After The Marital Affair – a Few Things That Need to be Asked Following a Marital Affair

May 26, 2012 by woody45  
Published in Marriage

Although you have a number of problems to face there are some specific questions that take priority. Certainly you want to know the reason your spouse did what they did but at this time it takes a back seat to the following.

There will be sorry to say lots of questions you will need to figure out after discovering your spouse was cheating in you. Because of your mate’s selfish actions your whole world has been shaken to its core. Through no fault of your own you’re struggling with someone else’s mess and unfortunately there is no way of getting around it.

While you have numerous challenges to confront there are some specific questions that take priority. Certainly you want to know exactly why your spouse cheated yet at this stage that takes a back seat to the following:

Q. Should You Go On With The Relationship?

This really is the most obvious and truthfully possibly the toughest. It is very easy the moment you find out the news your mate had a marital affair. But after some amount of time passes you might not be so positive of the response. You could still have strong feelings for your mate and additionally there could be a whole lot of complications that would make ending the marriage incredibly difficult. It’s a very difficult decision to make and one that only you can make therefore go easy with yourself.

Q. Does Your Mate Want To Carry On With The Relationship?

Many victims of infidelity don’t really take into account whether or not their unfaithful mate wants to get out of the relationship unless of course they just up and announce that they had an extramarital affair and are leaving. This occurs yet so does a period of limbo when they are not exactly confident what they want to do.

Of course you could just beat them to it and just say that you are terminating the marriage however that is not likely to be super easy if you still have feelings for them. It will be tough but you may have to wait your spouse out. It does not imply you let your mate to have all the time they need to make a decision. But if you receive any kind of indication they are willing to work it out with you then patience on your part could be very advantageous.

Q. Should The Answer To Both Questions Is Yes Then What Exactly Are Each Of You Prepared To Carry out To Guarantee The Marriage Is Restored?

For the relationship to be restored there must be some rules. Not just going to some sort of counseling though that would be a significant step. But additionally some type of surveillance system needs to be established. That may be something like your mate calling you every hour or spying on them in some fashion.

Whatever is required to make sure the relationship moves in a positive direction i.e. you are able to trust you mate again. That might be quite a long time down the road so the both of you have to decide together exactly how much you’re willing to do and then see it through.

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