Are You Ready for Marriage?
July 2, 2009 by BrandonGates
Published in Marriage
You love your partner and you think that you are made for one another. This sounds great. But in reality it’s not that great. There are a lot of things that you should consider before you say YES. So, here are some tips that will help you figure out are you ready for marriage.
Get to Know Yourself
It is impossible to know what kind of a person you would like to spend the rest of your life with if you don’t know who you really are. It is very important for you to get to know yourself. This way you will be able to set standards for your future relationships. Not only that, you will also be able to choose the right person to get married. It’s okay to set standards and not wanting to make compromise. This way you are sure that you are getting what you really want and need in life. So, the first step in finding out weather you are really ready for marriage is to get to know yourself.
Finance
Money makes the world go ‘round. We all know that. There are millions of girls who got married because of money. That is their free choice. But if you choose to marry out of love, you should keep in mind that the money isn’t totally irrelevant. How much money do you make? How much money your partner has on his bank account? Is your partner a shopaholic? These are just some of the questions that you must answer to yourself before saying YES.
Make sure that you discuss all relevant issues concerning finance with your partner. Will you two have enough money for life? How much are you planning to spend on travelling? Who will be in charge of finance in the house? Make sure that you answer together to all important questions about money.
Future
Some people are planning to have 4 kids and some are planning to become CEO’s in multinational firms. And do you really know what your partner is planning for the future? The best way is to ask. Communication is a best way to get into your partner’s mind. Are you ready for marriage with your current partner? Yes, if your plans for the future are compatible.
Raising Children
Many people want to have children. Everyone knows that. But, people have different moral standards when it comes to raising children. Would you let your 14 year old child to have a tattoo? What does your partner think of that? You are not ready for marriage if you can’t answer clearly to yourself and to your partner on these sorts of questions.
Religion
There are some religions that are extremely strict when it comes to marriage. Is your partner willing to accept your religious beliefs? Are your religions compatible? As harsh as it may sound, some religions are not compatible.
Team
Do you feel yourself as a part of a team? You and your partner will have to become a team if you get married. If you don’t feel like you can function well in a team, you are not ready for marriage. Remember, good team players stay together.
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July 4th, 2009 at 8:56 am
I agree again!
July 20th, 2009 at 4:21 am
The free exchange of consent properly witnessed by the Church establishes the marriage bond. Sexual union consummates it – seals it, completes it, perfects it. Sexual union, then, is where the words of the wedding vows become flesh. The very “language” that God has inscribed in sexual intercourse is the language of the marriage covenant: the free commitment to a union of love that is indissoluble, faithful, and open to children.
If spouses willfully contradict any of these goods of marriage in their sexual expressions, marital intimacy becomes less than God intended it to be. In turn, spouses, rather than renewing their vows through intercourse, contradict them. In practical terms, how healthy would a marriage be if spouses were regularly unfaithful to their vows? On the other hand, how healthy would a marriage be if spouses regularly renewed their vows, expressing an ever-increasing commitment to them?
The often disputed sexual moral teachings of the Church become lucid when seen through this lens. Like all sacramental realities, if sexual union (as the consummate expression of the sacrament of marriage) is truly to communicate God’s life and love, then it must accurately symbolize it.
Sexual union that is free, total, faithful, and open to new life (i.e., sexual union that truly expresses wedding vows) symbolizes and participates in the communion of Christ and the Church. Masturbation, fornication, adultery, intentionally sterilized sex, homosexual acts, etc.– none of these accurately symbolize, and thus never bring about the love of Christ for the Church. None of these behaviors are marital. Thus, for sexual union to consummate a marriage it must be performed in a “human manner” and be “per se suitable for the generation of children.”