I’ll Take"Zen Master In Training" For $200…

Why is it that no matter what you try to do, whether it be raise your kids as you see fit, live a life of generosity and kindness, try to get ahead in your career (or start a new one), or even travel down the path of self-reflection and improvement, there is always someone who has to voice their disapproval in an attempt to bring you down?  I totally hate that – it’s one of my biggest pet-peeves!

Example: So I’m laying in bed last night after a busy day of launching my blog and I decide to check Facebook one last time before I fall asleep (mistake #1), only to find a snide comment under one of my posts left by a “friend”, who obviously does not approve of my new venture.  As having “thick skin” is not one of my strong points, I lay there questioning why she would do such a thing, and in a public forum no less (mistake #2).   At the same time, I did have a fan who shared my post and gave it a great review (which I am very appreciative of – THANK YOU!!), saying that she loved what I had written and was looking forward to reading more.  Despite that, though, the pissy, bitchy little comment was all I could think about.  For the next 20 minutes, I lay there in bed trying to figure out how to respond.  Do I confront her? Do I type a pissy, bitchy message back for all to see? Or do I try to forget about it and not let it bother me (almost impossible).

Tattoo Guy (in case you haven’t read the “About” page, he is my calm, cool, and collected life partner) said “Don’t worry about it, Baby – who cares what she thinks.  You’re trying to spread a message that is important to you, and probably to a lot of other women too.  And, you know, she only has the power to upset you if you give it to her.”   Excellent point…and after thinking about it, I came to the conclusion that he’s absolutely right.  (Wow, my man is a total Zen Master in training!)