Rapunzel Culture: Why Do Men Like Long Hair?
Think of the words “hot girl”. You probably picture a girl with long hair. But why?
First of all, men aren’t the only ones who tend to prefer long hair. Women can as well. I feel more like a woman, and happier with myself, when my hair is long, healthy and shiny. In high school, after I got into college and made some serious life changes, I cut my hair. And not only did I cut it, but I cut it short, to my chin, and dyed it strawberry blonde. Might I add that before, my hair was bra-strap length and dark reddish brown. It was a drastic change, which was what I was going for. But I wasn’t happy with it after a few weeks.
A girl in my class had warned me, “You will no longer feel sexy with short hair.” She had cut her hair boy-short and she lamented that although it was fun to play with, she had a hard time feeling like a real woman. But I kept telling myself it was the right choice. Because more than anything, I wanted a change. I wasn’t even thinking of looking good.
When I first came out of the hairdresser, I was thrilled. It had taken four hours to cut my hair, remove the previous dark dye, and then lighten it about four shades. The change was exhiliarating, and for the first few weeks I was thrilled with how different and mature I looked. People had a hard time recognizing me. Even my best friends had a hard time recognizing me at first. But then, after the initial shock, I realized one thing: I may have looked different, but I also looked worse. My hair was starting to resemble that of a soccer mom. As it grew an inch or two, it began looking like Carol Henderson’s in the Brady Bunch, except brassy and orange, so I tried my hardest to pin parts of it back and keep it modern. I dyed it brown again to get rid of the harsh color and was impatient in terms of waiting for it to grow back.
It took me two years to grow my hair back. Every day, I regretted my unfortunate choice of cutting my hair so short. Even though women constantly told me I looked more unique, I felt less feminine, less attractive, and less like myself. Now, one could argue that I’m just a “long hair girl”…which I am. I prefer long hair on myself and on most other people, except for some girls who pull of short hair perfectly. But in today’s society, long hair seems to be a “must”, especially in America. I have never seen a Victoria’s Secret model with short hair. Getting such a drastic haircut, to me, felt like wearing a “breast minimizing” bra without having huge knockers in the first place. I felt like I had sabotaged my own femininity. The initial thrill of being able to shake my head and feel the ends of my hair on my neck got old. I felt like a mopheaded twelve-year-old boy. It didn’t help that my good friend seriously recommended I get breast implants. Thanks.