A Few Things to be Aware of When It Comes to Surviving Marital Infidelity

March 20, 2012 by woody45  
Published in Marriage

They promise to make amends if only you will just give them one more chance.
Whether you will or will not remain to be seen but there are a few points to keep in mind.

Will your spouse’s cheating destroy the relationship? At this point only you can answer that question. Why is it up to you? Because your two timing mate is adamant that they want to stay married. They confess to cheating and have begged for your forgiveness. They promise to make amends if only you will just give them one more chance.

Whether you will or will not remain to be seen but there are a few points to keep in mind.

1. Do Not Freak Out

Thinking about the future can be unnerving. It can be particular scary if you have been married for some time and make the decision to go it alone after infidelity. Do not let fear influence whether you should stay or go. Being married for any amount of time should not mean one person becomes completely dependent on the other spouse. If you choose to go it alone so be it. Better to learn self-sufficiency than to be stuck in a relationship where you feel like you can never trust your spouse again.

2. Don’t Give In

In the event that you decide to remain in the relationship then establish some guidelines and stick to them. Your spouse may get angry over these parameters and attempt to do away with them. But the hard cold truth is they must make radical lifestyle modifications before you can even think about trusting them again.. At times there effort is going to be lacking. There may also be occasions when they do their best to manipulate the situation and talk you out of it or flat out try to take control. No matter which way it goes you have to hold your ground.

3. Be Realistic

Getting over your spouse’s infidelity is not going to happen overnight so don’t let impatience get the better of you. Certainly you would like the depressing thoughts and images would go away forever. You also want the fear that comes up every time your mate is out of sight to disappear. Eventually all of this will pass but for right now accept the fact that it is going to be there for awhile and the only thing you can do is deal with it.

4. Be Encouraging

When you observe your mate making a determined and sustained effort to rebuild the marriage and earning your trust back then by all means cheer them on. Bring back those date nights and rekindle the romance. Let them know how much you still love and care for them. This can do a world of good in making them feel better as well as trying harder. It can also boost your own morale considerably.

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