talk, if it is clear that they are set on a divorce or perhaps they have moved on with someone else, then there is likely nothing to do in terms of stopping your divorce.

Remember though, no matter what the circumstances, if you really want your spouse back and you want to save your marriage, then no matter what the circumstances of their new life is, you must tell them what you are thinking. How do you know they are not feeling the same way, until you talk to them you have no idea. Whether there’s another person in their life, it doesn’t matter. A marriage is a marriage and if there’s a chance to take it back, and save your marriage, you are not going to care about the new lover in your spouse’s life. This is just my opinion.

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