A Marriage Gone Wrong

November 26, 2006 by DanielleAF  
Published in Marriage

Here is how i got married young and why! What happened and how i knew it was time to get out.

A few years ago I got married to a guy I had known over 7 years. We had been friends for awhile and I had seen him go threw several girlfriends. We starting going out my senior year of high school and in a short time we went threw a lot together. My parents didn’t like and neither did my sister. We had hurricane hit our small town and was devastated from that we spent a month cleaning and repairing not just our houses but the whole city.

When he asked me to marry him a year after we had been dating I said yes, I thought I was in love with him. We planned on getting married 6 months from the time he proposed. I started to plan the wedding and during this time even after my parents gave us their blessing, I was still kicked out of the house. So I lived with my sister until I got married.

The wedding was a whirl wind, my family and his family split down the room in two sides. Mutual friend were the only people in the middle. That should have said something, right? Well I didn’t listen even though we came from two completely different worlds as far as families go, I didn’t care. I had a loving family that took care of me, fort he most part, (me being kicked out was my own fault for not listening to what I was being told) and while they had money they never showed it but made sure I knew I could also get help if I needed it.

He came from a broken home were his father abused his mother. He then lived with his mother and grandparents after their divorce. His brother stayed with his dad his senior year of high school and then moved out to lived on his own. His mom had him living in the worst part of Akron, OH. North Hill they called it. His school was across the street from a working crack house and he walked by it everyday. In school he admitted he did drugs but once he got out, he cleaned up and claimed he stopped. I remember a big change in him when he was in school but never thought anything about it.

After we got married I moved in with him, in his grandparent’s home with his mom and step-dad. That’s right, if you are counting, that is 6 people and 1 dog, 3 married couples under one roof. Then his brother called and said there was a job waiting for him in Ohio (we were living in Florida). HE made the decision while talking to me one night to move up there and take the job. I was kind of excited to be getting out of Florida. It never occurred to me to be mad at him for making that decision. Or to be mad that he was pulling me from my family and friends, and going to be surrounding me with his family and friends.

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2 Responses to “A Marriage Gone Wrong”
  1. christy Says:

    i’m a firm believer in living with the person before you get married. had u have that experience things might have been different. my advice now is to put your foot down and tell him he needs to help or your going to be in the same predicument.

  2. crystal Says:

    I AM VERY HAPPY THAT YOU MADE A SMART MOVE BECAUSE IF YOU DIDNT THE ABUSE WOULD NOT HAVE EVERY STOP.YOU ARE A STRONG WOMAN SOMETIME WEMAN PUT UP WITH THING BECAUSE OF LOVE BUT I RELIZE THAT YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOURSELF FIRST AND YOU WOULDNT PUT UP WITH THOSE THINGS FROM A MAN.I LEARNED IF A MAN TRUELY LOVES A WOMAN HE WANT DO ANYTHING TO HURT HER HE WOULD DO ANYTHING TO SHOW HIS WOMAN HOW MUCH SHE MEANS TO HIM AND TREAT HER LIKE THE QUEEN THAT SHE ARE.


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